Annie12 Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 Hi there everyone!. I've been so busy with College that I've ended up neglecting Phatmass! So sorry! I do need some advice from who ever can give me some. So (I feel really stupid asking this but, ) there is this Guy here at my school, who is such a great guy. Like, he's amazing. But, I always feel really stupid when I talk with him. He seems so "with it" and I'm just a shy girl who since , two months ago was intimidated by guys. So, as you can imagine I end up being very awkward. I played sports with him and some others today, but I am so bad at sports and was the worst on the team. I really want to catch his attention, but every attempt fails. Though we did dance together and it was amesome! But, I feel so out of his league (like, in a negative way) that I'm scared that I'll be awkward, to I end up being just that! I really need some advice! I've never dated or anything before, but I feel like God might want me to be with him. This whole thing is the weirdest thing I've ever experienced so HELP PLEASE! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 First off, relax and just be yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie12 Posted September 16, 2012 Author Share Posted September 16, 2012 That doesn't work! I'm so weird! I freak out and don't know what to say so weird stuff comes out! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie12 Posted September 16, 2012 Author Share Posted September 16, 2012 Should have I posted this in VS? Yeah... I should have, is there a way to move it there? Could someone do that for me? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 [quote name='Annie12' timestamp='1347837205' post='2483102'] Should have I posted this in VS? Yeah... I should have, is there a way to move it there? Could someone do that for me? [/quote] why? it's perfectly fine here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 For whatever it is worth, I would recommend letting him pursue you, rather than you attempting to pursue him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie12 Posted September 16, 2012 Author Share Posted September 16, 2012 I agree. I just don't want it to seem like I don't want him to but my awkwardness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 [quote name='Annie12' timestamp='1347838242' post='2483107'] I agree. I just don't want it to seem like I don't want him to but my awkwardness. [/quote] Lots of guys really go for the shy thing. Do not even worry about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
qfnol31 Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 My wife had to wait four years for me to begin pursuing her. Well, that and the first time she saw me she took one look and said "Forget it, I could never date him." Had something to do with my t-shirts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carmenchristi Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 Well... I don't think I can be of great help since I'm no expert on dating or anything... but here's a recent experience of mine. There was this nice young man whom I would have been interested in dating. I'm actually proud of myself about how I handled the situation. I made sure I was nice and calm and went to introduce myself (he was the new music director, so that was a good excuse) and we had a nice conversation. We had some opportunities to work together since then. Initially I was bent out of shape about getting his attention, but since I ended up walking away feeling stupid and embarrassed every time I tried that, I quickly gave it up. My thought is this: I showed some interest so if he didn't pick up on that I feel like I did my part and he is simply not interested (or maybe he's just smarter than I am because he knows that I'm going away soon... so it really wouldn't work out anyway). I think it's okay for a woman to show some interest, but I believe that SOME means a very limited amount. So my theory is really to try my darnedest to be myself... and that is HARD for me too. To be simple and not be too anxious to date a particular person. I'll bet other people who have more experience will have some better things to say though! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie12 Posted September 16, 2012 Author Share Posted September 16, 2012 one one level I say that God wants me to be with this guy, but from a practical, realistic view, I feel like I'm being such an idiot by liking him as much as I do! I get a bad case of butterflies every time I think about him (and I hate that I just said that because it's SOOOO CHEESY!!!!) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carmenchristi Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 [quote name='Annie12' timestamp='1347839083' post='2483117'] one one level I say that God wants me to be with this guy, but from a practical, realistic view, I feel like I'm being such an idiot by liking him as much as I do! I get a bad case of butterflies every time I think about him (and I hate that I just said that because it's SOOOO CHEESY!!!!) [/quote] totally understandable Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie12 Posted September 17, 2012 Author Share Posted September 17, 2012 ya know, this may sound supper weird but can you pray for me about this? I really need to calm down about this. I'm way to "love struck" and it's driving me crazy!!!! So, if you could, please, pray? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missionseeker Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 (edited) I would say to not worry about boys your first semester in college. There are better, more important things to figure out. and after all, the first, most important part of your vocation right now is that of student and obedient child (because your parents decided that you definitely needed to go, right?) That said, don't think about how "out his league" you are. That will only make it worse. Edited September 17, 2012 by missionseeker Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carmenchristi Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 [quote name='Annie12' timestamp='1347840160' post='2483123'] ya know, this may sound supper weird but can you pray for me about this? I really need to calm down about this. I'm way to "love struck" and it's driving me crazy!!!! So, if you could, please, pray? [/quote] Praying for you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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