CatholicCurlyGirl Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 Hello, everyone- Well, I am a 23 (almost 24) year old single woman, and don't date very frequestly, mainly because I'm very busy with work and church. Well, I met a very nice guy at my guitar class and he asked me out, so I've been "seeing" him regularly, and talking to him almost every day now (it's been about 2 weeks). The only problem is that while I'm Catholic, he is not. He actually has no religion. He says he believes "there is a God, but doesn't like organized religion." So, I guess I just wanted to get your opinions on the situation, and also another thing (the main reason I'm tied up about this) is sex and intimacy. I know that it's going to come up eventually, so I guess I just wanted to get someone else's point of view. We're not serious at all, still very early in the relationship, but I guess I just want to be prepared for when (or if) it does come up. This would be so much easier if he were Catholic, or even Protestant, at least then, he would have some basis for understanding where I am coming from, you know? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 there is a thread about this... sorry i can't find it for you. i believe it's on the open mic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theculturewarrior Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 My only advice is that intimacy is an area in which a Catholic cannot and must not compromise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
traichuoi Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 hey CatholicCurlyGirl...the thread where we talked about dating a non-Catholic guy is here: [url="http://phorum.phatmass.com/index.php?showtopic=11863&hl="]http://phorum.phatmass.com/index.php?showtopic=11863&hl=[/url] hope it helps! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatholicCurlyGirl Posted May 18, 2004 Author Share Posted May 18, 2004 Thanks!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
traichuoi Posted May 18, 2004 Share Posted May 18, 2004 you know what else to check out are these sites...they are great for Catholic women and men who want to live a chaste life: [url="http://www.revolutionoflove.com"]http://www.revolutionoflove.com[/url] [url="http://www.nomoho.org"]http://www.nomoho.org[/url] those should help alot! oh and Bobbi (the one who runs Revolution of Love) is awesome, so if you have any questions, i'm sure she can help... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ashley Posted May 18, 2004 Share Posted May 18, 2004 I do not really see a problem. A relationship should not be harmed only because of religion. I am dating an atheist right now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aloysius Posted May 18, 2004 Share Posted May 18, 2004 when one's faith truly fills every aspect of their life, it becomes an issue. if you have fundamental differences regarding morality, specifically sexual morality, it can pose big probs. Pax Amorque Christi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hopeful1 Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 [quote name='Aloysius' date='May 18 2004, 04:53 PM'] when one's faith truly fills every aspect of their life, it becomes an issue. if you have fundamental differences regarding morality, specifically sexual morality, it can pose big probs. Pax Amorque Christi [/quote] tru dat! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CreepyCrawler Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 it depends exactly on what his beliefs are and if he would ask you to compromise your own. it also depends on whether you can handle a relationship where something so important to you cannot be shared with the other person (God and love for Him). some people can handle it, some can't. you need to figure that out. if he ever asks you to have sex, though, just say no and then dump him FAST Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatholicCurlyGirl Posted May 19, 2004 Author Share Posted May 19, 2004 Quick update, he and I had a talk about it yesterday, and I explained to him what my beliefs are and how important my faith is to me, and he said that he wasn't willing to "sacrifice his sex life" to make a commitment to abstinence with me. So needless to say, he's out of the picture. I'm back to waiting for God's chosen man for me to come into my life. Until then, I'll just keep praying!! Thanks, all for the great response!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
He carries me Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 good decision!! it seems like it worked out alright even though it must be a little frustrating, but i think you made the right choice and it's a good thing that you talked to him about it relatively early in the relationship things like that are why it's hard to have a relationship with someone who doesn't share your devotion to your faith don't be discouraged....God just wanted to teach you something through this. maybe it's just that He has someone so much better in store..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
traichuoi Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 CCG that's awesome! gooooooooooooooo Chastity! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theculturewarrior Posted May 19, 2004 Share Posted May 19, 2004 You may find this encouraging. I hope so, anyway. When the right guy comes along, he is going to find your commitment to chastity very attractive. (And there are guys like that out here. ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatholicCurlyGirl Posted May 19, 2004 Author Share Posted May 19, 2004 You guys rock!! I know that God has a plan for me, and beleive that it's only a matter of waiting patiently for His plan to be revealed. I found this experience to be not frustrating, but empowering. The fact that God gave me strength to stand up for what I believe in has made me feel really good about the whole thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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