PhuturePriest Posted June 5, 2012 Share Posted June 5, 2012 Most of the stuff here is good, but I would like to remind everyone that sometimes people simply do not know what they have said was wrong. Or maybe I was the only exception. Let's see... My best at acting like an "arse portal"... Oh! I know! "Read Romans 8:28. It'll make you feel better, trust me." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IcePrincessKRS Posted June 5, 2012 Share Posted June 5, 2012 "Offer it up" is also high on the list of things not to say to someone who is suffering and seeking comfort. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4588686 Posted June 5, 2012 Share Posted June 5, 2012 [quote name='IcePrincessKRS' timestamp='1338871367' post='2441095'] "Offer it up" is also high on the list of things not to say to someone who is suffering and seeking comfort. [/quote] How about saying that they're just hormonal and it'll pass in a few days? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Papist Posted June 5, 2012 Share Posted June 5, 2012 I would add, simply listen and be present with him/her. [quote name='Tab'le Du'Bah-Rye' timestamp='1338861391' post='2441001'] Would you prefer my will perhaps jamie? My steps are simple and probably wrong. "BURY THEM AND WAIT FOR JESUS TO RESURECT THEM!" well thats what i feel like doing half the time anyway, not that i do. But if i truely had it on my will, my feeling and thinking sometimes is like pole axe them, no one can rescue them once buried so they will have to cry out to jesus'. Kind of forced repentance in the jail with a metal toilet brush attitude. Surely jamie God's will iz better. [/quote] May I suggest placing your ailments/worries/etc. at the foot of the cross. I find it best to ask Christ to help me carrying my cross, not take it from me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groo the Wanderer Posted June 5, 2012 Share Posted June 5, 2012 i guess these don't fit the paradigm here: get over it man up put on yer big girl panties want me to call the wah-mbulance? i don;t see a bone sticking out. get up want some coagulated milk with that whine? shut up or i'll give you a reason to cry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rowan d'Alexandre Posted June 5, 2012 Share Posted June 5, 2012 (edited) [quote name='Papist' timestamp='1338897096' post='2441132'] I would add, simply listen and be present with him/her. [/quote] ^This. My few friends have been severely depressed for years; most used to be cutters and suicidal. I'd be up at all hours of the morning trying to keep them from cutting their wrists open....and they didn't want to hear "everything's going to be okay." Obviously that's a pretty extreme point of view, but just listening without judgement can be the most sensitive & gentle approach. Edited June 5, 2012 by Rowan d'Alexandre Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Papist Posted June 5, 2012 Share Posted June 5, 2012 [quote name='Groo the Wanderer' timestamp='1338904627' post='2441151'] i guess these don't fit the paradigm here: get over it man up put on yer big girl panties want me to call the wah-mbulance? i don;t see a bone sticking out. get up want some coagulated milk with that whine? shut up or i'll give you a reason to cry [/quote] That would be counterproductive....and very likely harmful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Papist Posted June 5, 2012 Share Posted June 5, 2012 [quote name='Rowan d'Alexandre' timestamp='1338905742' post='2441157'] ^This. My few friends have been severely depressed for years; most used to be cutters and suicidal. I'd be up at all hours of the morning trying to keep them from cutting their wrists open....and they didn't want to hear "everything's going to be okay." Obviously that's a pretty extreme point of view, but just listening without judgement can be the most sensitive & gentle approach. [/quote] There are times that one must contact the authorities for the person safety. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rowan d'Alexandre Posted June 5, 2012 Share Posted June 5, 2012 (edited) [quote name='Papist' timestamp='1338906474' post='2441160'] There are times that one must contact the authorities for the person safety. [/quote] I agree completely. Yes, parents and guardians know & have known about it. It's a long and painful history and I can't expound upon it past that. Edited June 5, 2012 by Rowan d'Alexandre Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Papist Posted June 5, 2012 Share Posted June 5, 2012 [quote name='Rowan d'Alexandre' timestamp='1338906931' post='2441164'] I agree completely. Yes, parents and guardians know & have known about it. It's a long and painful history and I can't expound upon it past that. [/quote] Nor would I want you to. I did not intend to speak of your friend specifically. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IcePrincessKRS Posted June 5, 2012 Share Posted June 5, 2012 [quote name='Hasan' timestamp='1338871438' post='2441096'] How about saying that they're just hormonal and it'll pass in a few days? [/quote] That's a definite no-no. Especially if you value your life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Papist Posted June 5, 2012 Share Posted June 5, 2012 [quote name='Hasan' timestamp='1338871438' post='2441096'] How about saying that they're just hormonal and it'll pass in a few days? [/quote] Yes. I recommend you do that. Let us know how it turns out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arfink Posted June 5, 2012 Share Posted June 5, 2012 [quote name='Papist' timestamp='1338908254' post='2441177'] Yes. I recommend you do that. Let us know how it turns out. [/quote] There might be a bone sticking out afterwards. Just sayin' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Papist Posted June 5, 2012 Share Posted June 5, 2012 [quote name='arfink' timestamp='1338909689' post='2441183'] There might be a bone sticking out afterwards. Just sayin' [/quote] You're right. That would require pics. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FutureCarmeliteClaire Posted June 5, 2012 Share Posted June 5, 2012 I found a couple of things that have helped me was just patience. I have been having a REALLY difficult time with the death of my great-grandma, and a few friends tried to give me some advice, and I was doing my usual defiant thing (I was being pretty stupid), and they were just patient with me. Sometimes it makes all the difference to just say, "I love you." or "I'm sorry." Those short comments really kept me going. And SOMETIMES, just sometimes it helps to change the subject (if the person wants to). God Bless the people who put up with me! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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