Q About Husband On Drugs

[Anastasia13]

I know this situation has already been handled, for better or worse, but what should a woman do if it turns out that her husband is a druggie and won't give it up?

[Basilisa Marie]

I think it partly depends on what he's doing. Is he using? Is he dealing? Is it pot? It is meth?

[Anastasia13]

[quote name='Basilisa Marie' timestamp='1319415645' post='2325913']
I think it partly depends on what he's doing. Is he using? Is he dealing? Is it pot? It is meth?
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Stuff at a hospital I guess. He was studying nursing and stealing drugs.

Edited October 24, 2011 by Light and Truth

[CatherineM]

I know that annulments are given when the innocent spouse did not know they were marrying a drug addict before the wedding. If you know, and marry anyway, or if they become one after the wedding, then no luck. If you want to stay with them, addict or alcoholic, then you isolate your finances. Make sure they can't use any of your credit, aren't on your car title or insurance or bank accounts. That means putting letters in all your files at credit agencies, banks, insurance companies, and a letter that goes into the official legal notice paper that you will not be responsible for their debts. If you have any family heirlooms you don't want to loose, get a safe deposit box. Also good for putting money or jewelry away to keep safe. Make sure you change your online banking passwords often. Then go to alanon to learn coping techniques. Renting instead of owning a house is probably also advisable. Take the extra money and put it into an untouchable money market so that you can buy a home later, after they have sobered up, or gone on. It can be hard to separate a home financially between spouses in a lot of jurisdictions.

[Anastasia13]

Is it permissible, depending on the situation, to get a legal divorce and never remarry (as one is still married in the eyes of God) unless it is to the husband upon his no longer on drugs?

[CatherineM]

[quote name='Light and Truth' timestamp='1319423192' post='2326000']
Is it permissible, depending on the situation, to get a legal divorce and never remarry (as one is still married in the eyes of God) unless it is to the husband upon his no longer on drugs?
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Absolutely. It's not the divorce paperwork that technically gets you into trouble. It is the sex with someone you aren't sacramentally married to that gets you into trouble. That's what usually happens when divorce/remarriage is involved. The Church prefers legal separation under these circumstances, but again depending on the jurisdiction, divorce might be the only way to protect yourself totally financially.

[the171]

[quote name='Light and Truth' timestamp='1319413978' post='2325895']
I know this situation has already been handled, for better or worse, but what should a woman do if it turns out that her husband is a druggie and won't give it up?
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Well, my mom was in that situation. She was married and preggers with me. She was a druggie, too, but finding out she was pregnant with me made her quit. She eventually had to divorce him, remarry, and finally annull the marriage. That was her situation, though.