Vincent Vega Posted May 23, 2012 Share Posted May 23, 2012 [quote name='Byzantine' timestamp='1337744967' post='2433891'] 1. The father frankly struck terror in my heart until this year.[/quote] I've dated girls with scary dads - one of them was a 6'8, 250 poundish firefighter, and I'm from a place where a house is not a home until you've moved in your firearms. I've found that as long as you aren't afraid to look them in the eye and be straight with them, usually they'll let you be. [quote] 3. What bizarre mixed of tenses/moods/aspects shall you be referred to by? [/quote] This: [color=#282828]but if she is as good of a friend as you think she is, she'll eventually get over it and things will be as they once were.[/color] Should have been: she'd eventually get over it and things would be as they once were. It was weird to mix the conditional and the future. I guess with as much time as I've spent talking about it now, I should have just fixed it in the first place and been done with it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Byzantine Posted May 23, 2012 Author Share Posted May 23, 2012 [quote name='USAirwaysIHS' timestamp='1337746128' post='2433896'] This: [color=#282828]but if she is as good of a friend as you think she is, she'll eventually get over it and things will be as they once were.[/color] Should have been: she'd eventually get over it and things would be as they once were. It was weird to mix the conditional and the future. I guess with as much time as I've spent talking about it now, I should have just fixed it in the first place and been done with it. [/quote] I still don't see, but whatever. Would it be a bad idea to just go up to her and be like "I just wanna say, I really like you" and play it by ear from there? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vincent Vega Posted May 23, 2012 Share Posted May 23, 2012 Not at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MIKolbe Posted May 23, 2012 Share Posted May 23, 2012 [quote name='Byzantine' timestamp='1337767164' post='2433924'] Would it be a bad idea to just go up to her and be like "I just wanna say, I really like you" and play it by ear from there? [/quote] that's what I was gonna suggest... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissyP89 Posted May 23, 2012 Share Posted May 23, 2012 "I like you" is how I found out my boyfriend liked me. It honestly made me respect him a great deal for his courage. (I wasn't ready for a relationship when he told me that, but we did end up getting together a few months later, after spending time together through the summer.) I wouldn't preface the "big reveal" with calling yourself stupid. There is absolutely nothing stupid about admitting your feelings. What you can say after you tell her is that while you hope that her feelings are the same, you're very glad to have her as a friend no matter what and that you just wanted to tell her the truth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slappo Posted May 23, 2012 Share Posted May 23, 2012 [quote name='Byzantine' timestamp='1337744967' post='2433891'] Huh? [/quote] It can be quite awkward having a huge crush on someone that doesn't know you have a crush on them. Especially if they start to suspect it and you never do anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Byzantine Posted May 23, 2012 Author Share Posted May 23, 2012 (edited) [quote name='MissyP89' timestamp='1337803053' post='2434059'] "I like you" is how I found out my boyfriend liked me. It honestly made me respect him a great deal for his courage. (I wasn't ready for a relationship when he told me that, but we did end up getting together a few months later, after spending time together through the summer.) I wouldn't preface the "big reveal" with calling yourself stupid. There is absolutely nothing stupid about admitting your feelings. What you can say after you tell her is that while you hope that her feelings are the same, you're very glad to have her as a friend no matter what and that you just wanted to tell her the truth. [/quote] Thanks! [quote name='Slappo' timestamp='1337804160' post='2434066'] It can be quite awkward having a huge crush on someone that doesn't know you have a crush on them. Especially if they start to suspect it and you never do anything. [/quote] Ah. I see. Actually, I think this might have happened with me and other girls. Potentially multiple times. So basically, right now I'm thinking I'll try. How does this plan sound? Tomorrow, a bell will ring at the end of the day and everyone will leave except her, me, and my best friend (because of dismissal patterns. Interesting how this worked out). I will have arranged to get my best friend to engage the teacher and distract him. Then I will go whichever of these routes seems better to people on here: 1. "[Name], it's the last day of classes in our senior year, and, well, I really like you, and I'd like to know how I should proceed." and play it by ear from there. 2. "[Name], how's your schedule next week (conversational tone, implying little because we have practice for graduation)? [i]Says day she's free.[/i] How'd you like to go see [i]either '[/i]a movie' [i]or insert movie name here[/i] with me?" Edited May 23, 2012 by Byzantine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sixpence Posted May 24, 2012 Share Posted May 24, 2012 [quote name='Byzantine' timestamp='1337817368' post='2434137'] Thanks! Ah. I see. Actually, I think this might have happened with me and other girls. Potentially multiple times. So basically, right now I'm thinking I'll try. How does this plan sound? Tomorrow, a bell will ring at the end of the day and everyone will leave except her, me, and my best friend (because of dismissal patterns. Interesting how this worked out). I will have arranged to get my best friend to engage the teacher and distract him. Then I will go whichever of these routes seems better to people on here: 1. "[Name], it's the last day of classes in our senior year, and, well, I really like you, and I'd like to know how I should proceed." and play it by ear from there. 2. "[Name], how's your schedule next week (conversational tone, implying little because we have practice for graduation)? [i]Says day she's free.[/i] How'd you like to go see [i]either '[/i]a movie' [i]or insert movie name here[/i] with me?" [/quote] I would find the first one pretty awkward if I was the girl... but maybe that's just me. I like #2 better. Starting with a "what are you up to (during certain time frame)?" gives her the chance to realize what maybe be occurring (you asking her on a date) and to say either "wow, I'm super busy" (bad) "wow, I'm super busy then, but I will have more free time (at some point)" (GOOD); or "I am going to be sooo bored, I have nothing to do then" (GREAT). If you get the first response either she is oblivious (could happen) or she isn't interested and she is trying not to have to say it outright. If you then ask about a later date and she says the same, its probably best to let it rest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Byzantine Posted May 24, 2012 Author Share Posted May 24, 2012 [quote name='sixpence' timestamp='1337818322' post='2434142'] I would find the first one pretty awkward if I was the girl... but maybe that's just me. I like #2 better. Starting with a "what are you up to (during certain time frame)?" gives her the chance to realize what maybe be occurring (you asking her on a date) and to say either "wow, I'm super busy" (bad) "wow, I'm super busy then, but I will have more free time (at some point)" (GOOD); or "I am going to be sooo bored, I have nothing to do then" (GREAT). If you get the first response either she is oblivious (could happen) or she isn't interested and she is trying not to have to say it outright. If you then ask about a later date and she says the same, its probably best to let it rest. [/quote] Thanks. And I've also learned that if she begins anything with "That's sweet of you," she's going to reject whatever the idea is. Good news is I only remember hearing it when, in retrospect, it was a pretty bad idea. So as long as she doesn't begin like that, I might have a good chance. Although now I'm wondering... Do I have the right reasons? Yes, it would make me very happy, but I'm not sure I'm considering her enough... Or is that partly point of asking her out, getting her feelings on the matter? Or do I just have no idea what I'm talking about? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Byzantine Posted May 24, 2012 Author Share Posted May 24, 2012 Quick question: Supposing I do ask her out, and assuming I go with this, [quote name='Byzantine' timestamp='1337817368' post='2434137'] 2. "[Name], how's your schedule next week (conversational tone, implying little because we have practice for graduation)? [i]Says day she's free.[/i] How'd you like to go see [i]either '[/i]a movie' [i]or insert movie name here[/i] with me?" [/quote] Should I just say "a movie" and have a few in mind, or should I specify a movie? Any recommendations? I was thinking [i]The Avengers, For Greater Glory,[/i] or maybe [i]Battleship.[/i] But then again, I don't really know what kind of movie you take a girl to see. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vincent Vega Posted May 24, 2012 Share Posted May 24, 2012 I don't like taking girls to movies. It's wasted time to me. You can't get to know somebody by looking at a screen with her. Take her to a decent but affordable lunch (and heck, if you're paying for her movie ticket, you could buy her a decent lunch for just as much), and then do something like go to a local museum or park or something. Then you can actually be with her rather than just being near her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaime Posted May 24, 2012 Share Posted May 24, 2012 I took a girl to a movie on a first date. She met her now husband of 18 years at that movie. I'd suggest something else Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slappo Posted May 24, 2012 Share Posted May 24, 2012 Go for a coffee or something. Also, a day time date is less "romantic" than something in the evening (like dinner). So a day time date might be the better plan. Coffee or lunch followed by a stroll in the park. All places where you can talk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4588686 Posted May 24, 2012 Share Posted May 24, 2012 Just wait till she walks bu and be all 'hey hey girl back that thing up!' then you gotta be all 'Ima let you date me but this is a once in a lifetime opportunity so you betta bring yo a game' since chicks dig confidence and all. That's what I do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slappo Posted May 24, 2012 Share Posted May 24, 2012 (edited) [quote name='Hasan' timestamp='1337901518' post='2434540'] Just wait till she walks bu and be all [b]'hey hey girl back that thing up[/b]!' then you gotta be all 'Ima let you date me but this is a once in a lifetime opportunity so you betta bring yo a game' since chicks dig confidence and all. That's what I do. [/quote] If you're lucky she'll respond with: "I'm backin' up backin' up backin' up backin' up, cause my daddy taught me good" (at work or I'd post the youtube reference) Edited May 24, 2012 by Slappo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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