Marriage & Cross Dressing

[Peaceful444]

Situation: The spouse has recently revealed to his wife he enjoys to cross dress.  He states there is nothing sexual about it but that it is an urge and makes him feel beautiful inside.  The wife feels strongly that it is not right- resulting in not supporting the husband.  He has moved out of the house leaving a marriage of two decades and children behind.  He continues to state it isnt a sin to cross dress and even seeked out a priest who confirmed it isnt a sin.  How can this marriage be saved when one feels strongly it is wrong and the other does not?  Can the marriage be annuled?

[cappie]

I would recommend the work of Conrad Baars and Anne Terruwe who have looked extensively at emotional and sexual maturity from a thoroughly Catholic perspective. His work is probably the answer you are looking for and to find a therapist who is sympathetic to this maturing process. I would recommend all of Baars books though in particular I suggest "Born Only Once" as an introduction then "Feeling and Healing your emotions" and "Psychic Wholeness and Healing". They also have a yahoo members group and you can read more about them on the website www.conradbaars.com

It is possible there is some underlying reason why your husband feels compelled to wear these clothes. This reason can be discovered and processed in a healthy way on the road to sexual and emotional maturity.

 

As regards annulment, it must be a preexisting condition that was not known to the spouse at the time of marriage.