Janana8706 Posted May 16, 2004 Share Posted May 16, 2004 I've only had two boyfriends, neither of which were really b/f, more like guy friends that would hold my hand, and although it was disappointing at the time, I'm glad it didn't lead to more, and I didn't push either to more. Newayz, one of them (the one i broke up w/ a few weeks ago) was a non Catholic. I don't even know if he believed in a God. Newayz, I didn't see anything wrong w/ it, but then again, we never really disscussed God. I would mention going to church or youth group or something like that, and he was like yea, whatever. He would have to be the one guy that I'm glad i experienced, but am more glad its over, and none of it has to do w/ religion, its other things. now that I'm done rambling, I see nothing wrong w/ dating a non catholic, as long as they don't put you down for your beliefs, allow you to share them; but you have to allow the same respect for the other person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mulls Posted May 16, 2004 Share Posted May 16, 2004 i haven't read any of the posts, just answering the question from a non-catholic perspective: i would not date a non-believer. the bible says not to be unequally yoked. i would date a catholic, if she was a solid believer. i would not date a cold or an idle catholic. my first and probably only prerequisite for a wife is that she must love the Lord way more than she will ever love me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janana8706 Posted May 16, 2004 Share Posted May 16, 2004 [quote name='mulls' date='May 16 2004, 05:35 PM'] my first and probably only prerequisite for a wife is that she must love the Lord way more than she will ever love me. [/quote] I've never thought about it like that, but i really like that way of thinking!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CreepyCrawler Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 yeah, i think i'd prefer someone who loved God a lot over a so-so catholic. i dated a catholic who was very involved and loved God but had some screwed up morals (i blame a not-very-good-formation on that) and that was not a good relationship. now there's a guy i'm interested in who's not catholic at all, just nice, but i know that after previous dating experiences that i want someone who will go to church with me or who wouldn't make me feel weird (even not-on-purposely) about my virginity. yeah... i don't know if that's an actual contribution to this conversation.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeenaBobba Posted May 17, 2004 Share Posted May 17, 2004 [quote name='Carrie' date='May 5 2004, 11:02 AM'] Personally, I’ve dated both Catholics and non-Catholics. I wouldn’t close off the idea of dating a non-Catholic as long as he is understanding and accepting of how important my faith is to me. I understand where some of you are coming from with the issue of virginity. I just don’t think it’s wise to close off what God may possibly have in store for you. I said this in a post from a long time ago about this issue, but I’ll repeat myself for the newbies. I am not a virgin. I was in a long-term relationship when I was quite young (I was 18 and neither of us were practicing any sort of religion at the time) and that is the only man I was with. I eventually came home to the Church and realized what I had done was wrong. I confessed and vowed to live the way God wants us to live. My boyfriend didn’t agree and we broke up. I made a mistake when I was young…a serious mistake, but God forgave me. Not only did God forgive me, but so did my current boyfriend, who is very faithful to the Church. That’s a bit personal, but I guess what I’m trying to show you is that not everyone who has lost his or her virginity is a harlot or someone who was with everyone and everything, so be careful when you judge someone. Ok, I’ll get off my soapbox now. [/quote] Hi Carrie, I'm personally a virgin, but I wasn't exactly perfect in my teen years, meaning that I did do sexual things with guys. I see what you're saying. If God's forgiven a non-virgin, then others should as well. I wouldn't hold it against a guy if he wasn't a virgin, so long as he respected the fact that I am, and that I'm not losing it until I'm married. (Of course, I'd want the guy to repent, too.) God bless, Jennifer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theculturewarrior Posted May 17, 2004 Author Share Posted May 17, 2004 I agree...it is more important to be virginal than to be a virgin. St. Mary Magdalene was virginal. Who would revile her? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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