Byzantine Posted June 1, 2012 Share Posted June 1, 2012 where I again show my incompetence in matters of dating. So, after failing to ask a girl out twice, I figure third time's it. If I even proceed at all. So, when would be the best time to try? -Graduation (I'm pretty sure this is a "no") -My graduation party (Probably also a no because then the poor girl's trapped there with her parents enjoying themselves and... yeah. Awkward) -Someone else's graduation party. -Her place of work ("Now that you've served me a pizza, wanna go see a movie?") -Next time I see her at school (which would probably be the Christmas play or alumni day, whatever that is) -Ask her out over email (which even I know is probably a really really lame way of going about it) Now that I think about it, all of these times are terrible. Gee I wish I'd had some sense earlier in the year. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted June 1, 2012 Share Posted June 1, 2012 Is there any way to see her in a normal setting? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groo the Wanderer Posted June 1, 2012 Share Posted June 1, 2012 stalk her for weeks wake her up at 4am by throwing cow patties at her window scream your love in a death-curdling way so the neighbors hear all dating is for foolish persons. you have the rest of your life ahead of ya. don;t waste it pining over a chick. God will send the right one your way in His time, IF thats the path He has chosen for you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Innocent Posted June 1, 2012 Share Posted June 1, 2012 As I said before, I have zero experience here, so you'd better ignore what I say, but if you decide to write an email, why not slightly improve upon it by getting some nice paper and a good fountain pen and writing her a letter, and then post it the old fashioned way? But I suppose the problem is that if she chooses to ignore the letter, you'll have no way of knowing if she even received it. (Maybe bike up to her house and drop it in the postbox yourself?) Or if you want to be funny, send a telegram. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hubertus Posted June 1, 2012 Share Posted June 1, 2012 [quote name='Groo the Wanderer' timestamp='1338523712' post='2439135'] dating is for foolish persons. you have the rest of your life ahead of ya. don;t waste it pining over a chick. God will send the right one your way in His time, IF thats the path He has chosen for you [/quote] You're saying he shouldn't ask a girl out? [quote name='Groo the Wanderer' timestamp='1338523712' post='2439135'] stalk her for weeks wake her up at 4am by throwing cow patties at her window scream your love in a death-curdling way so the neighbors hear all [/quote] Forget all that, Byz, just be sure to give her bacon! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groo the Wanderer Posted June 1, 2012 Share Posted June 1, 2012 no. just saying if she said no twice, no sense in losing sleep over it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted June 1, 2012 Share Posted June 1, 2012 You have graduated and you like this girl. I would say you are old enough to date. When does Groo want you to start dating, when you're twenty-five? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groo the Wanderer Posted June 1, 2012 Share Posted June 1, 2012 from experience, guys are stupid until 25 some even longer... dating isn;t a good idea anyway. just hang out (in a group). no expectations, no awkwardness, no temptations Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted June 1, 2012 Share Posted June 1, 2012 [quote name='Groo the Wanderer' timestamp='1338524216' post='2439140'] no. just saying if she said no twice, no sense in losing sleep over it [/quote] No, she didn't say no twice, he attempted to ask her but failed twice, to my understanding. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissScripture Posted June 1, 2012 Share Posted June 1, 2012 [quote name='Groo the Wanderer' timestamp='1338524216' post='2439140'] no. just saying if she said no twice, no sense in losing sleep over it [/quote] If I understand correctly, he hasn't actually asked her. He's tried but failed to even ask her, so she hasn't said yes or no. But I could be wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hubertus Posted June 1, 2012 Share Posted June 1, 2012 (edited) Assuming you didn't mean that you have already asked her twice before.. Why don't you just ask for her number first? Then you can call (not text) her and ask her out. Pretty standard. Edited June 1, 2012 by Hubertus Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groo the Wanderer Posted June 1, 2012 Share Posted June 1, 2012 how does one fail to ask a question? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Byzantine Posted June 1, 2012 Author Share Posted June 1, 2012 [quote name='Hubertus' timestamp='1338526607' post='2439167'] Assuming you didn't mean that you have already asked her twice before.. Why don't you just ask for her number first? Then you can call (not text) her and ask her out. Pretty standard. [/quote] I might do this. [quote name='Groo the Wanderer' timestamp='1338554826' post='2439258'] how does one fail to ask a question? [/quote] Everyone who said I failed to ask twice was correct. It's actually pretty easy to fail to ask. The first time, I was about to ask but lost my nerve because suddenly we were in an area populated by lots of her friends plus her mom. Which would have made things awkward. The second time, I failed because my plan had been to ask her early in the morning in the studio when she dropped a movie off, but by the time she got there just about everyone else had too and I couldn't leave the studio with her. Yes, I am this pathetic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groo the Wanderer Posted June 1, 2012 Share Posted June 1, 2012 oic you did not fail to ask. you just got nervous. i was worse at your age...no worries Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hubertus Posted June 1, 2012 Share Posted June 1, 2012 (edited) Well, you do want to do it at the right time, even if it's just asking for her number. You might already know that she's single, but I asked for a girl's number once just because she was in my class and I wanted to text her about the homework, and she said, "Oh, I have a boyfriend.." It was really awkward because we were at the advising office and people were staring.. lol. So yeah, finding a more private time is good because for one it will make you feel less awkward, and for two she'll feel more comfortable. So you aren't pathetic lol, you've got the right idea. Just be confident! You got this. Edited June 1, 2012 by Hubertus Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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