Writing Love Letters To Your Future Spouse

[FutureCarmeliteClaire]

[FutureCarmeliteClaire]

[Winchester]

You already know his answer, why'd you bother?
 
Anyway. I apologize for getting a bit heated, but the sniff test failed miserably with this idea, and I don't want you to inadvertently hurt yourself, FP. I've expressed my opinion as an older and more experienced man, if you don't wish to take my advice so be it.
 
Good luck and God keep you, FP.

Why this is such terrible advice:

Yes, it may appear smarmy, or weird to you. It looks smarmy, to me. But it's who FP is, right now. If he changes, fine. But if he doesn't, whomever he hooks up with is likely to think it's cool. Because there are people who are also women who will think this is awesome. They will like this stuff. They will completely dig it, and be happy. Remember my Nicholas Sparks advice? That's brilliant advice.

And what if he suppresses it? What if he acts cool? Well, he possibly attracts a chick who thinks this sort of stuff is dumb. But how long can he suppress this trait? One day, he'll act out. She will be totally freaked out, instead of charmed. And she will leave him. Divorce him. FP will end up divorced, and probably will lose a sizable portion of his property and likely whatever benefits package he has at his job. He will struggle financially, it will take a toll on his health. He will develop high blood pressure. He will have a stroke, leaving him partly paralyzed and mentally damaged. FP will end up in a personal care home, and will probably suffer abuse from the careless staff, eventually, he will go to an early grave, after spending untold years in half-witted misery.

Why would you wish such a fate on FP? What has he done to you to inspire you thus? Don't wish a short, mentally damaged, destitute life on FP.

Write the letters, FP.

[IcePrincessKRS]

 

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[PhuturePriest]

Why this is such terrible advice:

Yes, it may appear smarmy, or weird to you. It looks smarmy, to me. But it's who FP is, right now. If he changes, fine. But if he doesn't, whomever he hooks up with is likely to think it's cool. Because there are people who are also women who will think this is awesome. They will like this stuff. They will completely dig it, and be happy. Remember my Nicholas Sparks advice? That's brilliant advice.

And what if he suppresses it? What if he acts cool? Well, he possibly attracts a chick who thinks this sort of stuff is dumb. But how long can he suppress this trait? One day, he'll act out. She will be totally freaked out, instead of charmed. And she will leave him. Divorce him. FP will end up divorced, and probably will lose a sizable portion of his property and likely whatever benefits package he has at his job. He will struggle financially, it will take a toll on his health. He will develop high blood pressure. He will have a stroke, leaving him partly paralyzed and mentally damaged. FP will end up in a personal care home, and will probably suffer abuse from the careless staff, eventually, he will go to an early grave, after spending untold years in half-witted misery.

Why would you wish such a fate on FP? What has he done to you to inspire you thus? Don't wish a short, mentally damaged, destitute life on FP.

Write the letters, FP.

 

:notworthy:

 

But why smarmy?
 

[Winchester]

:notworthy:
 
But why smarmy?

Is what it is.

My judgement on all counts stands. Carry on.

[PhuturePriest]

Is what it is.

My judgement on all counts stands. Carry on.

 

Yes, sir.

[Norseman82]

I know. But usually when people disagree on this stuff they aren't being total jerk wads.

 

Maybe now you understand how Augusta felt by your hypocritical comment in the locked thread.

[Autumn Dusk]

I think the whole notion of needing to do something "impressive" is inherently self-seeking.  What happens if you marry, your wife dies, and you re-marry?  Does wife #2 get the letters?  Is she no less deserving of your love?

 

Why not just do what has been done for ions and write a journal?  You can still get all gushy about it.

 

To me, this kinda reeks of imaginary friend, even if you're not idealizing.

[PhuturePriest]

I think the whole notion of needing to do something "impressive" is inherently self-seeking.  What happens if you marry, your wife dies, and you re-marry?  Does wife #2 get the letters?  Is she no less deserving of your love?

 

Why not just do what has been done for ions and write a journal?  You can still get all gushy about it.

 

To me, this kinda reeks of imaginary friend, even if you're not idealizing.

 

Everyone keeps saying just write a journal. What is the difference? As someone told me, what I'm writing in there is pretty much the same thing as writing an entry into a journal, so I guess I'm already doing that.

 

And this has nothing to do with being impressive. Will it impress my wife? Maybe. But it's not about impressing.

Edited February 8, 2013 by FuturePriest387

[Lilllabettt]

Meh. I think its kind of cute. Not exactly romantic - but cute. Like - boyish cute. I have a hard time seeing a grown man do this, although I'm sure some do. You may outgrow it. But I think it is adorable - like cute and adorable and awwww.

 

It is not so weird and I know weird.

when I was 16 I planned my own funeral in elaborate detail and filled a notebook with words beginning with the letters of my first, middle and last names, 1000 for each letter. 

when I was in middle school I walked around sucking my cheeks and hunching my shoulders, just to convince the nurse I had scoliosis (I did not.)

when I was in kindergarten I had a tick where someone would finish talking and I would bust out with a rhyming word for whatever was the last thing they said. "I'm tired, I'm going home now." "COW!"

 

I grew up to hold a job and contribute to society.

 

so everyone who thinks fp is warped/going to be warped, reeeeelax.

 

 

[PhuturePriest]

Meh. I think its kind of cute. Not exactly romantic - but cute. Like - boyish cute. I have a hard time seeing a grown man do this, although I'm sure some do. You may outgrow it. But I think it is adorable - like cute and adorable and awwww.

 

It is not so weird and I know weird.

when I was 16 I planned my own funeral in elaborate detail and filled a notebook with words beginning with the letters of my first, middle and last names, 1000 for each letter. 

when I was in middle school I walked around sucking my cheeks and hunching my shoulders, just to convince the nurse I had scoliosis (I did not.)

when I was in kindergarten I had a tick where someone would finish talking and I would bust out with a rhyming word for whatever was the last thing they said. "I'm tired, I'm going home now." "COW!"

 

I grew up to hold a job and contribute to society.

 

so everyone who thinks fp is warped/going to be warped, reeeeelax.

 

Thank you. I knew I was weird (I always have been), but I was beginning to worry if it was bordering on borderline abnormal. Two of my friends (Yes, including Feather) think this is a really sweet and romantic idea and they both love it, so I guess some girls like it. It may not be for everyone, but that doesn't mean no girl on earth will appreciate it (If I should choose to do it, which you never know if I change my mind or not by the time I'm married. I'll at least be twenty two and stuff, which is six years away).

 

Reading all of your past habits has made me appreciate your posts and you as a person a lot more now. Is that bad? :hehe:

[4588686]

I think it's cuter than a one-eyed kitten eating a crawdad.  

Edited February 8, 2013 by Hasan

[Maggyie]

Meh. I think its kind of cute. Not exactly romantic - but cute. Like - boyish cute. I have a hard time seeing a grown man do this, although I'm sure some do. You may outgrow it. But I think it is adorable - like cute and adorable and awwww.

 

It is not so weird and I know weird.

when I was 16 I planned my own funeral in elaborate detail and filled a notebook with words beginning with the letters of my first, middle and last names, 1000 for each letter. 

when I was in middle school I walked around sucking my cheeks and hunching my shoulders, just to convince the nurse I had scoliosis (I did not.)

when I was in kindergarten I had a tick where someone would finish talking and I would bust out with a rhyming word for whatever was the last thing they said. "I'm tired, I'm going home now." "COW!"

 

I grew up to hold a job and contribute to society.

 

so everyone who thinks fp is warped/going to be warped, reeeeelax.

 

I remember the sucking in of the cheeks and hunching of the shoulders, did you know they called me in to the nurse's office and wanted to check me for it too? Those people thought we were so strange.

[Gabriela]

I think the whole notion of needing to do something "impressive" is inherently self-seeking.  What happens if you marry, your wife dies, and you re-marry?  Does wife #2 get the letters?  Is she no less deserving of your love?

 

You should totally take the username "Sadducee".