mysisterisalittlesister Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 I will pray for you and your friend. God bless! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheresaThoma Posted November 22, 2011 Share Posted November 22, 2011 Catherine it sounds like at this rate he won't have any energy left over to get into trouble at all! Its great that he is motivated to reach a very worthwhile goal. (Parachute training sounds fun!) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted April 24, 2012 Share Posted April 24, 2012 Catherine and Zack, Pulled up this thread because we are still praying for you and wonder how it is going, and when the court hearing is... holding you in very special prayer, and hope all is going well in your world! Blessings.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted April 24, 2012 Author Share Posted April 24, 2012 Court hearing is the 30th. From all we've been told he will probably just continue on probation. He's doing very well. He's working full time and seems to have settled on one girlfriend for a change, a nice one at that. The apartment renos are about half done. I still have some grouting in the bathroom to do. The appliances and fixtures are all in except one light fixture, bathroom fan and thermostat. Walls are repaired and painting is starting. I get the flooring and trim this week and after that it will just be a few spots of lipstick. We will be making him pay a small rent now that he's working. It's not a good idea to get kids used to spending a large disposable income when that isn't how it works in the real world. I want him to learn to budget while he has a safety net. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted April 24, 2012 Share Posted April 24, 2012 (edited) Such good news, Catherine! Will be praying for the 30th. So glad the 'resurrected' apartment is doing well. Can't wait to hear it is being used for the purpose for which it is intended..... Rent idea makes too much sense.... do you have any kind of 'renter's credit' on income tax that would be to his benefit? If so, that will be an additional incentive to him..... It is so good to hear happy silence coming from your part of the word... but better to know that the silence truly is happy silence!!!! Edited April 24, 2012 by AnneLine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted April 24, 2012 Author Share Posted April 24, 2012 We actually signed up with the Chemo program here. That's a group that works with kids with fetal alcohol or developmental disabilities to work towards independent living. They think they have made a match for us. It's a young man who's 20 and works at the local supermarket. He has PDD from his mom's drug use while pregnant. His functional level is similar to someone with Down's Syndrome. Basically we provide a place for him to live, make sure he gets to work and has something decent to eat, and work towards him learning to live on his own. Since his disability is permanent, he may never be ready to live by himself, so it could become a permanent home for him. Zack actually likes the idea. It would take up his spare room so it wouldn't be available to be used as a flop house by his addict brother. It would also pay his rent for him. We all have a meeting together when Austin gets back from Lexington next week. We could say no, Zack could say no, or this young man could say no to us. It has to work on all sides. Zack has a sister who used drugs with all her kids, and I think he likes the idea of providing a home to someone damaged like that. Kind of paying back karma in a way eventhough her drug use wasn't his fault. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted May 3, 2012 Share Posted May 3, 2012 So what done happened? With Zack, and with the 20 year old young man? The suspense is killing me! Praying ..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted May 4, 2012 Author Share Posted May 4, 2012 I'm sorry, I got busy and completely forgot. They continued it until June because the psychiatrist didn't get his report done on time. His attorney did say that in the 30 years he's been an attorney in juvenile justice, he's never seen a more positive pre-sentencing report. He has complied with every request, he is respectful (or I'd have his legs broke), has kept every appointment, and has gone above and beyond by joining cadets and going to therapy. He has shown real remorse, is paying restitution even before being ordered to, and a couple of dozen letters of reference all saying what he did was completely out of character. So we are in another holding pattern, as often happens in these kinds of things. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted May 4, 2012 Share Posted May 4, 2012 [quote name='CatherineM' timestamp='1319777812' post='2328086'] Outside the bars, but still, it's a day I'll never get back. A kid from church, we've been helping out for a couple of years ended up in jail last night. He's the youngest of 10 kids. His dad is a drug addict that lives at the homeless shelter. About half of his older siblings are addicts. His mom is raising 3 of her grandkids. We've been trying to be a stable, positive influence for him, and until a couple of months ago, he has been just a great kid. He started hanging out with older kids, started doing pot, and last night they robbed and beat up a pizza delivery guy. He used a baseball bat. If he wasn't 16 years old, he'd be facing some serious time. We are committed to being in his face daily if necessary. We got him bailed out, but I don't know if he is facing prison time for this since it is a first offense and the pizza guy is going to be okay. I could have rung his neck. It definitely takes a village to raise kids today. [/quote] Oh dear. I hope everything works out. Whether it be a village or locking them in a cellar, it certainly takes a lot to raise kids today. Trust me, I have tons of experience raising children. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil'Monster Posted May 4, 2012 Share Posted May 4, 2012 [quote name='FuturePriest387' timestamp='1336101970' post='2426836'] Oh dear. I hope everything works out. Whether it be a village or locking them in a cellar, it certainly takes a lot to raise kids today. Trust me, I have tons of experience raising children. [/quote] You are only 15....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted May 4, 2012 Share Posted May 4, 2012 [quote name='Lil'Monster' timestamp='1336102363' post='2426843'] You are only 15....... [/quote] I know. See, that's why they call what I just did a joke. It was a joke directed specifically at my own expense, making fun of the times when I acted like I had more experience and knowledge than adults did. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil'Monster Posted May 4, 2012 Share Posted May 4, 2012 [quote name='FuturePriest387' timestamp='1336102575' post='2426847'] I know. See, that's why they call what I just did a joke. It was a joke directed specifically at my own expense, making fun of the times when I acted like I had more experience and knowledge than adults did. [/quote] You look like you are doing it right now............... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted May 4, 2012 Share Posted May 4, 2012 FP, sometimes it really is just too much. There's a time and place... this isn't it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted May 4, 2012 Share Posted May 4, 2012 (edited) [quote name='Lil'Monster' timestamp='1336103182' post='2426857'] You look like you are doing it right now............... [/quote] Doing what? As explained, I didn't mean it when I said I had a lot of experience in it. That was the joke, you see. However, I don't want to get off topic, so let's bring this to private messaging if you feel this is important. Edited May 4, 2012 by FuturePriest387 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted May 4, 2012 Share Posted May 4, 2012 Catherine, Thanks for letting us know; I hope you didn't mind my nudging you. Have been storming heaven & earth, and was getting a little nervous... and I am glad Zack has been doing so well. So happy for all of you!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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