Crusader_4 Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 Lol....anyway i am not opposed to it but if you marry... Marry in the One Holy Apostolic Church. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojourner Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 [quote name='crusader1234' date='May 4 2004, 09:33 PM'] i think theres nothing wrong with inter faith or interdenominational marriages if its love and the other partner is moral. [/quote] This is the only part of this post that should have shown up here. This phorum is not a locker room. Please show some degree of decorum. I sincerely hope the rest of your post is edited soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PedroX Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 Homeschool, you're so funny! I'm glad that Homeschool_Dad won't let you date anyone! I think it can work out in many ways. As a therapist I've seen many marriages where both were professing Christians, but all they did was sin against each other. Seek God with your whole heart, and He will lead you in the path that is best. Just look at Az, and Lil Red and Phred. Or, for crying out loud love being single. I do. peace... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
traichuoi Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 i have never dated a non-Catholic and i'm not sure i would...what i do know is i want a man who loves God more than he loves me... with that said, i will only marry in the Catholic Church because for a Catholic to marry outside the Church and fulfill that marriage means to live in adultery... and if i married a non-Catholic i would feel really sorry for him because he would probably have a really rough life with me i really don't see myself marrying a non-Catholic though...there's too much of a difference there... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theculturewarrior Posted May 5, 2004 Author Share Posted May 5, 2004 Re: marrying a virgin...it is more important to me that a woman's soul be virginal, than her body. Someone can never have known the touch of a bf/gf and still be "of the world." On the other hand, someone can suffer rape or sexual abuse and still be a virgin according to the definition of the Church. I think I will have a hard time finding someone within my age range who has been faithfully waiting for me since forever. Not in this corrupt world. I'll settle for someone who has been waiting for me since hearing her call to holiness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carrie Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 [quote name='Norseman82' date='May 4 2004, 07:25 PM'] Still an "unequal yoking". Besides, why even bother bringing up about a divorced person when we are taught that divorce and remarriage is adultery. As Catholics we should know better than to even ask. [/quote] What about a person who has had an annulment? Would you entertain that idea? And regarding the virgin issue, my viewpoint is this: If God can forgive the person, then why should anyone else not be able to? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catholic_4_Life Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 I'm going to have to find a Catholic "dating service"...I'm not having the best luck findind a non-divorced woman 25-32. CultureWarrior, you are absolutely correct... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phazzan Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 (edited) [quote name='Carrie' date='May 5 2004, 07:24 AM'] And regarding the virgin issue, my viewpoint is this: If God can forgive the person, then why should anyone else not be able to? [/quote] I don't think it really has got anything to do with "forgiveness" young lady. Personally, I just find virgins more attractive, because they're often more innocent, and innocence and purity are traits that I admire in a girl. I don't think I could love a girl as much if she'd been with someone else, because I want her all to myself, and if anyone's already been with her, they better be dead, or ready for it. I'm the jealous type. Edited May 5, 2004 by Phazzan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carrie Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 [quote name='Phazzan' date='May 5 2004, 09:35 AM'] I don't think it really has got anything to do with "forgiveness" young lady. Personally, I just find virgins more attractive, because they're often more innocent, and innocence and purity are traits that I admire in a girl. I don't think I could love a girl as much if she'd been with someone else, because I want her all to myself, and if anyone's already been with her, they better be dead, or ready for it. I'm the jealous type. [/quote] oh my, you are the jealous type. I understand what you're saying, but I feel it's crazy to cut off possibilities. You never know what God has in store for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SacredTruth Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 I've only dated one catholic guy before. That experience, sadly enough, has totally turned me off of dating other catholic guys. Plus they're hard to find. Anyways, the guy was the biggest hypocrite I had ever met! He loved to preach to me all the time, but when it came down to it, he didnt practice the stuff he was preaching to me about. He was by far the most selfish person I have ever met. He totally took advantage of my generosity and kindness. It was way uncool. On the other hand though, I shouldnt have let him take advantage of me the way I did. But hey, ya live and learn. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeenaBobba Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 I'm honestly not sure if I'd ever date a non-Catholic. The one and only boy I've ever been in love with (I'm not with him anymore) was not a practicing Catholic. He was more or less irreligious. I wasn't religious, either, at the time, so I guess that doesn't count. I would [i]maybe[/i] date a non-Catholic. The thing is that I don't casually date. I won't get into a relationship with a guy unless he's husband material, i.e., a guy I [i]could[/i] perhaps marry one day. That being said, I would maybe date a non-Catholic if he respected my Faith, was willing to wait until marriage to have sex with me, respected my beliefs on not using contraception and using NFP only for serious reasons in accordance with Catholic teaching, and if he was willing to raise any future kids Catholic. Ideally, though, I'd want to date a Catholic guy. But I'm not going to rule out dating a non-Catholic man. Marrying a Catholic man is the ideal, since I would want my husband to be an example to our children. I wouldn't reject a guy if he wasn't a virgin, so long as he respected my beliefs that I will not have sex until marriage. God bless, Jennifer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phazzan Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 I agree, Jennifer. I think dating is a waste of time unless it's actually meant to lead to something, for most people that is sex, but for me it is marriage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catholic_4_Life Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 It's pretty sad that we live in a society that accepts "casual sex" as the norm. Because of that acceptance, it will make it extremely difficult to find a woman who has kept herself pure for marriage. They are out there though. I have faith God will bring me someone perfect for me someday...and if not, then I'll be single! But I am not going to "waste" my time with the dating scene (bars, clubs, etc) either. They are just meat markets, and I have no interest in meeting someone there. I'd rather meet someone at church! BTW Phazzan, women do NOT like jealousy. It is very unattractive. Granted, some jealousy is nice, but when it becomes "possessive" then you lose credability. You need to work on that my friend. Peace! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carrie Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 Personally, I’ve dated both Catholics and non-Catholics. I wouldn’t close off the idea of dating a non-Catholic as long as he is understanding and accepting of how important my faith is to me. I understand where some of you are coming from with the issue of virginity. I just don’t think it’s wise to close off what God may possibly have in store for you. I said this in a post from a long time ago about this issue, but I’ll repeat myself for the newbies. I am not a virgin. I was in a long-term relationship when I was quite young (I was 18 and neither of us were practicing any sort of religion at the time) and that is the only man I was with. I eventually came home to the Church and realized what I had done was wrong. I confessed and vowed to live the way God wants us to live. My boyfriend didn’t agree and we broke up. I made a mistake when I was young…a serious mistake, but God forgave me. Not only did God forgive me, but so did my current boyfriend, who is very faithful to the Church. That’s a bit personal, but I guess what I’m trying to show you is that not everyone who has lost his or her virginity is a harlot or someone who was with everyone and everything, so be careful when you judge someone. Ok, I’ll get off my soapbox now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Phazzan Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 [quote name='Catholic_4_Life' date='May 5 2004, 08:00 AM'] BTW Phazzan, women do NOT like jealousy. It is very unattractive. Granted, some jealousy is nice, but when it becomes "possessive" then you lose credability. You need to work on that my friend. Peace! [/quote] I'm actually perfect my friend, you need to work on how you judge others. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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