Follow-up To Confession Question (and A Bunch Of Tangential Q's)

[Ice_nine]

So ok, all grave sins must be confessed even if you've forgotten about them, didn't realize they were even sins at all etc etc. Got it. I originally asked because of something in my past that I've been feeling particularly dumb about, although I haven't been able to find anything that says it's gravely sinful, and I've looked rilly rilly hard. It's just embarrassing so I'd rather not disclose it all on the internets. I have occasional bouts of anxiety and sometimes struggle with a guilt-complex (scrupulosity? idk) so I'm thinking this particular thing might not be as objectively as terrible as I feel about it. But who knows maybe I'll bring all the awkwardness to the confessoinal >.<, since that is the general advice, "if you're not sure, tell your priest/confessor . . ." even though I'd much rather not if it's not 100% necessary. wah



But also, here's another question, what if you can't remember if you've confessed something or not. I reverted back to the faith 2-3 years ago, and when I went to confession, I had a list of all my sins I could think of. I was very meticulous and all about it (I even had typed errythang out), but I'm not sure if there's a few that I did confess or not. For example after I told the priest I hadn't gone to Mass for years, and he said something like "you shouldn't really receive communion if you haven't been to Mass" and I can't quite remember what I said in response but I think it was something like "I know, I haven't too many times" there by indicating that there were a few times I had, but I really can't remember. I intended to confess that I had taken Communion unworthily, but his response threw me off and now I can't really remember what I said and if it was adequate.

Additionally one of these times where I committed this particular sin is when I received Confirmation (which I basically did not want to do and was more or less forced by my parents to do so. I thought catholicism was bs and all), but I thought that would be included under the "I received communion unworthily thing," but is that a separate sin in itself? Getting confirmed when you're in a state of sin and you're only doing it because you feel forced to do so? Should I confess it?

And then finally would that make the sacrament of confirmation invalid? Like it didn't count or something?

thanks

[CatherineM]

I'm glad you are trying to be conscientious about your faith now, but, at some point you have to relax a bit.