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[BigJon16]

[quote name='MissyP89' timestamp='1324519198' post='2355582']
[b]Porn is about selfishness[/b]. Those who enjoy it consider the girls (and guys) to be objects to be used or products to be consumed, not real people with real emotions.
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I agree with what I turned into bold print.



I disagree with the rest. The whole "objects to be used" thing never had crossed my mind. Its much more internal. I wouldn't be able to describe it, unless the person I was describing it to had struggled with the same thing before. Even then, I wouldn't feel very comfortable describing it.

But that's just me...

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I don't suffer from an addiction so I don't know what it feels like but I wonder if it is just that the feeling is so good (at the time) that the rational part of the brain shuts down? I have seen people with lung cancer, emphysema, and even with a trach tube, still smoke a cigarette! They know they are killing themselves but they can't seem to stop, and it isn't just the physical aspect of the addiction because that can be eased with patches and other things, it must be the feeling controlling them? And it must be terrible.

[Nihil Obstat]

[quote name='Era Might' timestamp='1324511152' post='2355489']
I knew this thread was going to be trouble when I opened it lol.

In the old days I would have posted a sentimental highfalutin reflection on conjugal love, but I've learned a lot from Winchester over the years, so I'm going to make it real simple. Put a ring on her finger and you can do it three times a week, four if you're lucky. That's not so bad a deal. Otherwise wear a hair shirt, grit your teeth and bear it.
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[mod]great picture, but not family friendly link on the picture. sorry! -Lil Red [/mod]

Edited January 2, 2012 by Lil Red

[DMcB]

Jon -

I've been thinking about your posts, and I've been thinking of how I can give you advice as someone that didn't try to live a chaste life. The best I can come up with is this:

Our actions have consequences. Sure, the Lord forgives us, all we have to do is ask. But there is a component to all of this that may not have been discussed, and that is how living an unchaste life affects all of our relationships: past, present and future.

The demons you're battling are demons that I'm still battling today - 20 years after many bad habits took root. And after decades of sin, those bad habits now haunt me at the most inopportune times, and continue to have a negative affect on my life. I won't be the one to tell you this is a war that is going to end anytime soon, but the sooner you get control of the situation, the easier it will be down the road. You'll be especially thankful you put in the work while young and relatively free of responsibility. Nothing makes a man feels worse than dropping the ball when time is short and others are depending on you. Not only will this not be a distraction, but you'll be able to focus on improving your soul in so many other ways.

[i]Mother Mary, Queen of Heaven, please pray for both Jon and I as we seek to live as your Son taught us. Amen. [/i]

Edited December 22, 2011 by DMcB

[Papist]

Just listened to a podcast with the founder[Catholic] of this website as the guest.

[url="http://www.theporneffect.com/"]http://www.theporneffect.com/[/url]

[BigJon16]

[quote name='DMcB' timestamp='1324574016' post='2355929']
Jon -

I've been thinking about your posts, and I've been thinking of how I can give you advice as someone that didn't try to live a chaste life. The best I can come up with is this:

Our actions have consequences. Sure, the Lord forgives us, all we have to do is ask. But there is a component to all of this that may not have been discussed, and that is how living an unchaste life affects all of our relationships: past, present and future.

The demons you're battling are demons that I'm still battling today - 20 years after many bad habits took root. And after decades of sin, those bad habits now haunt me at the most inopportune times, and continue to have a negative affect on my life. I won't be the one to tell you this is a war that is going to end anytime soon, but the sooner you get control of the situation, the easier it will be down the road. You'll be especially thankful you put in the work while young and relatively free of responsibility. Nothing makes a man feels worse than dropping the ball when time is short and others are depending on you. Not only will this not be a distraction, but you'll be able to focus on improving your soul in so many other ways.

[i]Mother Mary, Queen of Heaven, please pray for both Jon and I as we seek to live as your Son taught us. Amen. [/i]
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Thanks man.

[DMcB]

I just remembered this song on the matter...what a pervert:
[html]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_bP48M2BEs0[/html]

Edited January 2, 2012 by DMcB

[Pope St Clement 1]

[quote name='brianthephysicist' timestamp='1321542661' post='2337395']
Sorry for again derailing, but this needs to be said.

I came back to the Church early this year and after a few months of intense struggle, I was able to break my addictions to both porn and masturbation. I have been clean and free for just shy of 7 months now. [b]I am a man living a chaste life.[/b] It is [b][i]NOT[/i][/b]​ easy, but it [b][i]IS[/i][/b] possible. And even though some might say I've only been living this way for a relatively short period of time, I'm already seeing the benefits of my chastity. The only way to break this addiction is to stop "sugar-coating" it and recognize that it is a matter of life and death.
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It is indeed possible to live a chaste, and it sure has benefits! I am a male who, by the grace of God, hasn't masturbated in almost 13 years and I've never felt freer in all my life!