Sarah147 Posted January 8, 2012 Author Share Posted January 8, 2012 I think it was beautitude, in another thread, that said I need to challenge myself somehow and see my capabilities... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah147 Posted January 8, 2012 Author Share Posted January 8, 2012 [quote name='regina_coeli' timestamp='1326063311' post='2365204'] Hello JL. I also have an academic and career counseling background, and there are a number of PMers with the background to be helpful, but you need to be more specific about your limitations. Physical? Learning? You are open that there are problems, but not what they are. [/quote] I would be more open to discuss I think in PM. But, I'm not feeling well or up to getting into it in PM yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah147 Posted January 8, 2012 Author Share Posted January 8, 2012 (edited) Lillabett, I just read up on "learned helplessness" on wiki. Sounds spot on. I am DEFINATELY going to bring this up in my next therapy session and see if there is anything that can be done! I actually get surprised at myself and things I've done/doing. I sure need some kind of challenging, with someone to guide me. [url="http://blog.moodr.org/2008/08/how-to-overcome-learned-helplessness.html"]Steps.[/url] Edited January 8, 2012 by JoyfulLife Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaime Posted January 8, 2012 Share Posted January 8, 2012 Joyful If you have no immediate debt and have no responsibilities, I think it would benefit you greatly to look into overseas volunteering. It will most likely be the exact opposite of everything you want to do. But a year or so in a mission in Central America will show you gifts that you never thought you had (or africa, or South America) You can ask for help from local churches to pay your airfare and you can make a direct impact on people who truly experience poverty. When you come back, I promise the world and the job market will look radically different! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah147 Posted January 8, 2012 Author Share Posted January 8, 2012 I have regular doctor visits, lots of medicines, and need to get an injection by a nurse each month. Plus, I have the responsibility of helping the ministry I'm involved with, that ties in with my living situation. I love it, but someday I'll have to move. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmaD2006 Posted January 8, 2012 Share Posted January 8, 2012 [quote name='jaime' timestamp='1326065582' post='2365242'] Joyful If you have no immediate debt and have no responsibilities, I think it would benefit you greatly to look into overseas volunteering. It will most likely be the exact opposite of everything you want to do. But a year or so in a mission in Central America will show you gifts that you never thought you had (or africa, or South America) You can ask for help from local churches to pay your airfare and you can make a direct impact on people who truly experience poverty. When you come back, I promise the world and the job market will look radically different! [/quote] I agree with Jaime. I've been overseas many times, and even a short period (2 wks to a month) is enough to change your perspective. I know I went on my first mission trip when I was 25 and it really changed my life. For the 1st time I witnessed true poverty. Also around where I live it is common for single people to rent a room in someone's house precisely because of the cost of living. When I started out, just earning $2 over minimum was considered great. And honestly, if a person with a 2 yr associate degree in a technical fiels is being paid minimum with no benefits and he took the job then the economy is bad. You may have to take lower pay and prove yourself first. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlySunshine Posted January 8, 2012 Share Posted January 8, 2012 [quote name='JoyfulLife' timestamp='1326063588' post='2365207'] Bank teller ......but do you need great mathematics skills? Or can you use a calculator? Sounds interesting.... Call center.....sorry to complain, but I don't know. I'm not that great at customer service type stuff, and figuring out their problems. With some things, it's like I don't think well on my feet. Yet with some things, I seem really bright, etc. It's weird. [/quote] [quote name='JoyfulLife' timestamp='1326063724' post='2365209'] Very good advice!!! I have fear behind this....I fear they'll see I can't do something and I'll lose the job. Fear I won't figure things out. There were abuse issues growing up, that really put me down, and made me feel, as lillabet mentioned, "helpless." So, this is making it hard to discern jobs. [/quote] This is what LEARNING is all about! That's why people who hire you TRAIN you to do the jobs. There is a 90 day probationary period (usually; it could be shorter or longer depending on the company) where both you and the manager(s) ascertain whether you are the right fit for the company. If either you or the manager(s) think that you need to move on, then, so be it. However, you shouldn't let fear determine how you live your life. I'm a walking example. I lived in fear that I would never finish my Mathematics classes in order to graduate. I finally took a stand, registered with the help of family members, and completed both of those classes with an "A" and a "B." It taught me to challenge myself. If you never challenge yourself, life is going to be pretty dim and boring. You'll never get anywhere if you don't make that first step. Therapy has worked great for me because it taught me to think outside the box and stop letting people talk me out of things. I lost sight of what I feel my true passion is in life -- NURSING! All because some silly unit manager told me she didn't think I was good enough! I know I can do it, but it will require work! I'm determined and I am not letting anything or anyone stand in my way. I understand the need to stay for medical reasons or other obligations. If I wasn't committed to my CRHP ministry until September 2012, I would be looking at a possible move out of state or what have you. However, that is not what God is calling me to do at this time. Don't let fear stand in front of you and scare the pantaloons off you. You have to learn how to think outside the box and open up your heart to what God is calling you to do. I'm listening to a talk by Matthew Kelly in my car called "Called to Joy" and in it he says, "It isn't about what we want. We should not always be telling God what we want Him to do. Sometimes, we have to listen. What does God want you to do? How do you see the world? The way you see the world effects the way you live your life!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regina_coeli Posted January 8, 2012 Share Posted January 8, 2012 [quote name='JoyfulLife' timestamp='1326065874' post='2365249'] I have regular doctor visits, lots of medicines, and need to get an injection by a nurse each month [/quote] Me too, and I still work full time. I plan to be busy living as long as possible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah147 Posted January 8, 2012 Author Share Posted January 8, 2012 (edited) [quote name='cmariadiaz' timestamp='1326066327' post='2365258'] You may have to take lower pay and prove yourself first. [/quote] I think I could prove myself; I'm a hard-worker. [quote name='regina_coeli' timestamp='1326066393' post='2365260'] Me too, and I still work full time. I plan to be busy living as long as possible. [/quote] I have been wondering, how do people work, ex. 8-4 or 9-5 and have their doctor appointments in the daytime? [quote name='MaterMisericordiae' timestamp='1326066384' post='2365259'] This is what LEARNING is all about! That's why people who hire you TRAIN you to do the jobs. There is a 90 day probationary period (usually; it could be shorter or longer depending on the company) where both you and the manager(s) ascertain whether you are the right fit for the company. If either you or the manager(s) think that you need to move on, then, so be it. However, you shouldn't let fear determine how you live your life. I'm a walking example. I lived in fear that I would never finish my Mathematics classes in order to graduate. I finally took a stand, registered with the help of family members, and completed both of those classes with an "A" and a "B." It taught me to challenge myself. If you never challenge yourself, life is going to be pretty dim and boring. You'll never get anywhere if you don't make that first step. Therapy has worked great for me because it taught me to think outside the box and stop letting people talk me out of things. I lost sight of what I feel my true passion is in life -- NURSING! All because some silly unit manager told me she didn't think I was good enough! I know I can do it, but it will require work! I'm determined and I am not letting anything or anyone stand in my way. I understand the need to stay for medical reasons or other obligations. If I wasn't committed to my CRHP ministry until September 2012, I would be looking at a possible move out of state or what have you. However, that is not what God is calling me to do at this time. Don't let fear stand in front of you and scare the pantaloons off you. You have to learn how to think outside the box and open up your heart to what God is calling you to do. I'm listening to a talk by Matthew Kelly in my car called "Called to Joy" and in it he says, "It isn't about what we want. We should not always be telling God what we want Him to do. Sometimes, we have to listen. What does God want you to do? How do you see the world? The way you see the world effects the way you live your life!" [/quote] That's very encouraging. I feel I have been *trying* to challenge and believe in myself, but then composition class fell through. I guess I fear that could happen if I go with a job that is too over my head. 90days, eh? That makes me feel more at ease. Edited January 9, 2012 by JoyfulLife Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah147 Posted January 9, 2012 Author Share Posted January 9, 2012 ^^^updated the last post with new comments. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlySunshine Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 (edited) [quote name='JoyfulLife' timestamp='1326066427' post='2365261'] I think I could prove myself; I'm a hard-worker. I have been wondering, how do people work, ex. 8-4 or 9-5 and have their doctor appointments in the daytime? That's very encouraging. I feel I have been *trying* to challenge and believe in myself, but then composition class fell through. I guess I fear that could happen if I go with a job that is too over my head. 90days, eh? That makes me feel more at ease. [/quote] Employers understand that not every job works out. That's why they give the trial period. Don't let one "failure" or disappointment determine the course of the future. Just because you didn't do well on that one thing, it doesn't mean you are "good-for-nothing" who should let your life stand still. Take risks! That's what life is all about! If you live in the shadows, you will become lazy. It does no good for your self-esteem. Empower who you are! You are a great person and God has wonderful things in store for you! But YOU must be willing to take the first step in order to start your journey. No one can do it for you. I believe in you! Now, believe in yourself. Oh, and as far as doctor's appointments, you may just have to ask for an hour off work and leave later that day. That's what my mom and dad do. Edited January 9, 2012 by MaterMisericordiae Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 You could always take whichever job you can get in the medical field, volunteering if you have to in order to get a foot-in-the-door, and then study part-time for an associate degree or certificate to a more specialized and higher paying field. That is what I would do if I had to support myself sooner than I actually had to, and then maybe go on to a BS if I could stand the part-time student or when the Financial Aid kicked in. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah147 Posted January 9, 2012 Author Share Posted January 9, 2012 (edited) Thank you Mater. Light, yeah, I think I'll talk to my friend and see if it would be wise to try volunteering in a records dept. to get some experience. Or, try talking to one of the workers and getting some suggestions of what you volunteer in to get some experience. If I get to volunteer in a record dept., a w esome, because I'll SEE if it's a field I am good and comfortable in. Edited January 9, 2012 by JoyfulLife Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roamin Catholic Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 Joyful, not to pile on you, but I have a few pieces of advice to share. I graduated last year with an MBA and currently make $11.35 /hr with bumps to about $14-15/hr with overtime and incentives. MissScripture and I barely scrape by. Would I like to make $60k/yr doing financial planning or other related things? Heck yes! But I'm doing what I have to do to get by. What ended up working for me was finding a company that I could get in with and work my way up to higher paying jobs once I showed I was a hard worker. One other thing to do would be to re-evaluate your monthly budget. Cut out almost every bit of discretionary income; you would be surprised by how you can cut from your budget, but you have to be hardcore about it. If you have a cell phone, could it be changed to a cheaper landline? Lower internet plan if you have one? Air dry your clothes instead of coin laundry? Find a roommate to split rent with once you move? What I've found is that most people think they have a no frills budget but still have room for cutting, and this cutting would possibly allow you to get by with a lower paying job. It may be stressful at times, but it would be better than having no job at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mortify Posted January 9, 2012 Share Posted January 9, 2012 My first question is why are you aiming so low? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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