Maggyie Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 I've noticed that most resources for explaining and building up purity in the Church are geared toward "young adults" aka teenagers or people in their college years. Which works great if you are called to marriage, and you marry immediately out of high school or college. However that's not the case for most people nowadays. Sure it gets them through high school without getting pregnant but that's not the point, from the Christian point of view. Plus even once you're married, you're still going to be practicing chastity. I'm trying to gather resources/material that work for grownups and don't make people say "gee thanks, but sorry, not a teenybopper." so far I have one book: The Thrill of the Chaste by 30 something Dawn Eden. Go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 Is that not the case for most people nowadays? Maybe it's just the people I know, but almost everyone I know gets married right out of college. It's weird to have someone not marry a person they were dating in college. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xTrishaxLynnx Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 Is that not the case for most people nowadays? Maybe it's just the people I know, but almost everyone I know gets married right out of college. It's weird to have someone not marry a person they were dating in college. No. Go away. :| Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maggyie Posted March 24, 2013 Author Share Posted March 24, 2013 Is that not the case for most people nowadays? Maybe it's just the people I know, but almost everyone I know gets married right out of college. It's weird to have someone not marry a person they were dating in college. Average age of marriage for women is 27 and 29 for men. So unless they did the 9 year college plan, no. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 (edited) Average age of marriage for women is 27 and 29 for men. So unless they did the 9 year college plan, no. I guess I'm just surrounded by people that marry early. Marrying later on honestly never even occurs to me. Around here it's just assumed that you will get married out of college (And that's "college" as in four years). Edited March 24, 2013 by FuturePriest387 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maggyie Posted March 24, 2013 Author Share Posted March 24, 2013 I guess I'm just surrounded by people that marry early. Marrying later on honestly never even occurs to me. Around here it's just assumed that you will get married out of college (And that's "college" as in four years). It's often geographic - often if you live in a very rural community your opportunities are limited vs. in a more urban environment, you have the chance to select a spouse from a larger pool. It takes longer, but the selection can be made with more precision. This is also why the divorce rate is so high in communities (especially in the Bible belt). The smaller, more restricted dating pool coupled with early marriage can be a difficult recipe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 (edited) It's often geographic - often if you live in a very rural community your opportunities are limited vs. in a more urban environment, you have the chance to select a spouse from a larger pool. It takes longer, but the selection can be made with more precision. This is also why the divorce rate is so high in communities (especially in the Bible belt). The smaller, more restricted dating pool coupled with early marriage can be a difficult recipe. Some of those people need to not marry so early. Then again, I heard somewhere that evangelicals or fundamentalists talk about sex more than anyone else. Edited March 24, 2013 by Light and Truth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 It's often geographic - often if you live in a very rural community your opportunities are limited vs. in a more urban environment, you have the chance to select a spouse from a larger pool. It takes longer, but the selection can be made with more precision. This is also why the divorce rate is so high in communities (especially in the Bible belt). The smaller, more restricted dating pool coupled with early marriage can be a difficult recipe. Well, Benedictine is where I'm referring to everyone getting married early. There are plenty of people to choose from there, plus Atchison is a very sizable town. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilllabettt Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 its def. geographic. I think its southern vs. northern more than urban vs rural. Most of my friends from college (in DC) are just starting to think about marriage now at age 27-30. Whereas where I am now in Oklahoma - in an urban area - the majority get married directly after either high school or college. It was the same when I was in Birmingham. I've met many people in the south who never leave the town, let alone the state they are born into. That can speed up the dating process a bunch! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Autumn Dusk Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 I guess I'm just surrounded by people that marry early. Marrying later on honestly never even occurs to me. Around here it's just assumed that you will get married out of college (And that's "college" as in four years). That and you're 18 and a bit nieve....wait until you are 22 and graduated from college and have alot of 22-30yo friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 That and you're 18 and a bit nieve....wait until you are 22 and graduated from college and have alot of 22-30yo friends. Almost all of my friends are either in college, graduated, or are out of college and just got married. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maggyie Posted March 24, 2013 Author Share Posted March 24, 2013 Well, Benedictine is where I'm referring to everyone getting married early. There are plenty of people to choose from there, plus Atchison is a very sizable town. All I'm saying is that the divorce rate spikes for those who marry young. It doesn't happen to everybody, but actually for men in particular, ages 20-24 are the worst time to marry statistically. You're 3 times more likely to divorce if you marry at that time than if you wait until you're 30 years old. Anyway that's not the point of the thread, again most people don't marry in their teens or early 20s, so are there any resources for adults out there? Chastity "feels" different (and in some ways, tougher) the older you get. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tufsoles Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 I agree with the chasity thing in adult hood. One time I mentioned(I am non trad) with in the last year to the campus catholic leader to hold a chasity rally for the College kids and straight to my face and in front of everyone in the club that chasity is protestant and was totally against chasity and Those rallies. Needless to say I wrote my Bishop and that guy got a butt chewing. I stop going to the club as well. I also found out that he is getting married and is in some sort of hurry about it. I question his motives. But any ways.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 Anything by Alice von Hildebrand. She is the absolute best. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriela Posted March 24, 2013 Share Posted March 24, 2013 Does it have to be Catholic? I know of two Jewish books about modesty and chastity that are wonderful, but there might be some irrelevant stuff in there because of the Jewish laws of family purity. Still, the bulk should be relevant. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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