Joan Marie Wandel Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 Would you be upset if emailed your sister and she didn't answer at all. This is with sending 2 emails and you answered 2 questions she asked Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AccountDeleted Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 Would you be upset if emailed your sister and she didn't answer at all. This is with sending 2 emails and you answered 2 questions she asked Not during Advent, as many communities cease all communications until Christmas. Plus, emails do go astray. Send a snail mail which will probably be given to her on Christmas Day. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joan Marie Wandel Posted December 6, 2012 Author Share Posted December 6, 2012 Well if she didn't want to communicate during advent she should of told me she mentioned adout a retreat this weekend didn't hear back Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriela Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 That hurts. I've had a few reply very cheerfully and then suddenly not respond at all. Makes you wonder what you said... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joan Marie Wandel Posted December 6, 2012 Author Share Posted December 6, 2012 Makes think I'm not called to be a sister Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maggyie Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 Makes think I'm not called to be a sister Can I ask why? If you have a genuine vocation, small things like delays in mail will not dissuade you. If it does truly dissuade you then it is likely you are right that you do not have a religious vocation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joan Marie Wandel Posted December 6, 2012 Author Share Posted December 6, 2012 It just doesn't feel right Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luigi Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 Croutons happen, even to sisters. Sister may have bigger fish to fry at the moment - some of those fish may have to be fried by a deadline. Patience is a virtue. Now would be a good time to practice it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlySunshine Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 Would you be upset if emailed your sister and she didn't answer at all. This is with sending 2 emails and you answered 2 questions she asked No, but I know what you mean. Advent is a time of fasting for many communities (as it should be) and they often don't use the computer. I would recommend that you call the Sister. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manymarys Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 It just doesn't feel right It doesn't, you're right. They live such a different life and are not ordered by the things that order us. She might have been offline for a few days or longer and gotten so much mail that she didn't get to your note yet; their computer might have been on the fritz and she's still not back online or when she got back whoever fixed it deleted the file with your note; it could have gone in her spam folder; etc. I don't agree with Maggie at all, just the opposite. The devil actively tries to disuade those who have true vocations. Don't be discouraged and persevere regardless of the set-backs. Don't read too much into little things like that and always give the benefit of the doubt when dealing with sisters and nuns because they really are marching to a different drummer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlySunshine Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 I've been hesitant in posting this because I am not sharing my story online anymore but my Provincial Superior has accidentally erased my email before. They make mistakes just like us. I'm sure she is not ignoring you on purpose. But seriously, if you're worried -- call her. ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriela Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 Can I ask why? If you have a genuine vocation, small things like delays in mail will not dissuade you. If it does truly dissuade you then it is likely you are right that you do not have a religious vocation. Well, I think it's understandable. I mean, if a community rejects you, that is a sign that you're not called there. One way we know God's will is through the will of the community. But you're right that it doesn't mean she's not called at all. Maybe just not to that particular community. Although maybe we are all jumping the gun here. How long has it been since you didn't hear? Longer than a week, right? I mean, I wouldn't start to worry till a few months passed. Like everyone is saying, they've got a whole different schedule and set of priorities in there. A lot of people seem to be assuming that sister will most definitely respond. I wonder if that's so. I've had sisters never respond. Sometimes, it was reasonable to think the email went lost. Other times, it was more reasonable to think that I was being ignored. Sisters are people, too, and sometimes—even though I think it's very, very wrong—I feel pretty sure they'd rather ignore an email from someone they don't have good news for than they would say it directly to them in a "final mail". It spares discomfort. At least for sister. It's quite tortuous for the discerner. But it gets the same message across in the end. I'm not saying that's what's going on here. I'm just pointing out what I see is an assumption a lot of people seem to be making. I think sister is the only one who can really know in this case. And the OP would know better than all of us. But she seems to feel she's being ignored, so... that sux. :-( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maximillion Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 Feelings are not a reliable guide to action, or to changing one's mind. As has been said there could be lots of reasons why there has been no response and until you have evidence to support your assumption, then it's best not to assume anything at all, good, bad or otherwise............. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eowyn Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 If it were me, I'd try another means of communication-snail mail or calling the sister. Like others have said, a lot of things can happen to an email. I have a feeling that the downside of community life is a million small, but annoying traits of your sisters. Being able to roll with this kind of thing is gonna be a big plus once you are actually living in the convent. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tally Marx Posted December 6, 2012 Share Posted December 6, 2012 I have written snail mail letters which were not answered. I tried emailing, and she answered promptly, then. I have had my emails end up in spam folders, at which point I send snail mail, or calling. Try different methods of communication, and try multiple times. Sometimes letters and emails get lost. Sometimes sisters and fathers and spiritual directors like to pray about their responses before they send replies. If you tried contacting her in twelve different ways, once a month over the period of a year, and she still didn't reply, then you should be worried. But, otherwise, I would not be. Impatient and disappointed, yes; but not worried, and not questioning my vocation. Just relax. I am sure there is a good reason for the delay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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