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[quote name='rachael' timestamp='1314838225' post='2298381']
it's possible to have more than one best friend
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You probably think the earth is 6,000 years old, too.

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southern california guy

Well let's say you're a woman and the "best friend" outside of your marriage is also a guy. There might be some problems...

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[quote name='southern california guy' timestamp='1314840396' post='2298408']
Well let's say you're a woman and the "best friend" outside of your marriage is also a guy. There might be some problems...
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it's possible. one of my best friends is. i knew him 5 years before i knew my husband

[quote name='Winchester' timestamp='1314838552' post='2298386']
You probably think the earth is 6,000 years old, too.
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no, 8,000 years

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[quote name='rachael' timestamp='1314840731' post='2298413']
it's possible. one of my best friends is. i knew him 5 years before i knew my husband
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But now if you chose him to talk to when something was really bothering you versus your husband.. could that be viewed as an emotional affair?

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[quote name='rachael' timestamp='1314840731' post='2298413']
it's possible. one of my best friends is. i knew him 5 years before i knew my husband
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You're married? Huh. I didn't know you were [i]that [/i]old.

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I'm going to agree with L_D, Icey, MIKolbe & Adam here. My husband is my best friend, but so much more than that, too. I don't really refer to him as my best friend, since I tend to think of a childhood friend to whom I'm still close as my BFF.

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[quote name='southern california guy' timestamp='1314840396' post='2298408']
Well let's say you're a woman and the "best friend" outside of your marriage is also a guy. There might be some problems...
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There's always the confessional!

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[quote name='southern california guy' timestamp='1314844830' post='2298437']

But now if you chose him to talk to when something was really bothering you versus your husband.. could that be viewed as an emotional affair?
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why would i do that? i do talk to him about things that i don't talk to my husband about, but that's because i have so much more history with him. we're like brother and sister without the same parents. i can call him names, but he'll still be there when i am upset or whatever. besides, there's no special feelings for him....never has been. and it goes both ways because he's engaged to my other best friend.

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I think comparing best friend and spouse is like comparing apples and oranges. I would say my brothers are my best friend. My wife is my friend, yes indeed. I tell my wife all the time that not only do I love you, I also like you.

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If you look at all the qualities that make your best friend your best friend, you will most likely find all those same qualities in your spouse.

If I am going to go out to dinner or spend a day with someone I am going to choose my wife over anyone else. Its not because I feel I have a duty to marriage or something like that, its just because we like spending time together more than we like spending time with other people. Sure there are times we do stuff with other friends - my wife hates going to the gun range. But if I had to choose someone to go on a week vacation with I would choose my wife; not because I'm married to her, but because I enjoy spending my time with her.

Marriage is a vocation to love and serve one another. For us, that is also built on a friendship as well. There are times when we act more like brother and sister, have fun and play pranks on each other, times when we act like a loving couple, and times when we sacrifice for the better of the other.

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