the171 Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 [quote name='FutureCarmeliteClaire' timestamp='1353033922' post='2511039'] I KNEW IT. I KNEW IT. I KNEW IT WAS GOING TO HAPPEN. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [/quote] CALM YOUR HORSES!! We're still both discerning!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 (edited) There is a guy I know who is in love with me, for real, and he is not that physically attractive to me, nor am I certain he and I want the same kind of life. He is one of the top three best friends I have right now, and the only male of the three. Not entirely sure what to do. Edited November 16, 2012 by Light and Truth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FutureCarmeliteClaire Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 [quote name='the171' timestamp='1353034035' post='2511040'] CALM YOUR HORSES!! We're still both discerning!! [/quote] I AIN'T CALMING NO HORSES. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 (edited) [quote name='AnneLine' timestamp='1353033539' post='2511028'] Physically (and emotionally and spiritually and all the rest) attractive men exist. I married one. Still am in awe of that.... Then I fed him. Now he's all mine..... (and still every bit as attractive to me!) will be 20 years in May... [/quote] [quote name='the171' timestamp='1353033636' post='2511031'] Let's all join in a collective *AWWWWWW!* [/quote] [quote name='Light and Truth' timestamp='1353033653' post='2511032'] I want that. Pray for me. [/quote] OK. AnneLine's How to live trap the Right Man 101: [list] [*]Go on a silent retreat while discerning a vocation. [*]Have your back totally go out on you so you spend all 5 days on a sleeping bag on the floor of the retreat house chapel OR in your room. [*]Have one of the guys on the retreat OFFER to bring you home AND carry your bag for you. [*]Spend the evening talking vocation with him -- he's discerning the priesthood -- and find out years later that he was sick for a week because he was allergic to your cat.... [*]Spend the next 3 years as really good friends, and 'protective color' for respective families who were worried that you might not be 'normal' because you weren't dating.... [*]Have him ACCOMPANY YOU with your family the day you entered the convent (so he actually set foot in your cell with the family....)(and the Sisters even commented on that, which is really funny in retrospect...) [*]Have him be one of the first people you talk to when you come out of the convent. [*]Spend the next 5 years or so helping him to discern whether or not he had a vocation..... [*]By the time HE is sure HE doesn't have one, YOU are back to discerning. Sigh. [*]Rinse and repeat on a he and she cycle one more time. [*]One day, both of you realize at the same time that... you really like discerning together... that you share the same values, that you have grown very close.... and that hm... couldn't be... could it? Hmmmm. [*]Spend about 2 more years trying to figure out how to put romance INTO a relationship that you had worked REALLY HARD for almost ten years to keep OUT of a relationship... [*]Finally realized that we had to step back and kind of get to know each other ALL OVER again.... [/list] And only after that [i](elapsted time... hum 16 years from first retreat?)[/i]... do you get married. I do not RECOMMEND this, mind you -- but yeah, it takes time & patience to trap the RIGHT one. (Hopefully many less years, but lots of patience...) I'll also add that what is drop-dead-gorgeous to one person doesn't turn an eye for another. I really think it is qualities of the soul that are the tipping thing... But "I" think he is gorgeous... even if he does eat WAY too much of my wonderful cooking... Edited November 16, 2012 by AnneLine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FutureCarmeliteClaire Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 Since we're on the topic. I know I guy... And we both are/was discerning the religious life. He pursued me. I was actually kind of the damsel in distress, and yeah. He came to my rescue when people were picking on me at theater, and ever since I've been Actually, it started because I heard through the grapevine he was discerning the religious life, and I had known him vaguely for several years but we never spoke. We first started talking about the religious life, and daily Mass and devotions and... *sigh* I found out he was the instigator of daily Masses in his family, and he has such a strong spiritual life and outlook. I mean, that's what really attracted me. Next came holding doors, helping me out on my really bad physical days of my illness. Just being a total gentleman. He really started it, which is nice, that I wasn't the crazy girl chasing after dudes. He is just an all around sweet and respectful guy. Very strong in his faith. He was the guy who had the thing for the girl with the sparkly floral cane who couldn't walk up and down stairs. We talk about discernment frequently, and I am so happy to just be friends even though I think we both know that there's a "thing". Both of us want nothing but God's will. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 And whatever happens, FCC.... hopefully that soul friendship will remain for all eternity..... and who knows what God has in store, right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted November 16, 2012 Author Share Posted November 16, 2012 [quote name='FutureCarmeliteClaire' timestamp='1353034807' post='2511049'] Since we're on the topic. I know I guy... And we both are/was discerning the religious life. He pursued me. I was actually kind of the damsel in distress, and yeah. He came to my rescue when people were picking on me at theater, and ever since I've been Actually, it started because I heard through the grapevine he was discerning the religious life, and I had known him vaguely for several years but we never spoke. We first started talking about the religious life, and daily Mass and devotions and... *sigh* I found out he was the instigator of daily Masses in his family, and he has such a strong spiritual life and outlook. I mean, that's what really attracted me. Next came holding doors, helping me out on my really bad physical days of my illness. Just being a total gentleman. He really started it, which is nice, that I wasn't the crazy girl chasing after dudes. He is just an all around sweet and respectful guy. Very strong in his faith. He was the guy who had the thing for the girl with the sparkly floral cane who couldn't walk up and down stairs. We talk about discernment frequently, and I am so happy to just be friends even though I think we both know that there's a "thing". Both of us want nothing but God's will. [/quote] Once again, we join together with a collective "Awwww!!!!". I'll help plan the wedding. I'm thinking white tuxes, white top hats and really cool canes. Maybe even monocles. What do you think so far? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FutureCarmeliteClaire Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 [quote name='FuturePriest387' timestamp='1353035719' post='2511061'] Once again, we join together with a collective "Awwww!!!!". I'll help plan the wedding. I'm thinking white tuxes, white top hats and really cool canes. Maybe even monocles. What do you think so far? [/quote] What, was that the wedding you had planned for us? Hm? LOLOLOL JK Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted November 16, 2012 Author Share Posted November 16, 2012 [quote name='FutureCarmeliteClaire' timestamp='1353035899' post='2511062'] What, was that the wedding you had planned for us? Hm? LOLOLOL JK [/quote] Well, you can't just waste amesome wedding plans, can you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FutureCarmeliteClaire Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 [quote name='FuturePriest387' timestamp='1353035974' post='2511063'] Well, you can't just waste amesome wedding plans, can you? [/quote] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 In your dreams, Miles... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FutureCarmeliteClaire Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 [quote name='AnneLine' timestamp='1353036457' post='2511069'] In your dreams, Miles... [/quote] You tell him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriela Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 [quote name='Papist' timestamp='1348505460' post='2486006'] My wife says, "ABSOLUTELY!!" [/quote] Reading this, right beside your profile photo, made me LOL. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 [quote name='FutureCarmeliteClaire' timestamp='1353036489' post='2511070'] You tell him. [/quote] *bites tongue and declares need to get a night's sleep tonight* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriela Posted November 16, 2012 Share Posted November 16, 2012 oh my goodness (don't blasphemy). [i]Of course[/i] attractive men exist. And [i]of course[/i] many women find them physically attractive. In fact, some men are downright HOT. (Why isn't there a flaming emoticon? Seriously, where's the imagination?) Who would marry a man she found ogreish (unless, of course, ogreish does it for her)? You'd be [i]amazed[/i] what attracts some women. I personally prefer super-geek chic. But many ladies dig the muscle men. And probably the majority go for the average, sweet, preppy-looking fellow. Some like 'em dirty (as in, under-groomed, which, so far as I've read, FuturePriest, should give you hope). Some like 'em sweaty. In my parts, they like 'em covered in coal dust. Praise God, there is one for us all. There's nothing more delightful and endearing and hope-inspiring than seeing a couple of "undesirables" (by superficial, mainstream standards) utterly and hopelessly in love. :-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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