Adrestia Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 The exact same behavior by a woman elicits different responses from different men. I for the life of me can't figure out how one guy assumes my kindness is flirting when another guy interprets my behavior appropriately. If I try to behave with less kindness for fear of leading someone on, not only do I feel like fake, I'm accused of being mean. Seriously. How do I get my neighbor who manages the local pizza place to stop texting me without being mean? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adrestia Posted February 19, 2012 Share Posted February 19, 2012 The exact same behavior by a woman elicits different responses from different men. I for the life of me can't figure out how one guy assumes my kindness is flirting when another guy interprets my behavior appropriately. If I try to behave with less kindness for fear of leading someone on, not only do I feel like fake, I'm accused of being mean. Seriously. How do I get my neighbor who manages the local pizza place to stop texting me without being mean?The exact same behavior by a woman elicits different responses from different men. I for the life of me can't figure out how one guy assumes my kindness is flirting when another guy interprets my behavior appropriately. If I try to behave with less kindness for fear of leading someone on, not only do I feel like fake, I'm accused of being mean. Seriously. How do I get my neighbor who manages the local pizza place to stop texting me without being mean? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 I'm glad I'm not interested in dating. The entire world of women is just plain scary, and I'd rather stay away from a world that has more complexity than my mind can handle. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 [quote name='Adrestia' timestamp='1329684330' post='2389516'] The exact same behavior by a woman elicits different responses from different men. I for the life of me can't figure out how one guy assumes my kindness is flirting when another guy interprets my behavior appropriately. If I try to behave with less kindness for fear of leading someone on, not only do I feel like fake, I'm accused of being mean. Seriously. How do I get my neighbor who manages the local pizza place to stop texting me without being mean? The exact same behavior by a woman elicits different responses from different men. I for the life of me can't figure out how one guy assumes my kindness is flirting when another guy interprets my behavior appropriately. If I try to behave with less kindness for fear of leading someone on, not only do I feel like fake, I'm accused of being mean. Seriously. How do I get my neighbor who manages the local pizza place to stop texting me without being mean? [/quote] Are you responding to them? If you are, stop. This sends the message that you aren't interested. If you aren't and he simply keeps texting you, I am of no help, as the only advice that's coming into my brain is to carry a gun around, but I don't believe this situation calls for such action. Ask a smarter man than I. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Adrestia Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 (edited) [quote name='FuturePriest387' timestamp='1329700365' post='2389727'] Are you responding to them? If you are, stop. This sends the message that you aren't interested. If you aren't and he simply keeps texting you, I am of no help, as the only advice that's coming into my brain is to carry a gun around, but I don't believe this situation calls for such action. Ask a smarter man than I. [/quote] He knows I have a concealed carry license. I've tried ignoring him, but he's persistent and I hate being rude. Earlier today when he asked what I was doing I replied that I was going to visit an ex boyfriend in rehab. That didn't work. Maybe I'll go all bible thumper on him. He used to be a normal friend. I don't know what changed. Edited February 20, 2012 by Adrestia Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missionseeker Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Sometimes you have to just be upfront and honest. But that does not equal mean. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paddington Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 Pizza, subs, cheesy bread, probably wings, probably salads (cuz you're a chick), 2 liters [i]and he is the manager?[/i] I don't really see what the problem is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Archaeology cat Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 [quote name='Adrestia' timestamp='1329684330' post='2389516'] The exact same behavior by a woman elicits different responses from different men. I for the life of me can't figure out how one guy assumes my kindness is flirting when another guy interprets my behavior appropriately. If I try to behave with less kindness for fear of leading someone on, not only do I feel like fake, I'm accused of being mean. Seriously. How do I get my neighbor who manages the local pizza place to stop texting me without being mean? The exact same behavior by a woman elicits different responses from different men. I for the life of me can't figure out how one guy assumes my kindness is flirting when another guy interprets my behavior appropriately. If I try to behave with less kindness for fear of leading someone on, not only do I feel like fake, I'm accused of being mean. Seriously. How do I get my neighbor who manages the local pizza place to stop texting me without being mean? [/quote]I had to flat-out tell a guy it bothered me when he phoned. I felt really mean, but yeah. Of course, I'd also been oblivious to him asking me on a date, as I'd thought it was a group thing, and it wasn't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selah Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 [quote name='FuturePriest387' timestamp='1329700081' post='2389719'] I'm glad I'm not interested in dating. The entire world of women is just plain scary, and I'd rather stay away from a world that has more complexity than my mind can handle. [/quote] Good for you! St. Arsenius the Great would be proud. "Disregard females, acquire Theosis!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissScripture Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 [quote name='Archaeology cat' timestamp='1329741284' post='2389915'] I had to flat-out tell a guy it bothered me when he phoned. I felt really mean, but yeah. Of course, I'd also been oblivious to him asking me on a date, as I'd thought it was a group thing, and it wasn't. [/quote] In college, I was completely oblivious to the fact that there was a guy who was hitting on me until he showed up at my work study job and tried to give me a shoulder massage, at which point I thought, "Oh, crud. I think he likes me." When I mentioned it to my friends, they were like, "DUH! HOW HAVE YOU NOT NOTICED?!?" It was even more awkward, though, because he already had a girlfriend who went to a different school...yeah, not razzle dazzle. Needless to say, nothing happened between us. Well, other than me trying to avoid seeing him at all costs. Thankfully, he graduated at the end of that year. Then there was the creepy professor... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missionseeker Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 [quote name='Archaeology cat' timestamp='1329741284' post='2389915'] I had to flat-out tell a guy it bothered me when he phoned. I felt really mean, but yeah. Of course, I'd also been oblivious to him asking me on a date, as I'd thought it was a group thing, and it wasn't. [/quote] I hate sneak daters. Not razzle dazzle, dudes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Archaeology cat Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 [quote name='missionseeker' timestamp='1329759615' post='2390058'] I hate sneak daters. Not razzle dazzle, dudes. [/quote]I agree! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
let_go_let_God Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 [quote name='missionseeker' timestamp='1329759615' post='2390058'] I hate sneak daters. Not razzle dazzle, dudes. [/quote] Ugh so true... unless it's my hubby, then it's just his way of saying, I need to slow down and breathe. God bless- LGLG Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zealousrap Posted February 20, 2012 Author Share Posted February 20, 2012 [quote name='missionseeker' timestamp='1329759615' post='2390058'] I hate sneak daters. Not razzle dazzle, dudes. [/quote] haha yeah it's safe to say that it's good to know that it is a date before rather than after Don't be fooled by a scheming Quagmire! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ice_nine Posted February 20, 2012 Share Posted February 20, 2012 I don't understand people, regardless of gender. I. iz, screwed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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