Sarah147 Posted January 2, 2012 Share Posted January 2, 2012 [quote name='JoyfulLife' timestamp='1325540806' post='2361893'] I'm also thinking about what kind of [b]WORK[/b] I could manage that I'd be good at, that could support me, and I'd be happy with. Trade schools sound good, but I'm still not sure. Any thoughts appreciated from y'all if you have advice on jobs with training under a year or so with flexable training. [/quote] Oops! Meant to say the above. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
got2luvjc Posted January 3, 2012 Share Posted January 3, 2012 [quote name='CatherineM' timestamp='1325468894' post='2361413'] I did find one real advantage to online dating. We actually had to talk. If you are dating in person, you watch movies, or eat dinner. You have all the stress of trying to maintain a proper physical relationship. Online, you have to find things to talk about. You learn more about each other in many ways. [/quote] Couldn't agree more! I talk WAY less while I'm on a "date" than when I'm chatting online/texting/emailing. Plus while I'm on a "date" I'm distracted by what's going on around me, but if I'm talking to someone online I know that I'm actually quite focused on our conversation. [quote name='MargaretTeresa' timestamp='1325475034' post='2361474'] the guy I'm sort of dating and I text a lot. I think that's one thing I've noticed about social media - people connect a lot more easily. Like, seriously. I'm more likely to write better voice my thoughts via text anyway. Also, the social media/texting/e-mail thing is especially great for people dating who live in different towns like he and I do. We live an hour-fifteen apart and it's even further since I'm at home for the Christmas holiday. We are all the time blowing up Twitter/Facebook/phones. Well, when we are awake at the same time. His work schedule is very different than my class schedule. [/quote] I agree! People on different schedules can communicate easily thru social media & electronic communications. Ever since I had my first *real* boyfriend (I don't count my 6th-grade boyfriend as a real boyfriend, although he did buy me a Beanie Baby that had his name), I've communicated greatly thru electronics. Call me "new-fashioned", but for someone with a very busy schedule, electronics aid me greatly!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlySunshine Posted January 3, 2012 Share Posted January 3, 2012 [quote name='MissScripture' timestamp='1325531440' post='2361825'] Since you're uncomfortable with it, and right now you are making a lot of changes to your life there are still a lot of opportunities that you will be meeting new people. Maybe wait a while before doing more with the online dating thing and try to get the rest sorted out first and see if anything comes up with that? It would be different if you had worked at the same job for a few years and were not going to be meeting new people, or at least not very many new people, soon, but that may not be the case for you. Just a thought. It's not exactly going to be easy to find someone online, anyway, if you're super uncomfortable with it. [/quote] Yeah, this is true. After that guy contacted me from the retreat, I got a little anxious. I'm probably not emotionally ready yet for dating, but I wanted to check the sites out. I'm sure I'll be meeting lots of different people, too. I'm planning to go back to school this fall to finish my prerequisites for nursing school and I'm thinking about attending a Catholic university to get my Bachelor's if it works out. My mom taught me to be very wary of posting my picture online for people to see. I would like to meet a holy Catholic man but I want to be super cautious as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinytherese Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 Skyping is amesome for long-distance relationships. It is as if they are right in the room with you. Instant messaging (provided that both of you are focused on the conversations) is great too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MithLuin Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 mmm, not sure about IMing (or similar) being all that worthwhile. I find that a lot of people only look at the messages in between doing other things, so you end up with tons of awkward pauses. Also...when I *was* relying upon it to maintain a long-distance relationship, I found there were tons of misunderstandings and it often emphasized (rather than relieved) our dissatisfaction with being apart. Of course, different strokes for different folks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MithLuin Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 [quote name='Lil Red' timestamp='1324514921' post='2355528'] www.phatmass.com/phorum [/quote] How funny would it be if dUSt put an option in the profiles, so people who wanted to use phatmass as a matchmaking site could indicate as much? I mean, it's not like he'd need to alter the site in any way - online phorums are designed to meet people, and (most) of our profiles already have age and sex. All it would take would be some indication that a poster were single and interested. I'm just picturing being prompted to click (or unclick) the 'Seeking a holy spouse, hook me up!' button. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissScripture Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 [quote name='MithLuin' timestamp='1325643594' post='2362603'] mmm, not sure about IMing (or similar) being all that worthwhile. I find that a lot of people only look at the messages in between doing other things, so you end up with tons of awkward pauses. Also...when I *was* relying upon it to maintain a long-distance relationship, I found there were tons of misunderstandings and it often emphasized (rather than relieved) our dissatisfaction with being apart. Of course, different strokes for different folks. [/quote] That's why you have to be on IM while on the phone and at the same time over-running the lame board. I liked IM as a "get to know you" thing, because I HATE using the phone for the most part. There are very few people I willingly call, and most of that is family. When my husband and I first met we used IM (and PM) to talk. When we started "dating" it wasn't until a day or two later that we actually talked on the phone the first time, and that was because my internet pooped out in the middle of a conversation and the only reason I called was because I wanted to make sure that he didn't think I had just left with no warning. But I can definitely agree that there can be a lot of misunderstandings through IM --in my attempt via IM to tell my husband that I liked him, he thought I was saying I didn't want to talk to him anymore! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FutureSister2009 Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 No one has answered my question so I think I'll post it again. Would it be bizarre for a 20 year old to start a profile on one of these websites? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah147 Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 (edited) It might be if that person is discerning religious life still... I would personally feel odd and like it was unfair to the men on there because I wasn't totally available. Edited January 4, 2012 by JoyfulLife Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah147 Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 (edited) [quote name='tinytherese' timestamp='1325637097' post='2362518'] Skyping is amesome for long-distance relationships. It is as if they are right in the room with you. Instant messaging (provided that both of you are focused on the conversations) is great too. [/quote] Wow, Skype sounds really a w esome! That's as close as you can get to being there with them in person. I love to hear voice tone, facial expression, talk, etc. Edited January 4, 2012 by JoyfulLife Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FutureSister2009 Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 [quote name='JoyfulLife' timestamp='1325694420' post='2362782'] It might be if that person is discerning religious life still... I would personally feel odd and like it was unfair to the men on there because I wasn't totally available. [/quote] For the hundredth time, I AM NOT COMPLETELY CERTAIN OF RELIGIOUS LIFE ANYMORE!!!! I want to date. I want to think about getting married. I want to have a good Catholic Family. I don't know what God wants anymore but that's what I want. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vincent Vega Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 [url="http://www.muslimmatch.com/"]http://www.muslimmatch.com/[/url] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
she_who_is_not Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 [quote name='FutureSister2009' timestamp='1325688854' post='2362735'] No one has answered my question so I think I'll post it again. Would it be bizarre for a 20 year old to start a profile on one of these websites? [/quote] If you don't have a lot of experience with dating and you are young, (I consider you to be young) I don't know if online dating is the best choice. Sometimes, it is best just to focus on forming friendships and then let things happen organically. If you are on a college campus, have friends, and are socially engaged I'm absolutely sure you will get asked out. If this semester ends and you still feel like you are having trouble, you might consider doing the online thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cherie Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 [quote name='FutureSister2009' timestamp='1325688854' post='2362735'] No one has answered my question so I think I'll post it again. Would it be bizarre for a 20 year old to start a profile on one of these websites? [/quote] No, I don't think so. But I wouldn't start one unless you were very serious about dating. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
got2luvjc Posted January 4, 2012 Share Posted January 4, 2012 I dont think age matters in terms of using a dating website. I dont think people much younger than 20 should be worried about finding someonw tti date/marry. (insert personal experience here) As long asthe person using the site is interwebs-proficient, I dont forsee a problem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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