Opinions/help For A Family Situation

[tinytherese]

I'm no expert, but might catechetical documents such as Adult Catechesis in the Christian Community, On Evangelization in the Modern World by Pope Paul VI, To Teach as Jesus Did, On Catechesis in Our Time, or the General Catechetical Directory have advice on how to handle such situations? I've also read part of Patrick Madrid's book Search and Rescue and so far it hasn't mentioned cutting a family member out of one's life for their life-style.

[Norseman82]

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Please help me here. How is it our Christian obligation to severe the relationship with the mother in this situation? And that by not doing so is giving legitimacy to the sin? Keep in mind, we are not talking about a college friend. We are talking about a mother.



No. That statement is straight out of the Bible. I believe turning your back on your mother is not only un-Christian, but is the easy and cowardly way out. How did Christ treat the prostitutes and tax collectors, which he was ridiculed for doing?
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It is not that your point is not understood. The fact this is a mother/daughter relationship here is important.


"Honor your father and your mother, that you may have a long life in the land the LORD your God is giving you" --Exodus 20:12
"Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy" --Matthew 5:7
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Except that I never said that she should sever the relationship with her mother...

[Papist]

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Except that I never said that she should sever the relationship with her mother...
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I failed to understand you any other way. Sorry.

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You will not have your mom forever, but forever you will only have one mom – unknown

[ImageTrinity]

I think you and your husband have taken exactly the right angle in this situation. Since I know you in person, I can also say I am POSITIVE you are treating your mom with perfect sweetness and charity! I also have relatives who make bad decisions because they are psychologically unstable. All you can do is make it clear that you disagree, then love them and show them God's mercy.

As far as your FIL goes, it's up to your husband to defend the decision you made together as a married couple. Likewise, continuing to communicate with your mom is more your burden.

"Fight all error, but do it with good humor, patience, kindness, and love. Harshness will damage your own soul and spoil the best cause." St. John of Kanty

[Cherie]

Thanks, IT ... That means a lot coming from you!!

[Lil Red]

Missy, et al:
http://www.conversiondiary.com/2012/07/a-conversation-with-my-gay-friend.html

[Fire*Starter]

Your fil is meddling where he dosnt belong.

However!!!! You should be VERY careful about the situation with your mother. Boyfriends are among the higest demographic of abusers. Until she has a legitimate marrage she has a boyfriend. And even then going over to her house with him over isnt wise if you have kids. if you tend to be slightly built or look like your mother you could be a target for an assult, too. It happens WAY more frequently than reported.

Love your mom "from a distance". You have little need to meet this man in a private home. Keep everything public till the church recognizes it.