Annie12 Posted August 29, 2012 Share Posted August 29, 2012 (edited) So, I know my post in the prayer room was pretty despret. This is because my parents are[u] forcing [/u]me to go to a college that I don't want to go to. I just went along with it until yesterday when I really realized just how much I don't want to go there. Now, I'm the one being blamed for waiting too long to decide this. I don't know about anyone else but I know I don't want to spend $15,000 on one semester that I will most likely end up failing. My parents seem to think I have no choice in the matter because they already put down the $500 deposite. I told them that I want to get a job instead and pay them back the deposite and then go to community college the following semester. I feel like I know what I am doing but my parents don't even want to disscuss it with me. I really don't know what to do. I have never heard of parents [i][u]wanting[/u][/i] to spend so much money on a daughter. What should I do? P.s. maybe I am to blame but I want to make this all right. I don't want college to be a repeat of my high school days. I have a SUPER hard time with academics. Edited August 29, 2012 by Annie12 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted August 29, 2012 Share Posted August 29, 2012 [quote name='Annie12' timestamp='1346247034' post='2475735'] So, I know my post in the prayer room was pretty despret. This is because my parents are[u] forcing [/u]me to go to a college that I don't want to go to. I just went along with it until yesterday when I really realized just how much I don't want to go there. Now, I'm the one being blamed for waiting too long to decide this. I don't know about anyone else but I know I don't want to spend $15,000 on one semester that I will most likely end up failing. My parents seem to think I have no choice in the matter because they already put down the $500 deposite. I told them that I want to get a job instead and pay them back the deposite and then go to community college the following semester. I feel like I know what I am doing but my parents don't even want to disscuss it with me. I really don't know what to do. I have never heard of parents [i][u]wanting[/u][/i] to spend so much money on a daughter. What should I do? P.s. maybe I am to blame but I want to make this all right. I don't want college to be a repeat of my high school days. I have a SUPER hard time with academics. [/quote] Even if they lost the deposit, there's no point in throwing $15,000 of good money after $500 of bad. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie12 Posted August 29, 2012 Author Share Posted August 29, 2012 (edited) Thats what I thought! I really don't know why they're doing this. I didn't think they wanted me to move out that bad... Edited August 29, 2012 by Annie12 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Papist Posted August 29, 2012 Share Posted August 29, 2012 Stop blaming yourself. You can't control your parents. I believe being up front and honest with them. which it seems you are. I would stop telling them you don't want to go to college. But rather share your fears with them, especially the fear of disappointing them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted August 29, 2012 Share Posted August 29, 2012 I'm not sure what's motivating your parents, but I'm assuming you are and adult (even if you are a pretty new one). The outcome of taking out extensive student loans will be yours-- both good (education) and bad (debt). Please don't do this if you are truly not interested/ready. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie12 Posted August 29, 2012 Author Share Posted August 29, 2012 [quote name='Papist' timestamp='1346247805' post='2475740'] Stop blaming yourself. You can't control your parents. I believe being up front and honest with them. which it seems you are. I would stop telling them you don't want to go to college. But rather share your fears with them, especially the fear of disappointing them. [/quote] I tried but they "don't want to talk about it right now". I even had wrote out a plan of what I want to do with this next semester; but of course it was to no avail! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie12 Posted August 29, 2012 Author Share Posted August 29, 2012 (edited) [quote name='homeschoolmom' timestamp='1346248059' post='2475745'] I'm not sure what's motivating your parents, but I'm assuming you are and adult (even if you are a pretty new one). The outcome of taking out extensive student loans will be yours-- both good (education) and bad (debt). Please don't do this if you are truly not interested/ready. [/quote] My parents are literally forcing me to, though. They will pick me up, put me in the car and drop me off there if they have to. They are like that. Edited August 29, 2012 by Annie12 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted August 29, 2012 Share Posted August 29, 2012 [quote name='Annie12' timestamp='1346248191' post='2475749'] My parents are literally forcing me to, though. They will pick me up, put me in the car and drop me off there if they have to. They are like that. [/quote] Oh, wow... I'm speechless. I will pray for you and your parents. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie12 Posted August 29, 2012 Author Share Posted August 29, 2012 (edited) [quote name='homeschoolmom' timestamp='1346248360' post='2475751'] Oh, wow... I'm speechless. I will pray for you and your parents. [/quote] Yeah...but of corse the think they are doing the best thing for me. Ironic thing is this is the only thing in my life they really want to control like this. Edited August 29, 2012 by Annie12 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Papist Posted August 29, 2012 Share Posted August 29, 2012 (edited) [quote name='Annie12' timestamp='1346248103' post='2475746'] I tried but they "don't want to talk about it right now". I even had wrote out a plan of what I want to do with this next semester; but of course it was to no avail! [/quote] [quote name='Annie12' timestamp='1346248191' post='2475749'] My parents are literally forcing me to, though. They will pick me up, put me in the car and drop me off there if they have to. They are like that. [/quote] I would write them a letter. I'd be really interested in why they are so insistent with this plan. I think the community college is a better plan for you. I would want to know if you will be responsible for the debt accrued with their plan. If you do go, you need to do your best to make good grades. Don't set out to prove your parents wrong, but rather prove yourself wrong. Also, no ones says you need to major in astrophysics, right? Edited August 29, 2012 by Papist Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie12 Posted August 29, 2012 Author Share Posted August 29, 2012 This song make everything feel better! [url="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9yvfso4Q8xg"] http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9yvfso4Q8xg[/url] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie12 Posted August 29, 2012 Author Share Posted August 29, 2012 [quote name='Papist' timestamp='1346249371' post='2475759'] I would write them a letter. I'd be really interested in why they are so insistent with this plan. I think the community college is a better plan for you. I would want to know if you will responsible for the debt accrued with their plan. If you do go, you need to do your best for make good grades. Don't set out to prove your parents wrong, but rather prove yourself wrong. Also, no ones says you need to major in astrophysics, right? [/quote] I wrote them a letter they didn't want to read it. The degree is a lot of reading and its generally the college, it's prides its self on reading. I am not a good reader. It's just fact. But I don't know. I don't think I have a choice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Papist Posted August 29, 2012 Share Posted August 29, 2012 [quote name='Annie12' timestamp='1346249507' post='2475761'] I wrote them a letter they didn't want to read it. The degree is a lot of reading and its generally the college, it's prides its self on reading. I am not a good reader. It's just fact. But I don't know. I don't think I have a choice. [/quote] So they picked you major too? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie12 Posted August 29, 2012 Author Share Posted August 29, 2012 [quote name='Papist' timestamp='1346249893' post='2475763'] So they picked you major too? [/quote] Actually, I think you couls say that because this college only has one major. Weird right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Papist Posted August 29, 2012 Share Posted August 29, 2012 [quote name='Annie12' timestamp='1346250523' post='2475771'] Actually, I think you couls say that because this college only has one major. Weird right? [/quote] Yes. Well, if you fears come true, your parents can't be shocked. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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