Prayers And Advice?

[Annie12]

So, I am currently completely open to what God is calling me to (whatever that may be). So, far I have been discerning a few different orders. However, I can't help feeling attracted to man I know ( I prefer not to give anymore details than that). I would LOVE it if you all could pray for me. I am and have been having a difficult time lately discerning God's will. He could be calling me to religious life but he also could be calling me to marriage. I pray about it but I never get any answers. So, I have just assumed my answer is that I don't need an answer right now. But I would like to know how to get over this guy because every time I see him I get sad because I know I don't even have a chance with him. But on the other hand I don't despair because I know God's will is greater than anything I could ever want. Does anyone have any advice for me? It helps to get a different perspective.

 

(I hope it's okay that I have posted this in VS. I wasn't sure)

Edited March 18, 2013 by Annie12

[TheresaThoma]

Definitely prayers!

 

From what you have posted this is my take. Even though you have feelings for this guy it sounds like having a relationship is not an option (I'm guessing for reasons not related to your discernment). While discerning with communities is an option so focus on that.

My personal philosophy with discernment is "go with what you got". Which basically means that if certain things are working out then follow that. In my case I had two different communities that I was looking into and for one community things just kept falling through for various reasons while for the other things were just falling into place and working out neatly. So even though I had nothing more to go on (no real answers in prayer) I began focusing more on the second community. Along with that I didn't really consider marriage because although there were a few guys I had slight crushes on there was no real possibility for a relationship to develop there.