MissScripture Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 [quote name='Ed Normile' timestamp='1316821770' post='2309054'] Advice? 1. Never go to sleep mad, always apologize and make up. 2. Realize that now you are part of a whole. 3. Become a servant. 4. Learn to listen. ed [/quote] I'm not sure I agree with #1. Often times sleep is what I need to get over being mad. And things would just continue to go downhill if I didn't go to sleep and razzle dazzle down. I'm much more reasonable and better able to resolve issues after getting some sleep. Other advice: Make sure to hang out with people supportive of marriage, and aren't continual making degrading remarks about their significant others. Also, hang out with couples who behave how you would like to, because if you spend a lot of time with people or bicker over everything or something like that, it will start to seem normal and you will be far more likely to fall into that pattern of behavior. We got to learn that one the hard way, and had to postpone our wedding, because we started publicly fighting and just bickering in general so much because that's how our friends were behaving. And the wedding really does go by fast. Make sure to not get too hung up on details and enjoy it. My wedding day was truly the best day of my life so far. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ed Normile Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 MissScripture, if you do not apologize before going to sleep how can you say your prayers while mad at your spouse? ed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissScripture Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 [quote name='Ed Normile' timestamp='1316825565' post='2309085'] MissScripture, if you do not apologize before going to sleep how can you say your prayers while mad at your spouse? ed [/quote] By asking God to help me calm down and forgive him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
incarnatewordsister Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 [quote name='SanctitasDeo' timestamp='1316756202' post='2308829'] Even if you think you have great communication skills and have heard all the advice about how you should talk about everything, there will still be misunderstandings. And really, talking about them is the best way to solve them. I have always appreciated Dostoevsky's Anna Karenina, wherein the unhappy 'family' never talk about anything and never fight, but are horribly unhappy, and the happy family does sometimes get into fights or misunderstandings, but they talk and work through it, and they are happy. [/quote] Not married here, I just wanted to add Anna Karenina was written by Leo Tolstoy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Era Might Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 Throw your budget out the window. Stuff happens. Your husband can just hand over his wallet now. It will make it easier in the long run. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MIKolbe Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 iawtc... but for different reasons.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SanctitasDeo Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 [quote]Not married here, I just wanted to add Anna Karenina was written by Leo Tolstoy. [/quote] I can't believe I made that mistake. I am in a Dostoevsky literature class at the moment, so everything I read right now is by him. Thanks for correcting that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cyprian Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 (edited) During the Homily at our Wedding (more than 10 years ago), our Priest said (and of course this is slightly paraphrased, owing to time) "Today is a day for finery, elegance, and everything so special and fancy. But soon will come the time to put away all of that, as memories, and live ordinary life. Soon, the pomp will be replaced with what to have for dinner, and the routine of life. It is in the routine of life that the true beauty of this Sacrament, and God's graces, will be seen." I often think of that statement when I am preparing dinner. I think what Father meant is that the graces showered on us on our Wedding Day truly continue in our life as a married couple, and that despite the "finery" being long packed away we are still "brimming" with that "Bridal beauty" because it is God's Glory that is shining through us. Blessed Wedding Day! Edited September 24, 2011 by Cyprian Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maggyie Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 I am so excited for you!!! My fiance's cousin just got married a month ago and she was giving me advice and telling me that Wedding Zen will sink in and you won't care any more about all the little details that aren't in place. You just have to give in, let go and have fun! And it's easy to do because it all feels like it's happening in a dream. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Totus Tuus Posted September 25, 2011 Author Share Posted September 25, 2011 [quote name='Maggie' timestamp='1316894696' post='2309324'] I am so excited for you!!! My fiance's cousin just got married a month ago and she was giving me advice and telling me that Wedding Zen will sink in and you won't care any more about all the little details that aren't in place. You just have to give in, let go and have fun! And it's easy to do because it all feels like it's happening in a dream. [/quote] I think I'm in wedding zen right now (7 days to go) because I literally don't care what happens at this point. I am thinking more about my honeymoon vacation than about the wedding day, which is odd because I haven't thought about the honeymoon at all during this two year wedding planning process. It's kind of nice to have a feeling that no matter what happens, all that matters is that we're getting married. The flowers might not look right and the food might show up late, but that's not important in the grand scheme of things! I'm grateful that I'm not freaking out right now. lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 [quote name='Totus Tuus' timestamp='1316792529' post='2308939'] Wow, I didn't realize that PM had changed so much that everything is a joke now! My bad for starting this thread! [/quote] Mine wasn't a joke. It was just a "cute" way to explain my advice-- not just for you wedding, but for everyday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tjrandall Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 This might sound stupid, especially considering where I'm posting, but my advice is to learn to pray together. Not just at Church every Sunday, but at night before you go to bed. We didn't have God at the center of our marriage in the beginning, and I think some of the struggles in our early marriage would have been helped by remembering that God is at the center. And as others have said - have fun, have lots of kids, laugh more than you cry - just like our faith, marriage isn't a sprint, but a marathon. Good luck and God Bless! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaime Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 [quote name='MIkolbe' timestamp='1316739489' post='2308713'] well, if I had any advise... It would be to remember to [mod]she needs to learn that on her own[/mod] because if you don't, WOW will you wish you did. And when you [mod]she needs to learn that on her own[/mod] and then your husband [mod]she needs to learn that on her own[/mod], make sure you [mod]she needs to learn that on her own[/mod] or else!!!!! Make sure to love him even when he acts like a [mod]she needs to learn that on her own[/mod]. and NO MATTER WHAT...always be prepared to [mod]she needs to learn that on her own[/mod] even when the police tell you that [mod]she needs to learn that on her own[/mod]. [/quote] advice not advise Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah147 Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 [quote name='MIkolbe' timestamp='1316739489' post='2308713'] well, if I had any advise... It would be to remember to [mod]she needs to learn that on her own[/mod] because if you don't, WOW will you wish you did. And when you [mod]she needs to learn that on her own[/mod] and then your husband [mod]she needs to learn that on her own[/mod], make sure you [mod]she needs to learn that on her own[/mod] or else!!!!! Make sure to love him even when he acts like a [mod]she needs to learn that on her own[/mod]. and NO MATTER WHAT...always be prepared to [mod]she needs to learn that on her own[/mod] even when the police tell you that [mod]she needs to learn that on her own[/mod]. [/quote] Was that actually edited by the Mods? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ardillacid Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 [quote name='JoyfulLife' timestamp='1316967030' post='2309751'] Was that actually edited by the Mods?[/quote]oh Jason, we got a quick one :l Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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