got2luvjc Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 Hey y'all, just looking for some ideas of how to (or how you) shake off the "I'm alone in this world and unloved" blues. Sometimes I tend to over-eat or not eat at all when I'm upset. Both are probably not good ideas. Sometimes I run like Forrest Gump and don't come back 'til my head is clear(er). I'm thinking I'm going to find a church nearby and go entertain some Adoration for a little bit. Jesus has always been there for me, I think it's good to be there with Him and for Him. Don't judge, just toss some ideas at me if you can think of any. Thanksssssss Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Feankie Posted October 8, 2011 Share Posted October 8, 2011 It's rather a corny saying, but here goes....count your blessings! I know, I know, life seems unfair, we feel unloved, we feel unlovely, But God knew us before we were formed in our mothers womb, so why not go to Him? Not trite....but true! And for goodness sake, stay out of the fridge! Been there, done that, not good Better to eat what you need to keep you going. Eat to live, not live to eat. Try going back in time, even to the beginning of the day, and try to see the goodness all around you, and all the good things you've done for others. Sometime that part is difficult, but I think you'll be surprised how you've blessed others,. A quick smile, an unexpected hello, letting someone go ahead of you in the check-out lane. Small things that leave lasting impressions on others. And go ahead, give yourself a pat on the back. Nothing wrong with that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissyP89 Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 Phatmass. I'm serious! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BG45 Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 Honestly? That's something I struggle with a lot, especially as more and more people I know get married and have kids. I've set up one marriage and another relationship now for others in the past year, and sometimes wonder what's wrong with me that I feel so alone and unloved at times. So here are a few things that help me when I get down in the dumps: 1) Adoration. You're already going to do this; I can count on one hand the number of times I've gone before our Lord in the Eucharist and not come out a better, less depressed, individual. When I failed Qualifiers, the first thing I did was go cry before the Blessed Sacrament, that way I could actually speak once I started to have to tell people; it wasn't a miracle cure, I still felt awful, but at least I could form words. When my mother had cancer, I told my ex and cried all night to her, and then the next day, I went to Adoration to pray. 2) Exercise. I'm out of shape and over-eat when I'm depressed, but exercise does get endorphins flowing and makes you feel better in general thanks to them. You seem to do this already also from the running comment. 3) Video games; a silly game from the old school era always helps me in a funk. Sonic or Mario before they got vehicles and a billion powerups. 4) Reading. Do you read for pleasure? If so that might be something to consider. 5) Pray. I know it doesn't seem like much of a suggestion since it's common sense, but pray. Sometimes just talking to him helps you get it all out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AccountDeleted Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 Prayer is so good for this - whether at Adoration or alone... talk to Jesus and tell Him how you feel and let Him wash you with 'deep cleansing waves of love'. All of the above suggestions about exercising (I like long walks), reading, praying the Divine Office, or perhaps volunteering somewhere to connect with others and make yourself feel needed and useful? Prayers for you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
got2luvjc Posted October 9, 2011 Author Share Posted October 9, 2011 [quote name='BG45' timestamp='1318119513' post='2318171'] 1) Adoration. 2) Exercise. 3) Video games; Sonic or Mario before they got vehicles and a billion powerups. 4) Reading. Do you read for pleasure? 5) Pray. [/quote] [quote name='nunsense' timestamp='1318119790' post='2318174'] All of the above suggestions about exercising (I like long walks), reading, praying the Divine Office, or perhaps volunteering somewhere to connect with others and make yourself feel needed and useful? [/quote] 1.) I find adoration peaceful above all other things 2.) I remember one day I had serious exercise 3 times in one day. I morning couple miles on the tredmill, a 40 minute game of basketball, then a 2-mile hardcore run around midnight. For some reason when I'm emotionally overwhelmed I can suddenly run like a Kenyan. 3.) I <3 video games, and I played my Wii for a long time today actually! 4.) I do read for pleasure. Books help me remove myself from my troubles for a short time. 5.) I <3 Jesus Nunsense, I love volunteering, and I really hope I can do it more often! Thank you everyone for your feedback. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BG45 Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 Hope Adoration helped! (Also, woot the Wii!) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 besides all the great suggestions already given, here are a few things that I do to just not think and let my brain wander: cloud watching or star gazing. i don't know if you live somewhere that you can see the stars really well at night (i do), if you do, definitely head a little out of town and get some good star gazing in. swinging on a swingset. taking a walk in the middle of the night when it's snowing. (or really, any time.) clearance 'shopping' at Target. (even if I don't buy something, or buy something that is $1.) phatmass (Missy is spot on here). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
got2luvjc Posted October 9, 2011 Author Share Posted October 9, 2011 I should try some of those, because I live in a safe neighborhood, and I have a swingset in my backyard I've been on Phatmass for probably 2 hours today, which is more than I spent on it all last week I think Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 [quote name='got2luvjc' timestamp='1318128122' post='2318232'] I should try some of those, because I live in a safe neighborhood, and I have a swingset in my backyard I've been on Phatmass for probably 2 hours today, which is more than I spent on it all last week I think [/quote] i particularly love to cloud watch/star gaze. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missionseeker Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 I Phatmass drunk. Then I tell everyone I love them. And I feel better. Not that alcohol is the answer. I'm not really always sure what to do when I feel lonely. sometimes, I'll call a friend and see if they want to either hang out or make plans to hang out. I do NOT call my family. I just feel more depressed after that. Sometimes I just go run errands. I bike to get around, so that helps, and sometimes I run into ppl who are happy to see me. I go to the beach if I can. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted October 9, 2011 Share Posted October 9, 2011 Volunteer at a homeless shelter. It can do wonders for loneliness and for self esteem and feelings of gratitude. Plus, you might meet other volunteers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 oh, and you're not allowed to take your phone/iPod/whatever with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissScripture Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 [quote name='Lil Red' timestamp='1318127275' post='2318220'] swinging on a swingset. [/quote] You rock! I miss being able to do that. All the parks around here have age limits. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted October 10, 2011 Share Posted October 10, 2011 [quote name='MissScripture' timestamp='1318206764' post='2318797'] You rock! I miss being able to do that. All the parks around here have age limits. [/quote] are you for real? there aren't any 'open' parks (without fencing, is what i mean)? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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