Self Body Image Rant (good)

[4588686]

Generally speaking, you may be correct, but I have never found Brad Pitt attractive so I think it depends on the individuals' definitions of "attractive."

 

Is this a round about way of asking me out?

[FutureCarmeliteClaire]

A great example is Jason Evert's wife, Chrystalina. She was voted as the most beautiful girl in her high school (And she went to a huge high school), but she still thought she was ugly because her boyfriend convinced her she was. That's not attention seeking or trying to appeal to men, that is sincerely believing you are ugly because your boyfriend is a scumbag.

 

I love Crystalina Evert. Her videos and mission and stuff is amazing.

Everyone's situation is different. I find it rather unnecessary to go into mine, because I still don't fully understand why I thought that way about myself. But anyway, the cry for help is sad, the need for attention is sad, it all is.

[Lilllabettt]

btw fcc i don't mean to imply that you or any individual with current/past  self-esteem issues were/are attention-seeking.  I am commenting on the behavior you mentioned in your rant, the people who post their pictures with an #uglyme or #fatme tag. I appreciate the "positive message" of what you wrote - its lovely - at the same time I think when we respond to that behavior with "no, you are NOT fat/ugly, you are beautiful," its symptomatic of enabling and co-dependency. It is hard because that is the way people - especially girls - have been taught is the "nice" way to respond.

Edited December 27, 2012 by Lilllabettt

[xTrishaxLynnx]

Is this a round about way of asking me out?

 

:blink: Have you been drinking?

[PhuturePriest]

:blink: Have you been drinking?

 

Stop avoiding the question.

[xTrishaxLynnx]

I was attempting to express that I don't think every woman finds Brad Pitt more attractive than most other men. How does that even remotely seem like I could have been asking Hasan out?

For the record, though, since no one will let this rest otherwise: no I was not asking Hasan out.

[PhuturePriest]

I like how seriously she is taking us.

[xTrishaxLynnx]

No, I'm not. I did just realize, in re-reading my post, that it sounds a bit like I am saying Hasan is more attractive than Brad Pitt. THAT, I will admit.

 

Can we get back on topic now, hijackers?

 

 

 

Edited December 27, 2012 by xTrishaxLynnx

[Slappo]

I think at least part of self loathing of appearance for girls (and guys although they don't express it) comes from a lack of affirmation growing up. I'm sure a lot of it also stems from society, magazine covers, models, etc.

 

My parents hardly ever called me dashing, handsome or dapper, and as a teenager I was zit boy and hated how I looked. I wonder if I would have hated my appearance so much if I was regularly affirmed by those closest to me beginning from a young age.

[EmilyAnn]

For some people who use hashtags like that, they may well be using it to fish for compliments or get attention. But there's another side to "attention seeking", because there are people who are desperately wanting help but don't know how to communicate it to people - attention seeking is a (admittedly poor) way of trying to ask for help. 

[FutureCarmeliteClaire]

I think at least part of self loathing of appearance for girls (and guys although they don't express it) comes from a lack of affirmation growing up. I'm sure a lot of it also stems from society, magazine covers, models, etc.

My parents hardly ever called me dashing, handsome or dapper, and as a teenager I was zit boy and hated how I looked. I wonder if I would have hated my appearance so much if I was regularly affirmed by those closest to me beginning from a young age.

I agree with this. Without going too much into it, my self body image issues began by me being surrounded by incredibly skinny girls through my childhood, and I was very tall and healthy size, not to mention naturally self-conscious. It was not till I hit puberty that I remember actually meeting girls around my stature. Edited December 27, 2012 by FutureCarmeliteClaire

[4588686]

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Stop avoiding the question.</p></blockquote>



You've learned much.

[Winchester]

The beauty of any woman is found within her eyes, because they are the gateway to her soul where her true beauty lies.

 

[PhuturePriest]

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Stop avoiding the question.</p></blockquote>



You've learned much.

 

I actually had you in mind and pictured you saying it when I thought of it. I have said it before, and I shall say it once more: I am slowly becoming Hasanized...

[FutureCarmeliteClaire]

I actually had you in mind and pictured you saying it when I thought of it. I have said it before, and I shall say it once more: I am slowly becoming Hasanized...

Stop this madness.