she_who_is_not Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 Praying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 oh catherine...you all have my prayers. this won't be an easy time for him or for you & your husband. let us know if phatmass as your phamily can do anything to help - money, prayers, care packages, cards, etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FutureCarmeliteClaire Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 Praying a lot for you all.[quote name='Lil Red' timestamp='1325735578' post='2363135'] oh catherine...you all have my prayers. this won't be an easy time for him or for you & your husband. let us know if phatmass as your phamily can do anything to help - money, prayers, care packages, cards, etc. [/quote] I second this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beatitude Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 God bless you for this act of brave kindness. I will pray for you in Jerusalem today, at the one-time tomb of Christ. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LinaSt.Cecilia2772 Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 I just saw this thread, and i most certainly am praying for all involved. May Christ be with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 (edited) [quote name='CatherineM' timestamp='1325732841' post='2363098'] Zack found out today that the bank is going to take the house. If it sells any equity will go 90% to his dad. He was told three weeks to two months for eviction. His sisters are walking away. Only one has offered to take him in and she just wants him for his orphan benefit, so we asked him if he would like for us to adopt him and he said yes. We have made an offer to rent the empty condo upstairs. Austin's cousin will handle the legal side. I'm terrified. [/quote] Catherine.... words fail me. We will pray that this is ONE house that WILL NOT sell. Sorry his family is such a mess.... glad you figured out what is going on with the sister who did 'offer' - but I am glad he accepted YOUR offer. Much better option. You will be a fantastic adoptive mother -- he has already seen you in action, and no one could do a better job. You will have all of us praying HARD for both of you and your husband. What a gift you have been/are to him. I'd be worried if you were NOT terrified... but God is big and St. Joseph will come give you a hand, I am sure.... let us know if we can help in any ways.... Edited January 5, 2012 by AnneLine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Archaeology cat Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 Praying Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brandelynmarie Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 More prayers! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 How did I miss this whole thread? Anyway, prayers for Zack and everyone else involved. Bless you for your compassion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hermanita Posted January 5, 2012 Share Posted January 5, 2012 [quote name='homeschoolmom' timestamp='1325769114' post='2363234'] How did I miss this whole thread? Anyway, prayers for Zack and everyone else involved. Bless you for your compassion. [/quote] All of you are in my prayers. I also put you on the prayer list of my future community. That's 143 more praying for you and Zack. Catherine, I'm so sorry for all of the mess this kid has to deal with...and you too. Blessings Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted January 6, 2012 Author Share Posted January 6, 2012 We spent the day in red tape hell. He had never gotten the Canadian equivalent of a SS#. He didn't have a photo ID. On the positive side, he told his family that he wanted us as his guardians, and they were okay with it. Most we relieved. Only one was a bit sad, the half-sister who wanted custody for his orphan benefits, but she isn't going to fight it. Now we are trying to get in to see the lawyer and tomorrow is the weekly trip to parole officer then his mom's internment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FutureCarmeliteClaire Posted January 6, 2012 Share Posted January 6, 2012 [quote name='CatherineM' timestamp='1325821560' post='2363834'] We spent the day in red tape hell. He had never gotten the Canadian equivalent of a SS#. He didn't have a photo ID. On the positive side, he told his family that he wanted us as his guardians, and they were okay with it. Most we relieved. Only one was a bit sad, the half-sister who wanted custody for his orphan benefits, but she isn't going to fight it. Now we are trying to get in to see the lawyer and tomorrow is the weekly trip to parole officer then his mom's internment. [/quote] That sounds like good-ish news! I am continuing to pray. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted January 6, 2012 Author Share Posted January 6, 2012 We met with his parole officer today before his mom's internment. The half sister showed up, and went on and on about Zack's expected welfare/orphan benefits. I made sure that when they start coming, they will be in his name, in his bank account. She seemed to be okay with the idea of us taking care of Zack as long as she could control his money. When he tried to talk up about what he wanted, she actually said, "don't you love me anymore?" What we have decided to do is to help him file paperwork as an emancipated minor first. Once that comes through, then we will be able to adopt him as an adult without worrying about consent. That way, we will have no control or say over his finances, so that he knows that we want to adopt him because we love him, not any money he might get later. The idea that non-relatives would be willing to take care of someone just seems to go contrary to what most people think of as "normal." So Monday we enter the next level of red tape hell. Tomorrow we take him for some more clothes. He admitted today that he only has two pairs of underwear and one pair of socks. It's been a decade since I've bought undies for a teenager, but I think I remember how. You basically tell them to get what they need, and then pay the clerk. We've also got an appointment at our St. Vincent group at church to fill their pantry. There's 2 adults and 4 kids living in that house to feed for the next few weeks. They've also got a new hole in the roof. We had a windstorm that blew a bunch of their shingles off. If it snows, he's going to have snow on his bed. Needless to say, we are going to try to get him out as soon as possible. We're just waiting on a call back from the owner upstairs to see if we can rent the suite. There's another suite upstairs that is coming up for sale next month, that we have been talking about buying to rent out ourselves, so that might be an option too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hermanita Posted January 7, 2012 Share Posted January 7, 2012 More prayers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheresaThoma Posted January 7, 2012 Share Posted January 7, 2012 Prayers for you and for Zach. May Our Lady keep you wrapped in her protective mantel as you go through this difficult time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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