PennyLane Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 Mostly venting and prayer-seeking... I struggle being single... I had a Catholic relationship that ended about 8 months ago (dodged a bullet) and since that point I have been single. I go on these Catholic dating websites and I either find guys that are "cafeteria Catholics" or guys that are have just left the seminary or are currently committed to discerning the priesthood. I'm active in the young adult groups at my parish, but it seems that all the girls are shopping... Don't get me wrong, I don't want to force anything that isn't there and I am open to God's will, it's just so frustrating!!! /sigh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MIKolbe Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 First off, sorry, I'm taken. As I sit here typing this stuff, I am reminded how nothing you wrote ever really applied to me. Not so much because I ended up marrying my 'high school sweetheart', but when I was in your position/age/state of life, God, a good catholic girl, nor any of those types of thoughts were even remotely in my thought processes. I think it might be wise to take a step back and feel a little more confident in your 'plight'. There are SO many people who do not have the prudence, love, or desire to actively include God in the ways you are. I think that is something to be applauded. Of course, I will end with the obligatory 'be patient'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winchester Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 Marry a rich, pleasant enough scumbag. Devote yourself to converting him. Achieve sainthood. Spend time in Heaven receiving requests to find lost bracelets, cure dysentery, and cause person to win lottery. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BG45 Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 Prayers. I know how much of a struggle it can be after being in committed relationship. You seem to be taking steps to discern a vocation to marriage though, and you shouldn't lower your standards. Trust in God and lean on Him as you struggle with this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachael Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 [quote name='Winchester' timestamp='1322321727' post='2340747'] Marry a rich, pleasant enough scumbag. [/quote] There are plenty out there. Scumbags at least. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sixpence Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 whats wrong with "just left the seminary"?... that's where my mom got hers.... lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maggyie Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 (edited) Is there anything off about the dudes just coming from the seminary? I know of several marriages where the couple met right after the man left. In fact this was an old joke people used to tell me when I would despair of meeting someone: "where is the best place for a good Catholic girl to catch a nice husband?" "on the steps of the seminary with a suitcase looking very confused." I used to freak out constantly about being single. I think this was a big motivator for me to discern religious life, to be honest, I think under the surface I was scared to be alone without a partner and/or community. Once I decided my vocation was to marriage I calmed down a bit, but I still worried a LOT about this. I met my husband online, (not an ex-seminarian) so my only relevant advice is to keep trying online... we were both only on the site for about two weeks before we met so maybe the key is to scoop the nice guys up as soon as they sign up. [quote name='sixpence' timestamp='1322324772' post='2340759'] whats wrong with "just left the seminary"?... that's where my mom got hers.... lol [/quote] hahaha!!! beat me to it!! Exactly! Edited November 26, 2011 by Maggie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaime Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 More than a few ladies have found their husbands here Penny. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachael Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 [quote name='jaime' timestamp='1322325524' post='2340763'] More than a few ladies have found their husbands here Penny. [/quote] Even you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arfink Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 [quote name='Maggie' timestamp='1322324806' post='2340760'] "on the steps of the seminary with a suitcase looking very confused." [/quote] Nobody ever asked me... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BigJon16 Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 [quote] In Penny Lane there is a barber showing photographs Of every head he's had the pleasure to have known And all the people that come and go Stop and say hello On the corner is a banker with a motorcar The little children laugh at him behind his back And the banker never wears a mac in the pouring rain... Very strange Penny Lane is in my ears and in my eyes Wet beneath the blue suburban skies I sit and meanwhile back in [/quote] Just saying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seven77 Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 I'm available but you are too young for me. Sorry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winchester Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 [quote name='Seven77' timestamp='1322335913' post='2340823'] I'm available but you are too young for me. Sorry. [/quote] So obvious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Totus Tuus Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 Hang in there! You're going to be so happy and proud of yourself for not jumping into anything that wasn't right for you when you find the right guy. You might want to punch me for saying that right now, but I know where you're coming from and I was there myself! Hang in there! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blessed&Grateful Posted November 26, 2011 Share Posted November 26, 2011 I struggled for years as single. And then one day I looked around and realized, I was quite Happy. There are days I am lonely and sometimes I think, Gosh I wish I had someone who could fix that faucet for me.....then I call the plumber. The less I fight against it, the better I like it. The more I pray that I do God's will, the easier it becomes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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