Spem in alium Posted September 12, 2012 Author Share Posted September 12, 2012 [quote name='MissScripture' timestamp='1347409503' post='2481501'] Will she talk to you at ALL? I mean, if you approached her and asked if you had offended her in some way would she respond or is she completely ignoring you, and pretending you don't exist at all? And if you need a break from it, seriously, give my parents a call. They would be more than willing to let you spend the night again or something. (Although, now that I say that, I think this weekend, they might have guys from the NET team staying there one night, so you couldn't that night... LOL) [/quote] Not really. I tried speaking with her yesterday, as in starting a conversation, and she was really short with me (maximum 3-word answers, probably). She never says hi to me, but will say hi to everyone else. We have a class together, and she doesn't even acknowledge that (except for the times when she needed to borrow my textbook - then she actually talked to me). So I don't know what would happen if I approached her. I do wonder sometimes if I did offend her somehow, but I've spent such little time around her that it's hard to pinpoint a time when I could have said or done something. Perhaps she just doesn't consider me worth her time. Thank you so much for that, I really appreciate it I'm holding out to see if they can get a roommate change organised, but if things get too difficult I'll give them a ring. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spem in alium Posted September 14, 2012 Author Share Posted September 14, 2012 Wonderful, amazing pham! There's been a development in my situation. Yesterday my RD contacted me asking if I'd been sent the details of two roommate matches they'd found. I said no, I hadn't...and she replied saying that she thinks there would be a good match between me and a studious, quiet, neat Maths major. I'm hoping to meet her sometime this week/next week. In regards to my suitemates, things are pretty much the same. Most of the time they go about their own things without me - they're still a very definite group, and I'm on the edge. I am getting involved in more things now, which is really helping me combat my homesickness and the pain this was causing me. Nights are still difficult when I'm alone or trying to sleep and they're being loud. The girl who's been cold towards me actually spoke to me today...but only to ask me about the homework for class. I finally told my parents about what's been happening (they knew that I was having trouble, but weren't aware of the specifics). That helped a lot. Most of the time, I just try to show people that I'm having a good time. I don't want them to know I'm upset or having trouble, so I've told very few of my friends and family members about the problems I'm having. Sometimes it's difficult to act like everything's okay when it's not, but I prefer not to cause them any worry. Please continue to pray for a positive outcome. My physical & emotional wellbeing is fluctuating, but I'm finally hanging on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 Good for you, Spem. You are an amesome human being. [i]and don't be startled if the Philter turns the 'w' in amesome upside down... it gets cranky that way... [/i] You are handling this VERY well, and I hope you get a wonderful new roommate! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spem in alium Posted September 16, 2012 Author Share Posted September 16, 2012 [quote name='AnneLine' timestamp='1347767632' post='2482910'] Good for you, Spem. You are an amesome human being. [i]and don't be startled if the Philter turns the 'w' in amesome upside down... it gets cranky that way... [/i] You are handling this VERY well, and I hope you get a wonderful new roommate! [/quote] Aww...thank you so much You are all amesome (and I don't mind the fiddler at all!). I really appreciate all the help everyone's given me. It really means a lot, especially as I'm away from home. I don't know how well I could handle it without you all. Yesterday, things happened and I really made up my mind to try my hardest to find a new place. I don't mind being around people who are different to me, but not in this kind of way, and not when I'm trying to sleep, study or talk to my family or friends on Skype. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 [quote name='Spem in alium' timestamp='1347800500' post='2482977'] Aww...thank you so much You are all amesome (and I don't mind the fiddler at all!). I really appreciate all the help everyone's given me. It really means a lot, especially as I'm away from home. I don't know how well I could handle it without you all. Yesterday, things happened and I really made up my mind to try my hardest to find a new place. I don't mind being around people who are different to me, but not in this kind of way, and not when I'm trying to sleep, study or talk to my family or friends on Skype. [/quote] You haven't tried to murder her in her sleep, or delete an important paper off her computer. You are handling it well. I'm struggling for charity........ toward her.... and you are living with her. And praying for her. You are handling it VERY well..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted September 16, 2012 Share Posted September 16, 2012 [url="http://27.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1vpu0dOmY1qfd0k0o1_1280.jpg"]http://27.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1vpu0dOmY1qfd0k0o1_1280.jpg[/url] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spem in alium Posted September 16, 2012 Author Share Posted September 16, 2012 [quote name='AnneLine' timestamp='1347813369' post='2483007'] You haven't tried to murder her in her sleep, or delete an important paper off her computer. You are handling it well. I'm struggling for charity........ toward her.... and you are living with her. And praying for her. You are handling it VERY well..... [/quote] Thank you, your words are such an encouragement I see the importance in praying for them, so I try and do it. Today's First Reading from Isaiah really resonated with me. I know that Jesus is helping me and guiding me, and with him nothing will be too difficult. But a lot of the time, it's hard to remember to pray. Sometimes I forget that Jesus is always with me. [quote name='cmotherofpirl' timestamp='1347813503' post='2483008'] [url="http://27.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1vpu0dOmY1qfd0k0o1_1280.jpg"]http://27.media.tumb...d0k0o1_1280.jpg[/url] [/quote] Haha, I've seen that image before. I personally don't agree with or need all of them, but they're interesting. The ones that are really affecting me here are #1 and #6...and perhaps #12 too. Perhaps there should also be one saying "Don't push them to meet (or be around) lots of people at once". Or in loud or crowded areas. That's something I struggle with a lot, and particularly with my suitemates bringing people here regularly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 You know.... maybe you are in that room (hopefully not much longer!) to pray for them. To love them. To give them a different experience from what they have had in the past. I often think about how tough it must have been for Jesus to put up with his roommates sometimes... I bet those Apostles were pretty tough to share space with..... Just a thought..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmaD2006 Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 [quote name='Groo the Wanderer' timestamp='1347013726' post='2479762'] set her bed on fire and toss all her stuff out the window [/quote] Groo you got it wrong. It should have read: "set her bed on fire and toss all her stuff on it" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spem in alium Posted September 17, 2012 Author Share Posted September 17, 2012 [quote name='AnneLine' timestamp='1347905487' post='2483359'] You know.... maybe you are in that room (hopefully not much longer!) to pray for them. To love them. To give them a different experience from what they have had in the past. I often think about how tough it must have been for Jesus to put up with his roommates sometimes... I bet those Apostles were pretty tough to share space with..... Just a thought..... [/quote] I think I am meant to pray for them, so I do when I can. That's a great example [quote name='cmariadiaz' timestamp='1347910115' post='2483369'] Groo you got it wrong. It should have read: "set her bed on fire and toss all her stuff on it" [/quote] Sneaky... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spem in alium Posted September 17, 2012 Author Share Posted September 17, 2012 Some great news! (this should really be one of those random update/musing threads, haha!) Not so much related to the living problem...I now have an "International Friend"! Someone from Minnesota who will connect with me for things like coffee, shopping, dinner, cooking, family events, etc. I applied ages ago and never heard back about it, but now I finally have one. I'm hoping this will be another way for me to get out more and enjoy my time here. I also joined a group called "Companions on a Journey". In groups of about five, we meet once a month to discuss spirituality and vocation. Through this group I met the VP of the Catholic group on campus...so now I have the deets about Adoration, Mass and Rosary times that I was so desperately seeking! Things with living have not improved very much, but they are improving a little. I'm trying to interact more with the girls, but I've found that people here don't stop to have conversations much. Back home, if you say hi to someone, you'd most likely stay talking to them for 5-10minutes or so. Here it's just the "hi and walk". It took me a bit to get used to, but I'm finally learning just to leave it at hello with most people. So far, my roommate is continuing to be the most friendly and genuine person in my suite. Last night I was waiting to talk to a friend on Skype, and she said "If you're bored you're welcome to come and watch TV with us". The other girls have never (and probably would never) ask me that. If I do get moved, it really will be a shame to leave her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spem in alium Posted September 17, 2012 Author Share Posted September 17, 2012 Guys! So thrilled. I emailed a potential roommate (the quiet Maths major) last week to organise a meet-up. Anyway...on Wednesday I am meeting with her! I'm trying to keep realistic because there is a chance it may not work out, but she sounds really lovely Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 My experiences with math majors have been universally positive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spem in alium Posted September 17, 2012 Author Share Posted September 17, 2012 (edited) [quote name='Nihil Obstat' timestamp='1347918651' post='2483431'] My experiences with math majors have been universally positive. [/quote] I have only ever met one Maths major, and he was a fairly nice person as far as I could tell. This girl seems lovely I am an English major, so we might be a fun combination! Edited September 17, 2012 by Spem in alium Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted September 17, 2012 Share Posted September 17, 2012 [quote name='cmotherofpirl' timestamp='1347813503' post='2483008'] [url="http://27.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m1vpu0dOmY1qfd0k0o1_1280.jpg"]http://27.media.tumb...d0k0o1_1280.jpg[/url] [/quote] C-Mom... I LOVE LOVE LOVE your link. I will steal it and credit you.... and ask those who get it to say a prayer for you... so I guess we aren't REALLY stealing your link.... Spem, this sounds wonderful... and math & english majors should be able to help each other AND figure out just about anything together.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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