How Would You Feel If Someone Did This?

[Dave]

How would you feel if someone dismissed certain personal goals of yours as trivial, told you you needed to grow up, and said that at your age you should be more concerned about your vocation, raising a family, etc. (as if you were most people and not yourself)?

[CreepyCrawler]

i would probably get really upset and then go somewhere and cry. did this happen to you?

[Dave]

[quote name='CreepyCrawler' date='May 17 2004, 08:13 AM'] i would probably get really upset and then go somewhere and cry. did this happen to you? [/quote]
yeah

I don't really want to talk about it on here.

[CreepyCrawler]

understandable.

i will pray for you.

[Phazzan]

[quote name='Dave' date='May 17 2004, 07:11 AM'] How would you feel if someone dismissed certain personal goals of yours as trivial, told you you needed to grow up, and said that at your age you should be more concerned about your vocation, raising a family, etc. (as if you were most people and not yourself)? [/quote]
Depends if your goals are realistic or not. I know this girl who thinks one day she will win 'World Idol'.

[Dave]

[quote name='Phazzan' date='May 17 2004, 08:30 AM'] Depends if your goals are realistic or not. I know this girl who thinks one day she will win 'World Idol'. [/quote]
Yes, my goals are realistic. Nothing like World Idol.

[Catholic_4_Life]

You know, I just went through the Franklin Covey 7 Habits of Highly Effective People seminar. In that seminar they taught us about setting short term and long term goals. One of the key elements to setting a goal is to set them a bit lower than the end goal in mind. To do the goals in steps, so that eventually you finish each step to reach that end goal. If you set the end goal as your initial goal you will see that you aren't making much progress and feel like a failure.

Does that make sense?

Anyway, they also said, your goals are YOURS...not someone elses. Don't let someone else tell you how you should live your life, or what goals you should set for yourself and/or your family. So, what I say to you is...set those goals and go for it!

Peace!

Steven

[homeschoolmom]

Gee, Dave... Have you been talking to my mom!!?

[JP2Iloveyou]

I think I'd have to know more about the conversation to comment. We have only heard your side of the story. Maybe what that person told you, you needed to hear. A real friend will not always tell you what you want to hear, a real friend will always tell you what you need to hear.

[Dave]

[quote name='JP2Iloveyou' date='May 17 2004, 09:21 AM'] I think I'd have to know more about the conversation to comment.  We have only heard your side of the story.  Maybe what that person told you, you needed to hear.  A real friend will not always tell you what you want to hear, a real friend will always tell you what you need to hear. [/quote]
No, this wasn't stuff that should've been said in the first place. I didn't need to hear the stuff he said. Would you ever tell someone that personal, realistic goals they have that are really important to them are trivial? I hope not!

Edited May 17, 2004 by Dave

[Norseman82]

[quote name='Dave' date='May 17 2004, 07:11 AM'] How would you feel if someone dismissed certain personal goals of yours as trivial, told you you needed to grow up, and said that at your age you should be more concerned about your vocation, raising a family, etc. (as if you were most people and not yourself)? [/quote]
Dave,

I can relate, because even when my goal is to raise a family - that too is trivialized and dismissed!!!

With some people you can't win. That's why I just cut down on my involvement with them.

But then again, I don't know the specific issue they are trivializing or why, or if it someone at home or here on the phorum.

The only reason I would tell someone to worry about raising a family or one's vocation/career is that, for practical reasons, one doesn't want to wait until they are too old. We do need to be able to support ourselves and sometimes taking too much time off from our careers can have detrimental effects later on when employers look at our resumes and wonder about the gaps. And personally, I would rather raise children when I am young and healthy instead of older and having to battle advancing age (although a lot of people dismiss that concern too).

[Dave]

[quote name='Norseman82' date='May 17 2004, 09:49 AM'] The only reason I would tell someone to worry about raising a family or one's vocation/career is that, for practical reasons, one doesn't want to wait until they are too old. We do need to be able to support ourselves and sometimes taking too much time off from our careers can have detrimental effects later on when employers look at our resumes and wonder about the gaps. And personally, I would rather raise children when I am young and healthy instead of older and having to battle advancing age (although a lot of people dismiss that concern too). [/quote]
Well, my personal goals aren't something that I would do INSTEAD OF working, having a family, etc. They'd be something I'd do WHILE doing such things.

[lil bull 04]

actually a teacher at my high school did that to me last week. she told me that women do not belong in the miltary and well thats what i want to after highs school. I want to be a Marine!

It is really annoying. When people do that. It can be frustrating. I just told the teacher that she was wrong and she left me alone.

[Colleen]

Yeah, people have done that to me (recently) and it's really uncalled for. You're in charge of your own life. I think if you want to accomplish these goals, then do them. No one else can live your life for you.

If you're not sure about what to do, ask God to guide you on what step to take next.

[dUSt]

I wouldn't worry about what anybody else said, and move on.

How would I feel? I probably wouldn't. I stopped having feelings back around '95. haha