4588686 Posted February 4, 2013 Share Posted February 4, 2013 my friends take it in the bum from other dudes. they know im a pious Catholic. i know theyre gay. our policy: keep your opinions to yourself. if your friend knows youre a pious Catholic, then she already knows what you think. you wont get anywhere new by telling her. and you certainly wont be in a position to help her if you do or say something she feels is judgmental and consequently ends your friendship. love her, pray for her, accept her as she is, be there for her—and MYOB. if youre anything like me, youve got enough of your own sins to worry about! A lot of gay men don't have anal sex but prefer oral sex and stuff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissyP89 Posted February 5, 2013 Share Posted February 5, 2013 If we're supposed to be a living Gospel for other people, sometimes that means we have to get down in the trenches and meet them where they are. Be a friend and an example and positive presence. Pray for them. Entrust them to Mary. And just love. You catch more flies with honey than vinegar, after all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winchester Posted February 5, 2013 Share Posted February 5, 2013 Maybe since she no longer has to practice, you should be taking her advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4588686 Posted February 5, 2013 Share Posted February 5, 2013 Maybe since she no longer has to practice, you should be taking her advice. Blazinga! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norseman82 Posted February 5, 2013 Share Posted February 5, 2013 (edited) There is a current thread on Catholic Answers Forum on this very subject: http://forums.catholic.com/showthread.php?t=750749 This is probably the best answer: http://forums.catholic.com/showpost.php?p=10314604&postcount=13 Thank you for asking this very important question, I was in a similiar one it was awful. I sought spiritual direction as this was someone very close to me and I felt very conflicted. I never went to their apartment, because I didn't want to be caught in the awkward situation of giving approval or compliments. I pictured her showing me around their apartment and that I would feel cornered into showing approval and giving compliments such as "I love the view!" "Your new bedspread is so pretty" "I love your furniture.' You see when a friend visits a friend's new home for the first time generally they are given a little mini-tour and are expected to comment on their new home. THIS is what places you in a very awful situation. I knew in my heart I could never compliment her on her new place and I would unable to show any kind of happiness or approval for her. Because of this I just avoided it. There is no reason you can't be friends with this couple. Meet them for coffee, pray for them, tell them you love them but you don't have to visit their home and it is good that you feel uncomfortable doing so because it should make all of us sad. For now if you are not comfortable taking a stance for religious reasons it is okay to simply say "I can't make it." Over time if you feel like telling her the real reason go ahead and do so. This is so hard I know, God bless you. You state earlier: I do feel kind of worried about the idea of visiting, maybe I could somehow make my position clearer.. Im not sure how. One thing I've learned in life is that sometimes God or your guardian angel may speak to you through your "gut feeling". To be perfectly honest, when one of my best friends I used to play hockey with got engaged and his fiancee moved in with him, I avoided invitations to his place until after they were married. I didn't make a big deal of it, and we still remained friends (of course, the dynamics of two male hockey players may be different than two females, but I'm just giving an example). Edited February 5, 2013 by Norseman82 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriela Posted February 5, 2013 Share Posted February 5, 2013 A lot of gay men don't have anal sex but prefer oral sex and stuff. i am aware of that. but i was talking about specific gay men whose preferences i am familiar with. Seriously??? Was it really necessary to be so graphic? (Hope I didn't offend anyone. It's not like we don't all know it happens.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winchester Posted February 5, 2013 Share Posted February 5, 2013 A lot of gay men don't have anal sex but prefer oral sex and stuff. I'm sure if I ever went gay, I'd prefer the latter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted February 5, 2013 Share Posted February 5, 2013 I'm sure if I ever went gay, I'd prefer the latter. The "stuff"? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted February 5, 2013 Share Posted February 5, 2013 Seriously, people. Twelve year old girls and boys read these threads. Think about the audience, not about how funny you think your wits are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norseman82 Posted February 5, 2013 Share Posted February 5, 2013 Fetus locutus, causa finita..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basilisa Marie Posted February 5, 2013 Share Posted February 5, 2013 Seriously, people. Twelve year old girls and boys read these threads. Think about the audience, not about how funny you think your wits are. No, FP has a point here. There's no need to be crass and disrespectful, especially because these forums are PUBLIC and all kinds of people get directed here as a good source for Catholic things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groo the Wanderer Posted February 5, 2013 Share Posted February 5, 2013 Yes. Please leave the senseless humor to me. I am a pro. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ardillacid Posted February 5, 2013 Share Posted February 5, 2013 A lot of gay men don't have anal sex but prefer oral sex and stuff. I'm sure you heard this from a friend :| Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winchester Posted February 5, 2013 Share Posted February 5, 2013 The "stuff"? The latter was given in two parts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriela Posted February 6, 2013 Share Posted February 6, 2013 (edited) Seriously, people. Twelve year old girls and boys read these threads. Think about the audience, not about how funny you think your wits are. Unfortunately, twelve-year-old girls and boys these days know what homosexual sex is. But your point is well taken. If I could edit the post at this point, I would, as I clearly offended some sensibilities. To those in that camp: Please accept my humblest apologies. To the OP: My apologies, too, for causing a rather lengthy diversion from your question. Edited February 6, 2013 by curiousing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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