gaudium et spes Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 And the idea of a one true soul mate isn't actually a Catholic idea. We don't have a one true soul mate. I could probably have a wonderfully holy marriage with any number of men currently residing within a ten mile radius of where I currently sit. What matters is the commitment I make with the one I choose. :like: Truth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 Yeah. I don't buy the whole "There is only one person in the world you can have a successful marriage with" idea. That's Bolshevik. You can have a successful marriage with pretty much anyone. I do think God has one person in mind, though, since there are references to that in Scripture. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basilisa Marie Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 Yeah, but I think it can also be harmful to entertain the idea of God having one person in mind for you, because you can start thinking that you aren't doing God's will if you don't pick the right person. Though I suppose there might be someone with whom it'd be easiest to build a holy marriage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Evangetholic Posted March 11, 2013 Author Share Posted March 11, 2013 I like the Jewish idea that the person you are married to is always, without fail your destiny. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Evangetholic Posted March 11, 2013 Author Share Posted March 11, 2013 But anyway I like boys to much for marrying a girl to be a good idea. *drinks more* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 I would hesitate tremendously to say that there is one single person chosen by God to be another person's spouse. But my experience told me very clearly "this is right", therefore I do not want to go to what I perceive as the opposite extreme, namely "I could do equally well with any number of people." I suppose that, rather than say that God chose my future wife for me, it was something closer to me happening to have the grace and discernment necessary at that particular moment to recognize a true call from God, and respond as required. And perhaps if I had not been able to do so for some reason, that another call would have been offered to me at some point in the future. Or perhaps not. I cannot know that. I am willing to say that God intended me to do, more or less, what I have done so far as relating to my vocation. I think there is a meaningful difference between the two lines of thought. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slappo Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 Yeah. I don't buy the whole "There is only one person in the world you can have a successful marriage with" idea. That's Bolshevik. You can have a successful marriage with pretty much anyone. I do think God has one person in mind, though, since there are references to that in Scripture. The problem with that is: you get married and in a rough patch of your marriage you wonder, "Was this the one person God had in mind for me or did I make a mistake and pick one of the less desirable but still suitable candidates?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slappo Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 "Maybe there's someone better out there for me. I wonder if I can think up grounds for an annulment and start looking again to see if I can find that one perfect person for me..." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gaudium et spes Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 The person you marry becomes your soul mate, but they aren't pre-destined for you. If you had married someone else, that person would have become your soul mate when you made your vows in the sacrament together. There are no people "made for each other," there isn't a perfect person for anybody. The only perfect person for you is Jesus. Your spouse is your partner in your journey to Jesus. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slappo Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 I don't really like the term soul mate either as marriage is temporal and ends upon death of a spouse, but the soul is eternal. My wife is not my soul mate if she dies and our marriage ends. Unlike Holy Orders, marriage does not leave an indelible mark neither does marriage permanently bond two souls together. I do wonder if there is some sort of unique bond between spouses in heaven as some sort of close spiritual friends which would at the same time not prevent someone from having multiple close spiritual friends if he was a widower and re-married. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gaudium et spes Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 I don't really like the term soul mate either as marriage is temporal and ends upon death of a spouse, but the soul is eternal. My wife is not my soul mate if she dies and our marriage ends. Unlike Holy Orders, marriage does not leave an indelible mark neither does marriage permanently bond two souls together. I do wonder if there is some sort of unique bond between spouses in heaven as some sort of close spiritual friends which would at the same time not prevent someone from having multiple close spiritual friends if he was a widower and re-married. Agreed, my poor choice of words. The only "soul mate" we truly have is the One for Whom we were made--God. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basilisa Marie Posted March 11, 2013 Share Posted March 11, 2013 I sometimes wonder if marriage prefigures the close, intimate relationship we're going to have with everyone when we're in Heaven. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MarysLittleFlower Posted March 12, 2013 Share Posted March 12, 2013 I don't really know the Church's teaching well on this... but my understanding is that we are all called to give ourselves to someone (God only, or a spouse too) - and for some it's in marriage, for some it's in religious life, for some it's some sort of consecrated single life, like for example read about St Catherine of Siena, who was not a nun or married and God called her to her specific vocation :) hope I'm getting this right! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Era Might Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 Yeah. I don't buy the whole "There is only one person in the world you can have a successful marriage with" idea. That's Bolshevik. You can have a successful marriage with pretty much anyone. I do think God has one person in mind, though, since there are references to that in Scripture. Bolshevik? Are you sure you know the meaning of that word? :hehe2: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amppax Posted March 13, 2013 Share Posted March 13, 2013 Bolshevik? Are you sure you know the meaning of that word? :hehe2: I think he's using bolshevik to mean bullshit. A sort of self filtering. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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