Time Heals... Is That True?

[Totus Tuus]

Well I just typed up a long heartfelt post about my recent experience with this matter but my window disappeared into computer oblivion before I could post it. The short of it is that I've noticed in my own life that there can be a difference between healing from the pain and pushing it out of our minds. I was convicted of this last week when I saw a framed picture of my friend Jon with a Post-It note that said "We Miss You" on it at work. It startled me, almost made me burst into tears, and then made me angry. Since his death in October, I've gotten tired of trying to deal with his death. I was thinking thoughts toward whomever had put the picture there like, "don't they know how much we miss him? don't they know how much it hurts to have to see his face?" I was really angry that I had involuntarily been thrust back into my grief which I had been doing such a good job of keeping out of my mind. I have already cried and mourned and cried so much. I don't want to do it anymore. But I know I'm not done with the healing process yet, and getting angry about that picture made me realize that I was just shoving my grief into some dark corner, not genuinely letting time heal my wounds. So I do think there can be a distinction like you mentioned in your first post, Red.

Edited December 23, 2011 by Totus Tuus

[i<3LSOP]

Time heals but like MIkolbe said.... God heals.

A woman,Dotty, my dad knew for forty years passed away this Fall and it was so sad. She was a very holy, pleasantly plump, sweet lady. We used to get together with her every Christmas and she especially liked candles and flowers so we always brought her a Poinsettia, and a Christmas candle. We all missed her a lot and it was hard to believe that she was gone. Her husband was actually taking it pretty well but was heartbroken. Dad called him up about two weeks ago and said, how about you come to our house this year for a before Christmas get together? Ray came and was perfectly fine without Dotty... yet at one point he looked really sad. It was difficult without her... but everyone enjoyed themselves.

Time healed pretty quickly with this one... and yet Dotty will always have a special place in my heart. If Ray hadn't been a devoted Catholic... he would have taken it much harder I'm sure. God heals for sure.

[ireallylovejesus]

[quote name='Lil Red' timestamp='1324617944' post='2356258']
i you cmom. thank you.

i'm glad i was able to recognize that my sister was lashing out at me last night, so instead of being aggressive and snarky right back, I called her today (left her a message) and told her I loved her.
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I agree. Very mature move.