Somebody Tell Me I'm Wrong

[Jaime]

I've been feeling frustrated as we get closer to the election. And I've realized that this is a familiar feeling every four years. Here at Phatmass (a place that I like to call home) mostly respectful fights break out amongst the closest of online friends over the issue of pro-life and the election. I've not hidden the fact that I have voted always voted for a pro-life candidate even though, they have always been third party and there are people who are dear to me here that are adamant about the fact that I am going against what is best for the pro-life movement by not voting for the least pro-choice major candidate. They will list all the things that Bush did to promote pro-life and talk about how Romney wants to defund Planned Parenthood.

I thought the source of my frustration had been the sometimes heated discourse between friends. But I realized that's not it at all. That is a distraction from what I think the real issue is. If our goal is to end abortion, we are fooling ourselves if we think our political appointees are going to do that for us. Don't get me wrong, of course we are called to vote for pro-life candidates and in the case of two pro-choice, we are to vote for the lesser of two evils. I will always vote and I will always actively promote voting pro-life.

But here's the thing that I've noticed. We as an online community (as a whole) are MOST passionate about pro-life during the elections. We have the most threads about it, we have more trolls about it, we have more heated debates about the elections. But we don't talk NEARLY enough about the things that we can and should be doing on a daily, weekly, or monthly basis. I know there are several in our community that know what I'm talking about. We have people here who have volunteered at pro-life pregnancy counseling centers and have worked with other groups as well. We have people who participate in the 100 Days for Life every year. But my point is, shouldn't we be talking more about these experiences? Shouldn't these threads have more passion than the debates we have about whether Mitt Romney is 10% pro-life or 90% pro-life? Or whether a third party vote is a wasted one?

I was the executive director of a pro-life crisis pregnancy center. My experience at the center made me realize that fighting to end abortion starts with one woman at a time. It taught me that if you want a woman to respect the life inside her, she must first feel respected. I learned that no woman can raise a child on her own. If she doesn't have a husband, she relies on family. If she has no family, then she must be able to rely on her community. If she doesn't have any of the three, she will have an abortion. Women who are actively making a choice between life and abortion are either misinformed or unsupported. And whoever the president is, will not change those two facts. But we have people here who are changing those conditions for women. And I think those stories need to be shared so that MORE of our phamily can realize that the fight for pro-life does not begin and end with an election. The war continues every day.

I haven't seen one Catholic here advocating for voting for Obama. Yet we have dozens of threads talking about voting pro-life. It seems like a significant amount of mispent energy. And I personally believe that Satan delights in the misuse of the passion. It takes us away from the real war and that allows more death.

Somebody tell me I'm wrong.

[Basilisa Marie]

[quote][color=#282828][font='Open Sans', sans-serif]I was the executive director of a pro-life crisis pregnancy center. My experience at the center made me realize that fighting to end abortion starts with one woman at a time. It taught me that if you want a woman to respect the life inside her, she must first feel respected. I learned that no woman can raise a child on her own. If she doesn't have a husband, she relies on family. If she has no family, then she must be able to rely on her community. If she doesn't have any of the three, she will have an abortion. Women who are actively making a choice between life and abortion are either misinformed or unsupported. And whoever the president is, will not change those two facts. But we have people here who are changing those conditions for women. And I think those stories need to be shared so that MORE of our phamily can realize that the fight for pro-life does not begin and end with an election. The war continues every day. [/font][/color][/quote]

[Luigi]

You're right.

The laws of any nation or state ought to support what is right/moral. However, the law doesn't PREVENT crime or immoral behavior - it can only punish violators who are caught (I think St. Paul says something to this effect in of his epistles).

Even if the nation were to elect pro-life officials at every level of government, and they were to pass pro-life laws, abortion would continue. I'm convinced that abortion was occurring frequently enough BEFORE Roe v. Wade that the Supreme Court decided in its favor - or at least, that's one reason the Supreme Court decided in its favor.

You are correct - abortion will be stopped one woman (and, hopefully, potential father) at a time, no matter what laws are on the books.

[CatherineM]

I like the idea also of working towards the time when people won't feel that abortion us necessary. I also believe in doing whatever we can to chip away at abortions. If that means going after unsafe facilities or just doing consent laws first, so be it. I believe in small ball, not waiting for home runs.

[Winchester]

Holy croutons, Leo Tolstoy.

[Jaime]

[quote name='Winchester' timestamp='1351444745' post='2499133']
Holy croutons, Leo Tolstoy.
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Too wordy?


It was too wordy...

[4588686]

[quote name='jaime' timestamp='1351445018' post='2499137']
Too wordy?


It was too wordy...
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Your mom is wordy.


And I don't think you're wrong. Abortion is not a good thing. If there were no more need for it then I'd be perfectly happy.

Edited October 28, 2012 by Hasan

[Winchester]

[quote name='jaime' timestamp='1351445018' post='2499137']


Too wordy?


It was too wordy...
[/quote]
Maybe you should have done a trilogy.

[Jaime]

[quote name='Hasan' timestamp='1351445139' post='2499139']
Your mom is wordy.


And I don't think you're wrong. Abortion is not a good thing. If there were no more need for it then I'd be perfectly happy.
[/quote]

personally I think the biggest enemy of the Pro-life movement is pro-lifers. Too many of us focus on fetus and nothing after. Too many of us want to tell a teenage girl not to have an abortion and still want the right to call her a whore and a deadbeat when she needs help. Too many would rather sit in a room with other pro-life people and do exactly what we are doing on phatmass. Too many of us want to preach to the choir.

I think if we talked more about respecting women, supporting them when they have a child, helping them to find a way to a better life, we would have more pro-choice people supporting our efforts.

[Lilllabettt]

The abolitionist movement dealt with this same tension within it.
The reality is you need both, but its always a question about which push should get the most energy.

Edited October 28, 2012 by Lilllabettt

[dUSt]

Sounds similar to what someone said in the second presidential debate:

[i]"But let me mention another thing. And that is parents. We need moms and dads, helping to raise kids. Wherever possible the -- the benefit of having two parents in the home, and that's not always possible. A lot of great single moms, single dads. But gosh to tell our kids that before they have babies, they ought to think about getting married to someone, that's a great idea. Because if there's a two parent family, the prospect of living in poverty goes down dramatically. The opportunities that the child will -- will be able to achieve increase dramatically. So we can make changes in the way our culture works to help bring people away from violence and give them opportunity..."[/i]

I'll let you take a guess on whether it was Obama or Romney who said it.

[Aloysius]

that doesn't sound similar to what jaime said at all to me

[Jaime]

[quote name='dUSt' timestamp='1351446894' post='2499165']
Sounds similar to what someone said in the second presidential debate:

[i]"But let me mention another thing. And that is parents. We need moms and dads, helping to raise kids. Wherever possible the -- the benefit of having two parents in the home, and that's not always possible. A lot of great single moms, single dads. But gosh to tell our kids that before they have babies, they ought to think about getting married to someone, that's a great idea. Because if there's a two parent family, the prospect of living in poverty goes down dramatically. The opportunities that the child will -- will be able to achieve increase dramatically. So we can make changes in the way our culture works to help bring people away from violence and give them opportunity..."[/i]

I'll let you take a guess on whether it was Obama or Romney who said it.
[/quote]


You don't want me to mislead people? You are making it sound like helping women in need has to start with the president. Do you think that people's personal responsibility ends with a vote?? I question your view of reality. Abortion doesn't go away with a new president.

BTW when Bush was president, our federal grant funding was cut.

[CatherineM]

I read something that to stay out of poverty the three most important things are to finish school, work full time, and be married before having a baby.

[Jaime]

[quote name='CatherineM' timestamp='1351447452' post='2499169']
I read something that to stay out of poverty the three most important things are to finish school, work full time, and be married before having a baby.
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I'm sure that's true. It's also true that if you don't drink, you cannot become an alcoholic. If you exercise and eat less, you will likely not become a diabetic. If you don't overspend and stay within your means, you likely won't go bankrupt. And sometimes we need help when we overlook the obvious and make mistakes.