MissyP89 Posted December 17, 2012 Share Posted December 17, 2012 I am so confused. All the time. :| Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norseman82 Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 It's called the friend zone, and http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4F4qzPbcFiA I'm glad someone brought this up. Once you're in the "friend zone", the vast majority of the time you're stuck there. Can you blame someone for not wanting to be stuck in the "friend zone"? That does not necessarily mean, as one poster suggested, that one only wants to "get down pantaloons"; it could just as easily mean that one wants to simply get on with life, settle down, get married, and have kids. Nothing un-Catholic about that. In fact, at one National Catholic Singles Conference, one of the presenters actually stated that if you want to date someone and not get stuck in the "friend zone", be upfront and make it clear that when you take her out it is for a date. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisChildForever Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 Oh but it does. It is because men and women play by an entirely different game theory when it comes to love simply because women carry children and in the natural world, men have the possibility of making a clean getaway. This is why women hunt men. You must be selective. You must choose. He cannot choose you. It is not in your nature. The problem here is that well, that handsome, brave warrior who laid the biggest hunk of mastodon at your feet and made your heart flutter with a wink and a smile as he walked confidently away. There was no way that guy could have lied about who he is in a small band of hunter gatherers 50K years ago. Today, it is much wilder world. It's a phrase used by gross men who would rather go straight to an "easy" woman for sex than spend the time getting to know a woman and be committed to her first. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Erin Kathleen Holmes Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 My best friend of over a year just asked me out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theculturewarrior Posted December 18, 2012 Author Share Posted December 18, 2012 If he is a nice guy, you would be a fool to take him for granted. If you know his family and his friends, you can probably already tell whether or not he is abusive in anyway whatsoever. And since he waited a year to figure this out, he is probably not trying to misrepresent his intentions in anyway whatsoever. That is key, ladies. Don't punish a man for being honest. It will only make you suffer in life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisChildForever Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 If he is a nice guy, you would be a fool to take him for granted. If you know his family and his friends, you can probably already tell whether or not he is abusive in anyway whatsoever. And since he waited a year to figure this out, he is probably not trying to misrepresent his intentions in anyway whatsoever. That is key, ladies. Don't punish a man for being honest. It will only make you suffer in life. I'm not sure how to word this, but you're coming off as condescending now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theculturewarrior Posted December 18, 2012 Author Share Posted December 18, 2012 (edited) It's a phrase used by gross men who would rather go straight to an "easy" woman for sex than spend the time getting to know a woman and be committed to her first. Yes, but when the shoe is on the other evolutionary foot, women take men for granted for entirely different reasons. Men, if this is you, then you have become involved in a no-strings-attached emotional relationship. Edited December 18, 2012 by theculturewarrior Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theculturewarrior Posted December 18, 2012 Author Share Posted December 18, 2012 I'm not sure how to word this, but you're coming off as condescending now. Worded perfectly, and point taken. I am chasing a toddler as I type. Certainly do not feel proud. Wait till I tell you my story and you will see why. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theculturewarrior Posted December 18, 2012 Author Share Posted December 18, 2012 Maybe I should be upfront and tell you that my goal here is give women strategies to avoid abusive or dishonest relationships. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theculturewarrior Posted December 18, 2012 Author Share Posted December 18, 2012 Maybe I should be upfront and tell you that my goal here is give women strategies to avoid abusive or dishonest relationships. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theculturewarrior Posted December 18, 2012 Author Share Posted December 18, 2012 I think I am going to derelict this thread. I do not seem to be helping people here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisChildForever Posted December 18, 2012 Share Posted December 18, 2012 Maybe I should be upfront and tell you that my goal here is give women strategies to avoid abusive or dishonest relationships. That's a noble cause. I think women recognize serious issues when in a problematic/unhealthy relationship but can have a harder time recognizing when it's time to cut their losses. That's a very general statement not meant to be applied to everyone. But it's just so easy to think you can change a man or hope he'll change as a result of the relationship. Sometimes you just have to move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theculturewarrior Posted December 19, 2012 Author Share Posted December 19, 2012 That's a noble cause. I think women recognize serious issues when in a problematic/unhealthy relationship but can have a harder time recognizing when it's time to cut their losses. That's a very general statement not meant to be applied to everyone. But it's just so easy to think you can change a man or hope he'll change as a result of the relationship. Sometimes you just have to move on. The problem is that once a woman trusts a man, it is very difficult for her to let go of that, and in today's chaotic world, it is very easy for men to misrepresent themselves. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theculturewarrior Posted December 19, 2012 Author Share Posted December 19, 2012 Nice guys finish last and crackheads finish last. Therefore nice guys are crackheads. Ladies, stay away from nice guys. You will only suffer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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