add Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 talk to your Mom, not about finding true love, ask her what she wants for Christmas and make it happen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4588686 Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 Arfink took the words out of my mouth (or fingers). There is a difference between being friendly and being friends. If you give the impression that you are interested in just being friends but actually want to leverage any emotional security she gains in you into a relationship then you are being dishonest and it probably won't work. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arfink Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 There is a difference between being friendly and being friends. If you give the impression that you are interested in just being friends but actually want to leverage any emotional security she gains in you into a relationship then you are being dishonest and it probably won't work. See, that I can completely understand. For once I will actually thank you Hasan. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4588686 Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 See, that I can completely understand. For once I will actually thank you Hasan. You have made the first step in the proccess of your enlightenment. Congratulations :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Not A Mallard Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 There is a difference between being friendly and being friends. If you give the impression that you are interested in just being friends but actually want to leverage any emotional security she gains in you into a relationship then you are being dishonest and it probably won't work. So how do we give the impression that we want to be more than friends? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basilisa Marie Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 There is a difference between being friendly and being friends. If you give the impression that you are interested in just being friends but actually want to leverage any emotional security she gains in you into a relationship then you are being dishonest and it probably won't work. Yes, this. The problem isn't asking out one of your female friends. That's perfectly fine, and I'd even argue that many of the best relationships have friendships at their core. People can realize they want to get romantically involved after years of being "just friends." My issue has to do with a man's reaction. I mean, sure, people feel frustrated and confused when they get rejected, but if they feed those feelings and don't let them go there's a problem. It's one thing if a someone realizes that his feelings are getting in the way of the friendship, and they need to spend some time apart. It's another if he gets mad, throws the friendship out the window, talking about all the things he did for her so obviously he's perfect for her. You can't input friendship coins and expect romance tickets to come out the other side. People don't work that way (and that applies to everyone). It might sound a little extreme, but this mindset is way more common than people expect, especially when people just enter the dating scene. So go ahead and ask out your female friends. Just don't be a total jerk if she happens to reject you. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 i am honestly tired of the tv shows and movies where the man is a bumbling idiot and the woman is always pretty, put-together, and thin. :rolleyes: That's how society sees men and women. That's only half the story, of course, because women are being degraded as well, but on the topic of men being degraded, we are constantly being given the image of either a total moron or we have extreme anger and control issues. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arfink Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 Yes, this. The problem isn't asking out one of your female friends. That's perfectly fine, and I'd even argue that many of the best relationships have friendships at their core. People can realize they want to get romantically involved after years of being "just friends." My issue has to do with a man's reaction. I mean, sure, people feel frustrated and confused when they get rejected, but if they feed those feelings and don't let them go there's a problem. It's one thing if a someone realizes that his feelings are getting in the way of the friendship, and they need to spend some time apart. It's another if he gets mad, throws the friendship out the window, talking about all the things he did for her so obviously he's perfect for her. You can't input friendship coins and expect romance tickets to come out the other side. People don't work that way (and that applies to everyone). It might sound a little extreme, but this mindset is way more common than people expect, especially when people just enter the dating scene. So go ahead and ask out your female friends. Just don't be a total jerk if she happens to reject you. :) Wish ya'd said that up front I guess. The way you worded it at first helped me miss the distinction. Thanks for clarifying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basilisa Marie Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 Yeah, I know. It was late and I was tired. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arfink Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 Yeah, I know. It was late and I was tired. :) That's OK. :hehe: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 (edited) 1.) Everything you see in the movies is completely wrong in a very messed up way. You will not conquer the handsome player and have him follow you to the airport proclaiming his endless love and devotion from the aisles of your Boeing 757. He will not stop your marriage to another man. You will not change him. Let me say that again because it's important. You will not change him. If he is a ladies' man now, he will be everyday of his life and your kindness and moral purity already does not matter to him. Nice guys finish last. You do want a nice guy don't you? Good, because it makes your work much easier... look for the guy who is finishing last, and there he is, your prince charming. Maybe he's got mustard stains on his nintendo sweatshirt, but he's all yours and nobody else's. That is step one. 2.) Recognize potential. Marriage is a preparation for Heaven. It is two people engaging in daily combat in order to become more compassionate, assertive, and to have better bathroom etiquette. It takes a lifetime of communication to get to where God wants us to be, but a lot of women end up alone because they want the end result first. They want Prince Charming right now, and they're not willing to give a man a chance to learn how to fill those shoes. The perfect man does not exist, and it is a good thing, because you are not the perfect woman. Just please tell me that I don't have to end up with a very quiet, subdued tech geek who thinks anime geek culture cool and does not have any interest in relating to the world outside of his own little corner (with friends, church, and work). I know they are great guys, but sometimes I want someone else to pull me onto a dance floor, someone I can take with me on cultural excursions, and I would not miss Japanese pop music if I never heard it again. Thy cosplay no longer impresseth me. Edited December 15, 2012 by Light and Truth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arfink Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 Nobody said you have to settle for less. I'd be disappointed if you did. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
r2Dtoo Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 (edited) R2Dtoo's Amazing Tips For Wooing The Ladies: 1. Women are turned off by men who are too aggressive, so wear a dress. 2. Women are impressed by men who know science so be sure to tell her about all your experiments in your meth lab. 3. Men like to think that women want to hear "I love you". Slap them instead. 4. Women love it when a man takes charge so ALWAYS order for her when you're out to eat. 5. "No" means "Bang your club over my head and take me back to your cave." Follow these five simple steps and you'll find your wifey in no time! R2Dtoo backed guaranteed! Edited December 15, 2012 by r2Dtoo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slappo Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 3-Urinate on her possessions. This let's her know that you care and signals to other males not to approach her. This works for babies... they pee on their parents stuff, no one else wants to get near :| Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted December 15, 2012 Share Posted December 15, 2012 Just please tell me that I don't have to end up with a very quiet, subdued tech geek who thinks anime geek culture cool and does not have any interest in relating to the world outside of his own little corner (with friends, church, and work). I know they are great guys, but sometimes I want someone else to pull me onto a dance floor, someone I can take with me on cultural excursions, and I would not miss Japanese pop music if I never heard it again. Thy cosplay no longer impresseth me. Well, at least I'm doing something right. I pretty much fought my way to dance with Emily. :hehe: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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