lil bull 04 Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 i didn't let that awful teacher get to me because i really want to be a Marine. and well listen to what God is leading you to do and not others. thats what i had to do. my parents told me that the military was no place for women but its what i've always wanted to do reguardless of how tough it is and how men supposedly give women an attitude about not belonging there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vianney Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 Maybe if your goals are not from God and not representative of what a 30 year old man ought to be doing in God's eyes. Then it would be justified for him to be a true friend and call you out on it. God Bless Dave and I will pray for ya Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Posted May 17, 2004 Author Share Posted May 17, 2004 [quote name='vianney' date='May 17 2004, 10:17 AM'] Maybe if your goals are not from God and not representative of what a 30 year old man ought to be doing in God's eyes. Then it would be justified for him to be a true friend and call you out on it. God Bless Dave and I will pray for ya [/quote] But who would you or anyone else be to judge if they're from God? That's between the person with the goals and God. God and the person who said such things aren't one and the same. If you're saying that my goals are wrong, that's just YOUR opinion. And I'm not even 30 -- don't make me older than I already am! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dUSt Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 [quote name='Dave' date='May 17 2004, 09:21 AM'] But who would you or anyone else be to judge if they're from God? That's between the person with the goals and God. God and the person who said such things aren't one and the same. If you're saying that my goals are wrong, that's just YOUR opinion. [/quote] Exactly. So why worry about it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Posted May 17, 2004 Author Share Posted May 17, 2004 [quote name='dUSt' date='May 17 2004, 10:22 AM'] Exactly. So why worry about it? [/quote] Well, offering their opinion is one thing. Trying to shove it down your throat and dictating to you what you should consider important is quite another. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 I was belittled in front of a college class for stating that my goal was to get married (I was engaged at the time), work until I had children, quit my job and be a SAHM... He was all, "is that reeeeeeeallly very realistic?" Grr... Anyway... that's what I did... Then I was told by my mom that it was a bad idea to try to homeschool... But we do that, too. It's tough when someone openly critiques the way you are going to live your life anyway... Just do it. Just wait till my mom hears that we are going to sell our house and live in Europe for six months... She'll flip... Oh well... (The road less traveled is much more interesting...) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norseman82 Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 [quote name='Dave' date='May 17 2004, 08:52 AM'] Well, my personal goals aren't something that I would do INSTEAD OF working, having a family, etc. They'd be something I'd do WHILE doing such things. [/quote] Then you know what? As long as it's not illegal or immoral, and as long as you can afford it and take any safety precautions (like wearing a helmet if it involves motorcycling): GO FOR IT!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake Huether Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 Dave, Just pray for those people. Ususally the people who think they know better than you about your own goals are the one's who's goals will never be realized. Go for for your goals, and only take one person with you: God. My prayers are with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs. Bro. Adam Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 [quote name='Dave' date='May 17 2004, 09:11 AM'] How would you feel if someone dismissed certain personal goals of yours as trivial, told you you needed to grow up, and said that at your age you should be more concerned about your vocation, raising a family, etc. (as if you were most people and not yourself)? [/quote] If it were me, I'd take it in stride, and then mimick them behind me back... I think about what they said for about thirty seconds and then try to convince myself that they didn't know what they were talking about. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 (edited) [quote name='Dave' date='May 17 2004, 09:11 AM'] How would you feel if someone dismissed certain personal goals of yours as trivial, told you you needed to grow up, and said that at your age you should be more concerned about your vocation, raising a family, etc. (as if you were most people and not yourself)? [/quote] This depends on if I asked the person for an opinion. If I asked for an opinion then I expect the person to be honest with me. I may not like their advice, I might think they are crazy, I might totally disagree with them, but I asked them, didn't I. I expect my friends to tell me the truth when asked, otherwise they are not really my friends. Truth can set you free, but can hurt like hell in the process. Unsolicited advice is not the same. Edited May 17, 2004 by cmotherofpirl Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dave Posted May 17, 2004 Author Share Posted May 17, 2004 (edited) [quote name='cmotherofpirl' date='May 17 2004, 01:27 PM'] This depends on if I asked the person for an opinion. If I asked for an opinion then I expect the person to be honest with me. I may not like their advice, I might think they are crazy, I might totally disagree with them, but I asked them, didn't I. I expect my friends to tell me the truth when asked, otherwise they are not really my friends. Truth can set you free, but can hurt like hell in the process. [/quote] I didn't ask anyone's opinion on the subject matter at hand. Not at all. It was totally unsolicited. Edited May 17, 2004 by Dave Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 Then let it go and move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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