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Do you have to be a member of a parish in order to receive the sacrament there, or is simply being a member of the diocese sufficient?

The current parish I attend, I'm not an official member and I've been attending for over a year. I basically started going out of convenience (plenty of Mass times and my work schedule) but stuck around because I love the church. I thought I heard or read somewhere that generally speaking you have to be a member for at least a year. Since this is relevant to my future (not my near future mind you) I'd like to know lol

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Archaeology cat

I know when I got married I had to be on the official books for x amount of time to get the parishioner fee for the building, vs the higher non-parishioner fee. But it wasn't a problem to get married there.

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I was not a member of the parish I was married at, but I did receive 3 other sacraments there and graduated 8th grade from the parodies school.


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Why are you asking? :)

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It definitely varies from place to place. Some parishes require you to be on the books, other places don't. (Similarly, different parishes require different engagement periods -- it's a year at my church, but six months at other nearby parishes.)

And then let's say you want to be married by a priest who isn't your pastor. You can get permission to be married at his church, or for him to come to your church and marry you there.

So there are tons of different options, and it all comes down to the norms of that place and what the pastor is willing to do.

This topic made me happy, far-away-future or otherwise. :woot:

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Nihil Obstat

Katy and I will be married at a church neither of us attends, by a priest who is pastor to neither of us, who is incardinated in a diocese neither of us live in. :P

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ImageTrinity

My husband and I got married in a parish and diocese to which we did not belong, but our situation was a little weird. The priest who married us was a Benedictine from our college and we got married in a Benedictine parish.

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Just so you know, some places expect you to be a member there for a certain amount of time because they don't want people who are Catholics in name only that are just trying to please parents or simply wish to have their special day in a pretty place.

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Can. 1115 Marriages are to be celebrated in the parish in which either of the contracting parties has a domicile or a quasi-domicile or a month's residence or, if there is question of vagi, in the parish in which they are actually residing. With the permission of the proper Ordinary or the proper parish priest, marriages may be celebrated elsewhere.

Can. 518 As a general rule, a parish is to be territorial, that is, it is to embrace all Christ's faithful of a given territory. Where it is useful however, personal parishes are to be established, determined by reason of the rite, language or nationality of the faithful of a certain territory, or on some other basis.

These 2 canons lay out where a person can get married and what a parish is in Canon Law. In some diocese the bishop will give general permission to marry in a Church other than the parish church. This seems to be the case now in most Western countries. But it is within the right of a parish pastor to refuse a non-parishoner to marry in the church. In my previous parish the rule was to marry people who attended Mass in that church only. If they were non attenders and non residents they were encouraged to go to there own parish. This stopped people picking the parish church "for the photos" etc :hehe2:

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homeschoolmom

[quote name='cappie' timestamp='1349688289' post='2491129']. If they were non attenders and non residents they were encouraged to go to there own parish. This stopped people picking the parish church "for the photos" etc :hehe2:
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Last year, when HSdad and I were celebrating our 20th anniversary, I asked my kids if they wanted to look at the photos of our wedding. They looked at me dumbstruck, "There are PHOTOS??" Obviously we have not been enjoying that high-priced album as much as we thought we would.

ETA: ...and come to think of it, I don't think we ever did end up digging them out even then.

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[quote name='cappie' timestamp='1349688289' post='2491129']
Can. 1115 Marriages are to be celebrated in the parish in which either of the contracting parties has a domicile or a quasi-domicile or a month's residence or, if there is question of vagi, in the parish in which they are actually residing. With the permission of the proper Ordinary or the proper parish priest, marriages may be celebrated elsewhere.

Can. 518 As a general rule, a parish is to be territorial, that is, it is to embrace all Christ's faithful of a given territory. Where it is useful however, personal parishes are to be established, determined by reason of the rite, language or nationality of the faithful of a certain territory, or on some other basis.

These 2 canons lay out where a person can get married and what a parish is in Canon Law. In some diocese the bishop will give general permission to marry in a Church other than the parish church. This seems to be the case now in most Western countries. But it is within the right of a parish pastor to refuse a non-parishoner to marry in the church. In my previous parish the rule was to marry people who attended Mass in that church only. If they were non attenders and non residents they were encouraged to go to there own parish. This stopped people picking the parish church "for the photos" etc :hehe2:
[/quote]We chose ours for pictures, though at the time I wasn't active in a parish (lived just off campus and worked in a non - diocesan church that doesn't allow weddings) and my wife went to an FSSP parish where we didn't want to get married... We really didn't have much choice so we chose a nice parish nearby.

Great pictures though! They really looked better than Pepto Bismol pink.....

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MissScripture

Norther of us were members of the parish in which we were married, but it was the parish where I grew up, and that parish priest did our prep and wedding.

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Nihil Obstat

We chose ours partially to make a celebration of the traditional Mass more feasible. It was much easier in her diocese than it would have been in my own. :rolleyes:
I think there are only two altar rails in the whole city. One removable rail at my parish that the fssp shares, and one at the newly Catholic Anglican parish. Plus the sspx.

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