MissyP89 Posted June 7, 2012 Share Posted June 7, 2012 Hope you're doing better tonight too, dude. I offered my suffering for you guys today, and will be doing the same tomorrow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amppax Posted June 7, 2012 Share Posted June 7, 2012 Dude, I've been saying bunches of prayers. Sorry to hear about your fiance's job situation. I'll keep praying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vincent Vega Posted June 7, 2012 Share Posted June 7, 2012 You and your girl (and your baby) have been constantly on my mind these past couple of days. Glad to know things are beginning to fall back into place. The offer from before stands if you need anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marie-Therese Posted June 7, 2012 Share Posted June 7, 2012 Still sending love. Offering my day in the trenches in the ER tomorrow for you guys. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
qfnol31 Posted June 7, 2012 Share Posted June 7, 2012 [quote name='kujo' timestamp='1339026116' post='2441977'] Today was a better day. She's going to be meeting with someone on monday morning. [/quote]I'm glad things are starting to improve for her, hopefully even with the job situation as it is, and I hope things are starting to look up a little for you too. I'm sorry you're going through this. I know nothing can prepare you for it and I'm sure it's hard for the both of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted June 7, 2012 Share Posted June 7, 2012 (edited) Kujo, that was very sweet of you to say that (and thanks for the vote of confidence, Icy!). We have interacted before on a wild thread a few weeks ago..... you can always do a search Most of the time we tend to hang out in different PhatNeighborhoods. But I don't think I have ever had ANYONE say anything as nice as that... and it has been one of those weeks, so it is definitely is appreciated! But isn't that the way Phamily is? We share good and bad things... we celebrate, we ignore... we fight... but when stuff comes down, we are THERE for each other. Yes. Hope you and Amanda connect with some good grief counselors... and I'm still suggesting the Anointing of the Sick..... it is a VERY powerful sacrament, and both of you can use some healing...... --------------- One other thought... while I hate it that Amanda was terminated from her job, she might be eligible for disability and/or unemployment if those are available in your state.... my bet is she might be eligible for one or the other...check into them! Continuing to pray & hold you in my heart.... Edited June 7, 2012 by AnneLine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maximillion Posted June 7, 2012 Share Posted June 7, 2012 prayers................... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adrestia Posted June 7, 2012 Share Posted June 7, 2012 It sure sounds like things are improving. I hope Amanda feels some amount of comfort (if that's even possible yet) knowing that she has an army praying for her. And yes, AnneLine is awesomesauce. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kujo Posted June 8, 2012 Author Share Posted June 8, 2012 I really, truly can't thank you all enough. As you might have gathered from my participation in some threads in the last day or so, I am starting to feel a little bit more like myself. Not much has changed--she made the appointment for early next week, and we'll be going from there. Financially, things are going to smell of elderberries real hard unless she gets this job at the library, so I'm certainly praying for that. I can't help feeling a little in the lurch in terms of our relationship--this whole thing began with her telling me (totally out of the blue) that she was having doubts about us and about whether or not she could be "what I want" (i.e.- a wife and mother). Since the whole thing spiraled out of control, it seems to be that she didn't mean that stuff as much as it initially seemed, and she has told me several times that she wants to be with me and that she loves me. Nevertheless, I can't help feeling like there's another shoe waiting to drop. I'm pushing all that stuff out of the way so that she has room to get better and address the core issues without pressure or stress about us. But while I'm doing that, my heart feels like it's aching. Ugh. I didn't intend this to be another emo rant. I just wanted to say thanks again and let you all know how truly loved and appreciated you are. She doesn't really know about this prayer army she's got working for her, and I think there's something beautiful about that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IcePrincessKRS Posted June 8, 2012 Share Posted June 8, 2012 [quote name='kujo' timestamp='1339171695' post='2442535'] I really, truly can't thank you all enough. As you might have gathered from my participation in some threads in the last day or so, I am starting to feel a little bit more like myself. Not much has changed--she made the appointment for early next week, and we'll be going from there. Financially, things are going to smell of elderberries real hard unless she gets this job at the library, so I'm certainly praying for that. I can't help feeling a little in the lurch in terms of our relationship--this whole thing began with her telling me (totally out of the blue) that she was having doubts about us and about whether or not she could be "what I want" (i.e.- a wife and mother). Since the whole thing spiraled out of control, it seems to be that she didn't mean that stuff as much as it initially seemed, and she has told me several times that she wants to be with me and that she loves me. Nevertheless, I can't help feeling like there's another shoe waiting to drop. I'm pushing all that stuff out of the way so that she has room to get better and address the core issues without pressure or stress about us. But while I'm doing that, my heart feels like it's aching. Ugh. I didn't intend this to be another emo rant. I just wanted to say thanks again and let you all know how truly loved and appreciated you are. She doesn't really know about this prayer army she's got working for her, and I think there's something beautiful about that. [/quote] Maybe she was just having self-doubt, like "Am I really good enough?" not "I don't really want to do this." Either way you know we've got your back, prayerfully speaking, and we're here if you need to talk. The prayer army will keep marching on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted June 8, 2012 Share Posted June 8, 2012 (edited) Hang in there. This army continues to do what it does well. (Of course, some of us specialize in one or another of those.......) One thing at a time.... stabilize, let her know she is loved, and then work out your issues..... Suggest she check into the unemployment and/or disability thing.... if physicially or emotionally she just isn't able to work right now (and the miscarriage alone could do that....) she may be eligible for disability insurance.... If she is able & available to work, she may be able to get unemployment. Both can help keep you above water financially if she is not able to find work right away.... Most likely she can get one or the other... and sometimes the U.I. can help one get training benefits, too.... Nothing lost in applying..... it's an insurance benefit just like other insurance benefits... they not a hand-outs.... they are safety nets... Still praying! I'm stubborn!!! Edited June 8, 2012 by AnneLine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adrestia Posted June 8, 2012 Share Posted June 8, 2012 Yeah. What they said. You & Amanda are not alone. Some of the Catholic support groups for parents who have lost a child in utero even offer a naming / memorial service. Prayers continuing. As an aside, I have had several semi-Catholic friends and relatives get married in the Catholic Church because of cultural / family pressure moreso than strong religious conviction. In all but one case, they reported that the pre-marital counseling strengthened their relationship - even when the partner wasn't Catholic. They said that the priest (or whoever) brought up issues that they either hadn't thought of or were afraid to bring up for some reason. It might be something to consider down the road. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kujo Posted June 9, 2012 Author Share Posted June 9, 2012 Really feeling like sh*t tonight, to be frank. Been working since she left, and it's been successful at keeping my mind off it all for the most part. But tonight...I dunno, it just seems like the weight of it all is really starting to crash down on me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissyP89 Posted June 9, 2012 Share Posted June 9, 2012 Come hangout with us. We'll keep you company. <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted June 9, 2012 Share Posted June 9, 2012 Good suggestion to go hangout in the G+hangout.... I don't G+, but occasionally will go to chat.... Kujo.... Gonna be nights & weekends like that... it's normal. Doesn't feel great, but it helps to know it is normal. Gof find some people when it happens; it can help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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