Winchester Posted September 5, 2012 Share Posted September 5, 2012 [quote name='Light and Truth' timestamp='1346810674' post='2478566'] Winchester, what do you mean by that quote? How are you relating this to the topic at hand? [/quote] Think about it. It's good writing. Good advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emmaberry Posted September 5, 2012 Share Posted September 5, 2012 About the dating non-Catholics thing: the Bible says not to be unequally yolked..of course, it also says that a believing wife sanctifies an unbelieving husband, soo.. That's great that it worked out for all of you who married a non-Catholic, or were the non-Catholic yourselves! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted September 5, 2012 Share Posted September 5, 2012 L&T, seriously, read Seraphic's blog. It is exactly the kind of advice and discussions you're asking for right now. [i]Exactly[/i]. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norseman82 Posted September 5, 2012 Share Posted September 5, 2012 [quote name='emmaberry' timestamp='1346812376' post='2478581'] ..of course, it also says that a believing wife sanctifies an unbelieving husband, soo.. [/quote] That may have been referring to cases where one of the spouses was a convert to Christianity but the other was not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groo the Wanderer Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 As a Catholic married to a Prot (AofG), I recommend against it. Marriage is already hard. Add to that the stresses and pressures of the world. Then throw on top of that the religion thing...our worst fights have been about that. How to raise the kid, the ruckus when said kid proudly announced to her mom that she is Catholic, the arguing about time spent at Church (on both sides). At least if my wife was Catholic, that would have been a unifying force instead of a divisive force early on. We worked through it, but it would really have been nice to not have that to contend with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 i don't necessarily recommend against marrying someone outside the faith, but i think people need to have eyes & heart open to the very real hardships of having a relationship with someone outside the faith or of no faith. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slappo Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 [quote name='Light and Truth' timestamp='1346810528' post='2478563'] I expect that if I have kids, they may be mildly special need kids but in ways that can be dealt with, with medication and a little more involvement from me. I want my kids to come out in life as well as possible, so I want to be home part-time when they return home from school. Should that be a deal-breaker? Is knowing if a guy will have a kind of career that makes the possible a deal-breaker matter? Is wanting a guy who is ok with his wife working part-time while the kids are in school (instead of homeschooling*) an ok deal-breaker or just a want category? *Not looking to debate the merits of homeschooling. [/quote] No one can tell you that objectively. It really depends on how important it is to you. For some it may be a deal breaker and for others it may not. Blue collar workers can support a part time or full time SAHM though if you manage money correctly and the individual is able to get promotions/take good job opportunities when they arise. It depends on your level of debt going into marriage too. If you bring 100k in student loans to the table and expect him to pay it off while you stay at home, that's probably an unrealistic expectation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winchester Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Crazy idea: Find people you like. Go out with them. Decide if you can put up with their inadequacies. It doesn't matter who you pick, you're going to have problems. If religion is important, then just pick up dudes from Church. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 [quote name='Winchester' timestamp='1346894088' post='2479178'] Crazy idea: Find people you like. Go out with them. Decide if you can put up with their inadequacies. It doesn't matter who you pick, you're going to have problems. If religion is important, then just pick up dudes from Church. [/quote] i can't prop this post enough. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emmaberry Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 [quote name='Winchester' timestamp='1346894088' post='2479178'] Crazy idea: Find people you like. Go out with them. Decide if you can put up with their inadequacies. It doesn't matter who you pick, you're going to have problems. If religion is important, then just pick up dudes from Church. [/quote] ..and be prepared to wait a couple years if the dude you pick up is a 12 year old altar server. Priests are also off-limits, for the record. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missionseeker Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 [quote name='Light and Truth' timestamp='1346810214' post='2478557'] So like would going out with a guy three times before saying no unless there is an obvious red flag be a good policy? I haven't have enough experience or something to know for sure the difference between not liking a guy and not giving him a chance. Is it like you take the time to go out a couple times but there is still no chemistry/butterflies/strong desire to be with/around/talking to him, then I move on to the next interested/interesting guy who has no obvious deal-breakers? P.S. Thanks for not judging me. [/quote] Honestly? Dating is sometimes soemthing you just have to play by ear. Because people are different what works for one date may not for another. I would just keep in mind that first dates are not always great. In fact, most of them smell of elderberries. People are nervous and shy and awkward. Just remember that. No one minds getting a chance to redeem themselves. lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4588686 Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Walk up to a guy you like. Lick your index finger and then use that finger to gently, gently, gently stroke his eyebrows. first the left one and then the right one. Maintain eye-contact. Repeat 3-7 times. Works every time Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 [quote name='Hasan' timestamp='1346899687' post='2479237'] Walk up to a guy you like. Lick your index finger and then use that finger to gently, gently, gently stroke his eyebrows. first the left one and then the right one. Maintain eye-contact. Repeat 3-7 times. Works every time [/quote] Works for what? Restraining orders? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4588686 Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 [quote name='Nihil Obstat' timestamp='1346901632' post='2479252'] Works for what? Restraining orders? [/quote] You obviously know not a beaver dam thing about the art of seduction. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted September 6, 2012 Share Posted September 6, 2012 Oh right, my mistake, shortcut for restraining orders if a [i]guy[/i] does it. Just going from experience you know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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