Iacobus Posted May 4, 2004 Share Posted May 4, 2004 Well I would probly be married than but if I was a widower I would probly be a non-virgn than too and might remarry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NewReformation Posted May 4, 2004 Share Posted May 4, 2004 I do it all the time! LOL! Nah, j/k(about the dating part), I don't date nobody. I believe in courting, so I'm waiting to find the right girl. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamalove Posted May 4, 2004 Share Posted May 4, 2004 Actually, my first real Catholic boyfriend was (is) my husband. I dated a number of non-Catholics. I was pretty serious with one in particular, but it was awful because he and his family absolutely hated the Catholic Church. In fact, the first time I went to his house to meet his parents, his father wouldn't even come out of a back room to meet me. We tried to get past it, but in the end it just would not work. I would have liked to have kept in touch, but he didn't even want to hear from me anymore. Dating a Catholic is sooooooo much better... and easier. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhatPhred Posted May 4, 2004 Share Posted May 4, 2004 My first (now ex-) wife and I were both virgins on our wedding night, so I guess that goes to show that virginity alone isn't enough. Compatibility in educational level was higher on my list than virginity in choosing my current wife. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
M.SIGGA Posted May 4, 2004 Share Posted May 4, 2004 This is mushy, but my only requirement for marriage is that the person is someone I'm totally in love with and who is totally in love with me, and loving me and knowing me means that you understand how much my faith means to me and is a part of me. I have faith that everything else will sort of fall into place after that ... and also that the person isn't crazy You can't have too many hang-ups or you can really miss out on a lot of beautiful ladies and be alone all the time. I guess I am a more of a day-to-day sort of person and I really like girls, but if you are totally high maintenance, don't call me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~*AnCoRa33*~ Posted May 4, 2004 Share Posted May 4, 2004 The reason that you date is to find the person who you are going to marry. If you are going to marry some body of a different Faith, your own faith will become watered down and that will get passed on to your children. All ya'll seem very Catholic and would hate to see your childrens faith watered down because of you!! Your spouse and you become one in marriage, but how does that work out if you have completly different beliefs?! Just some food for thought... God bless!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norseman82 Posted May 4, 2004 Share Posted May 4, 2004 [quote name='Lil Red Devil' date='May 4 2004, 03:03 PM'] what if you met someone who was divorced or widowed but her husband was the only man she was ever with? [/quote] Still an "unequal yoking". Besides, why even bother bringing up about a divorced person when we are taught that divorce and remarriage is adultery. As Catholics we should know better than to even ask. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojourner Posted May 4, 2004 Share Posted May 4, 2004 Personally, I would have no problem marrying a man who wasn't a virgin so long as that was a sin he had confessed and received absolution for. If God doesn't hold it against him, how can I? Making the blanket statement "I won't marry a virigin" is unforgiveness, as long as this person is in full communion with the Church. Now, if the person is living in unrepentant sin, that's another matter. Or, if they have some sort of communicable -- also another level of consideration. However, I believe I am in the wrong to withhold myself from a union with a person who is otherwise free to marry in the church, and is agreeable to such a union with me and I to him, solely because he is not a virgin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
M.SIGGA Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 [quote name='~*AnCoRa33*~' date='May 4 2004, 04:55 PM'] The reason that you date is to find the person who you are going to marry. If you are going to marry some body of a different Faith, your own faith will become watered down and that will get passed on to your children. All ya'll seem very Catholic and would hate to see your childrens faith watered down because of you!! Your spouse and you become one in marriage, but how does that work out if you have completly different beliefs?! Just some food for thought... God bless!! [/quote] Is "testing the waters" unChristian? I'm not opposed to marriage right now if the right person, aka my soulmate, comes along, but personally I'm not looking to get married anytime soon. In the meantime, I don't want to be antisocial, plus I like going out .... and I'm only 21 and the idea of children possibly being anywhere near me or belonging to me is really scary Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azriel Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 Ok, I know we've talked about this before but let me say my story again. I dated a non Catholic. We married, in the Church. My brand new daughter is now baptized into the Church. I prayed. I discerned. I asked God if this is where he wanted me. I talked to my Mom who married a non Catholic who converted later. I talked to my Gramma who married a non Catholic who converted later. What it boils down to in the end is what God wants. I truly believe that my marriage is where I'm supposed to be. And, the Church has agreed with me, since we were married in the Church. And, like Lil Red, my hubby now has someone who prays for him to come home. My Gramma says all the time: "Love goes where it will, even if its up a pig's butt" Kinda gross, but true. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fewbutmany Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 I was in a serious relationship with a non-Catholic. It was so hard because he would question everything. His questioning caused me to question, and I considered leaving the church for him. I was naive, I thought it was meant to be, (I mean how many male virgins do you meet?) My mother told me she wouldn't come to my wedding if I married him. He eventually refused to visit me at my house and said he had headaches when he came over (I'm the oldest of 12) This individual came in-between me and God as well as me and my family. He also pressured me to have sex, which was hard to resist, even though we were both virgins. He claimed to be a Christian but only seemed to preach it, not live it. It was a bitter ending, and quite painful. I learned that if I was to date a non-Catholic, he would have to be open to the Catholic faith and respect my beliefs. Now I am dating the most awesome Catholic guy in the world. We will see where God and our faith take us Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fewbutmany Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 [quote name='Azriel' date='May 4 2004, 07:14 PM'] Ok, I know we've talked about this before but let me say my story again. I dated a non Catholic. We married, in the Church. My brand new daughter is now baptized into the Church. I prayed. I discerned. I asked God if this is where he wanted me. I talked to my Mom who married a non Catholic who converted later. I talked to my Gramma who married a non Catholic who converted later. What it boils down to in the end is what God wants. I truly believe that my marriage is where I'm supposed to be. And, the Church has agreed with me, since we were married in the Church. And, like Lil Red, my hubby now has someone who prays for him to come home. My Gramma says all the time: "Love goes where it will, even if its up a pig's butt" Kinda gross, but true. [/quote] It sounds like it is for the best I wish you the best of luck!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamalove Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 (edited) [quote name='fewbutmany' date='May 4 2004, 07:22 PM'] I was in a serious relationship with a non-Catholic. It was so hard because he would question everything. His questioning caused me to question, and I considered leaving the church for him. I was naive, I thought it was meant to be, (I mean how many male virgins do you meet?) My mother told me she wouldn't come to my wedding if I married him. He eventually refused to visit me at my house and said he had headaches when he came over (I'm the oldest of 12) This individual came in-between me and God as well as me and my family. He also pressured me to have sex, which was hard to resist, even though we were both virgins. He claimed to be a Christian but only seemed to preach it, not live it. It was a bitter ending, and quite painful. I learned that if I was to date a non-Catholic, he would have to be open to the Catholic faith and respect my beliefs. Now I am dating the most awesome Catholic guy in the world. We will see where God and our faith take us [/quote] Wow. That sounds a lot like me and my old relationship. See... You really have to ask yourself if it is worth it. If it is, great. If not, don't risk it. Edited May 5, 2004 by mamalove Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fewbutmany Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 [quote name='mamalove' date='May 4 2004, 07:29 PM'] See... You really have to ask yourself if it is worth it. If it is, great. If not, don't risk it. [/quote] Exactly!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crusader1234 Posted May 5, 2004 Share Posted May 5, 2004 i think theres nothing wrong with inter faith or interdenominational marriages if its love and the other partner is moral. [color=red][edit by littleflower: stay on subject and keep it clean please][/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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