It's Not Working...

[4588686]

[quote name='Lil Red' timestamp='1348893580' post='2487892']


back off, dude.
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She's not your sister.

[Lil Red]

[quote name='Hasan' timestamp='1348894261' post='2487897']
She's not your sister.
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nope

[Maggyie]

Honestly the chances of you finding your husband at 18 are slim to none. So be patient because you probably have several years to wait! Most people's brains are not finished developing until early-mid 20s. That's why if you get married before about age 26 you are at a higher risk of divorce. Just enjoy your life and let life develop. Make sure you are a complete person, in other words make sure your relationship with God is steady, that you are emotionally healthy and that you are able to take care of yourself - complete your education and create a career plan.

[BG45]

[quote name='MissyP89' timestamp='1348881549' post='2487828']
Right now, focus on you. Be happy. Someone will notice.
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This. Two of the most attractive things in a person is their capacity for joy and their comfort at being themselves.

[4588686]

Belittle him in public. Urinate on his books. Establish dominance.

[Nihil Obstat]

[quote name='Hasan' timestamp='1348895765' post='2487904']
Belittle him in public. Urinate on his books. Establish dominance.
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Just do not do the first two simultaneously. As effective as it would be, it is not compatible with Catholic modesty.

[Basilisa Marie]

Annie, dear, this isn't love. Something very similar happened to me my freshman year of college. I had had crushes on guys before and had dated a few, but once I got settled into college and started making friends there was this one guy who just blew them all away. I wanted to be with him so badly, and I prayed so much about it and it felt like him and I were supposed to be together. Seriously, I was CRAZY for this guy. We even became better friends, and after a few months finally dated a bit. But the problem was that he didn't have his head on straight yet, and neither did I, so we ended up having a HUGE fight - the kind you see in stupid rom-com movies - and we broke up. It took the better part of a year to get over, and once I finally dealt with all of the fallout I realized something. The real problem wasn't that I wasn't right for him or that he wasn't right for me, or that he was just a stupid jerkface that gave mixed signals. The real problem was that I let my emotions get the better of me, and refused to let God work in His own time. I thought I knew what I wanted, when in reality neither him nor I were anything close to being ready for a committed relationship, let alone right for each other. I was being selfish.

Trust me when I say that you will grow and change in innumerable ways while you're in college. I'm a very different person now than who I was my senior year of high school. That's the best part about college - it's a time when God is going to throw a TON of new experiences and situations at you so that you can learn and grow into the person whom He wants you to be. You're going to learn so much about life in college. The best thing you can do right now is to open yourself up to whatever God's will is for you - whatever that may be. It's going to surprise you and probably scare you. It's only when you truly abandon yourself to God's will that everything really starts to fall into place.

[Winchester]

[quote name='Hasan' timestamp='1348887502' post='2487867']
Is your sister single?
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You like chicks with tats, huh?


Noted.

[Winchester]

[quote name='Lil Red' timestamp='1348894530' post='2487898']
nope
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[EmilyAnn]

[quote name='Annie12' timestamp='1348872937' post='2487736']
I've been praying and praying and praying and praying and praying and God STILL hasn't sent me my husband yet! I feel like my prayers aren't working!

Today at dinner, I was hoping the Guy I like would come and sit at my table. He didn't. I was like, "whatever" but then I was talking to someone then I got a glimpse of this Guy chatting and laughing with his friends and it felt like a knife to the heart and I had to get of and leave the cafeteria because it was too painful to watch.

I don't know what to do. I try to go on about my life according to reality and Faith but, no matter how hard I try, I just can't get past this one. I feel like I need to know this Guy better of my life will have an empty whole. I've never had this happen. All I want to do is be realistic but apparently love isn't realistic and that REALLY stinks. Help!
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You can't just say "okay Lord, I want you to send me my husband NOW" and expect him to turn up at your door. The Lord works in His own time.

Why should this guy spending time with his friends upset you so much? Even if you were together, sometimes you'd want to be with your friends and he'd want to be with his friends. It's okay to be separate sometimes. You need to step back and think about that. Liking someone is one thing, but you shouldn't be this hurt by them spending time with other people.

[4588686]

[quote name='Winchester' timestamp='1348911711' post='2487952']
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Oh. It took me 1/28th of a fortnight to get Red's joke. I'm going to go sit in a corner now.

[Winchester]

[quote name='Hasan' timestamp='1348915706' post='2487956']
Oh. It took me 1/28th of a fortnight to get Red's [s]joke[/s] statement. I'm going to go sit in a corner now.
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Edited September 29, 2012 by Winchester

[beatitude]

Annie, from reading your posts over the past month or so, I think the problem is not that you want to marry but that you want certainty in your life.

A few weeks ago you were absolutely convinced that you were called to join the Sisters of Life and that God had sent them to help you see your true vocation at last. Shortly after you wrote that you were very confused again. Now you feel that you simply must get to know this guy.

It seems as though you are being flung about by your emotions and trying to find signs everywhere. It's painful being a teenager/young adult. I'm close enough to my teens in age (I'm twenty-five) to remember with visceral clarity exactly how rubbish it can be. Crushes and the soreness they cause. Worry about the future. Having to make significant choices for yourself for the first time in your life. Right up until college, your parents and teachers will have made many big decisions for you about schoolwork and social life. They set rules to help you, and from kindergarten on you know roughly what's going to happen next year, from elementary school right through to college. At eighteen all that certainty disappears and you're left to figure out things for yourself and make choices on your own. It's tough and it can get very overwhelming at first. But those feelings will pass as you get more confident. The process of becoming more confident? This requires you to make mistakes and experience rough patches and fall down and skin your knees a few times. This is not a calamity. It happens to us all.

The best way to cope with it is not to keep chasing after certainty and worrying about whether you should be a sister or get married, and if the former which-community-shall-I-join and if the latter where-is-my-husband. The best way is simply to immerse yourself in your college experience and enjoy it and learn from it. Work hard in class. Perhaps find a hobby or an activity that you've always wanted to try. Just make the most out of your everyday world. God teaches us far more through ordinary life than he does through signs and deep inner feelings, so enjoy that life. The best way to enjoy it is to take it one day at a time.

[Mary+Immaculate<3]

Before you pray for a husband, pray for God's will in your life. Is marriage really what He wants from you? Or is it simply what you want. I understand why you would want to get married, becuase marriage and children are amazing gifts and a joy to most women's hearts. If you really think you're not called to single or religious life of some kind, then try praying a novena to St. Thérèse. She sends "roses" and perhaps will help you with finding your man. Also, St. Gianna Molla would be another good saint to pray for, she had a big family and was happily married.
I hope that this goes well in your favor.

P.S. Remember that in religious life you are married to Christ.

[Annie12]

[quote name='Lil Red' timestamp='1348874647' post='2487756']
quit focusing on this guy and lack of a relationship and fill your time with things that you enjoy - without regard if a guy enjoys them or not. good men like women who are self-assured, confident, and don't sit around feeling pitying themselves. so go enjoy life - volunteer, read, go watch movies, help others, go to Mass every day, go rock climbing or hiking or rowing, go to football games, join a book club, [b]have fun and become confident in who you are as a woman[/b] - because once you are married and have kids, it's kind of hard to have that time to just enjoy yourself.
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Me ----> <---- this post

Look, I want to get over this guy, but every time I try to...I CAN"T!!!!

And I know God's time isn't our time, but I can't help feeling the way I do right now. Believe it or not, I'm not as crazy about this as I was when I first met the Guy. I'm impatient and I [i]REALLY[/i] wish I had a fast forward button on life. I don't even care about having a boyfriend, I'm not needy like that. But I feel drawn to this specific guy and it's killing me that he's not catching on!!!

Edited September 29, 2012 by Annie12