Dropped By A Friend

[Lilllabettt]

Maggie - just so you know, I am not sad about our mutual friend, I am MAD and before this is all over I am going to find out exactly what her problem is. ,

[Lil Red]

[quote name='Lilllabettt' timestamp='1344558460' post='2465275']
Maggie - just so you know, I am not sad about our mutual friend, I am MAD and before this is all over I am going to find out exactly what her problem is. ,
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give 'em hell, Lilllabettt! that's what sisters are for!

[Maggyie]

Denouement:

Our friend was apparently have a bad struggle with depression related to her cycle. I'm not sure if I accept that this is all that is going on, or not. I am relieved that she has come out of it again. She doesn't have insurance and I have sent her the phone number to call for free/sliding scale help before. But I don't think she's ever used it. I will ask her to consider it again. Her soon-to-be husband is an airman and hopefully Tricare will have something for her after the wedding.

[Archaeology cat]

PMDD can cause such things, I'd think.

[Nola Seminarian]

[quote name='Maggie' timestamp='1344481475' post='2464832']
thank you for the insights/prayers. Sadly I give an incorrect impression of being a social butterfly. As a shy, painfully awkward introvert I can count my friends (not just "facebook friends" I mean) on one hand.

Making friends is very hard for me especially since I am finished with school and it's so hard to connect with other grownups. Now that I don't have "what's your major" as an ice-breaker... or any kids to talk about. Today also would have been my due date so I am sure that is magnifying the crush-factor. I wonder if the psychological factor could play a role. The bride has had a hard life with a lot of challenges, emotional struggles and traumatic events. Is she maybe just embarrassed about missing the going-away party? I would be too but it's not like anyone would hold it against her.

My husband tries to reassure me but I'm just still in disbelief! We've been friends for more than a decade! It can't end this way.. can it. It really is strange and bizarre.

ETA: thank you not that you
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Lord have mercy. I feel for you. I am an introvert myself and I have had this happen with more than one friend (not the same exact situation but similar). It is hard and I felt a certain sense of betrayal. Since I am so introverted the few friends I do have I tend to feel closer and more attached to them than they do to me, and one time I go home from school on Friday then come back Monday and my best friend at the time hated me, wanted nothing to do with me and even tried to get in a physical fight with me. I was beyond crushed, I felt like my brother betrayed me and the worst part was that I had no clue what I did to him to make him do this. My point I guess is that we cannot control other people's perceptions of us, we can only control our actions and try to act as Christian as possible. You may have done nothing wrong, she just may think you did or she may not think you did anything. The possibilities are endless. Not to sound cliche but the only thing you can do for your friend if you still love her (and I'm sure you do) is to pray for her. Maybe even offer your next attendance at Holy Mass for her, and in time you will learn how to cope with the pain.