vee Posted August 31, 2011 Share Posted August 31, 2011 People often say about their current or future spouse that that person is their best friend and Ive always felt uncomfortable with this expression and way of thinking. From what I know of the Catholic understanding of marriage, that spousal relationship is different than a best friendship. Also I think that when one is married they still need good friends, best friends so the role of spouse and best friend are two different things. Im just curious what people's thoughts are on using this expression and way of thinking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted August 31, 2011 Share Posted August 31, 2011 [quote name='vee8' timestamp='1314826768' post='2298286'] People often say about their current or future spouse that that person is their best friend and Ive always felt uncomfortable with this expression and way of thinking. From what I know of the Catholic understanding of marriage, that spousal relationship is different than a best friendship. Also I think that when one is married they still need good friends, best friends so the role of spouse and best friend are two different things. Im just curious what people's thoughts are on using this expression and way of thinking. [/quote] yeah, my husband isn't my best friend. that's not his role. yes, we're friends. but that is not the totality of our relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laudate_Dominum Posted August 31, 2011 Share Posted August 31, 2011 (edited) I would say that my wife is my best friend, but that isn't how I'd defined our marriage relationship. Marriage is a lot more than that. ETA: It helps. Edited August 31, 2011 by Laudate_Dominum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winchester Posted August 31, 2011 Share Posted August 31, 2011 If you want to sleep with your best friend, then it totally works. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winchester Posted August 31, 2011 Share Posted August 31, 2011 [quote name='Laudate_Dominum' timestamp='1314827222' post='2298291'] I would say that my wife is my best friend, but that isn't how I'd defined our marriage relationship. Marriage is a lot more than that. ETA: It helps. [/quote] [media='']http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lJJj-TlrikM&feature=related[/media] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark of the Cross Posted August 31, 2011 Share Posted August 31, 2011 My wife and I have nothing in common, we're even of different sex! We misunderstand each other continuously cause she's a female and I'm a male. We fight about things which it is not possible to fight about. As soon as I say good morning she says "but not all of them". God had to create love or it just would not have worked! Marriage is a [img]http://images.cheezburger.com/completestore/2011/1/24/694acc90-c818-4117-8d8f-654da564ab70.jpg[/img] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted August 31, 2011 Share Posted August 31, 2011 I might marry one of my best friends, but I'm not a lesbian. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IcePrincessKRS Posted August 31, 2011 Share Posted August 31, 2011 [quote name='Laudate_Dominum' timestamp='1314827222' post='2298291'] I would say that my wife is my best friend, but that isn't how I'd defined our marriage relationship. Marriage is a lot more than that. ETA: It helps. [/quote] I agree. I often have said that Matt is my best friend. Obviously my "friendship" with him is [i]very[/i] different than with my female "best friends", but I don't think it's odd to say that he is my numero uno. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winchester Posted August 31, 2011 Share Posted August 31, 2011 [quote name='Mark of the Cross' timestamp='1314829894' post='2298318'] My wife and I have nothing in common, we're even of different sex! We misunderstand each other continuously cause she[s]'s a female[/s] is always wrong and I'm a male. We fight about things which it is not possible to fight about. As soon as I say good morning she says "but not all of them". God had to create love or it just would not have worked! Marriage is a [img]http://images.cheezburger.com/completestore/2011/1/24/694acc90-c818-4117-8d8f-654da564ab70.jpg[/img] [/quote] fxd Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MIKolbe Posted August 31, 2011 Share Posted August 31, 2011 Shea is my best friend...but the relationship is still deeper than that... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winchester Posted September 1, 2011 Share Posted September 1, 2011 (edited) [quote name='MIkolbe' timestamp='1314835162' post='2298338'] Shea is my best friend...but the relationship is still deeper than that... [/quote] [img]http://growingupwell.files.wordpress.com/2010/06/twilight.jpg[/img] Okay, not quite as, but pretty close. Edited September 1, 2011 by Winchester Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brother Adam Posted September 1, 2011 Share Posted September 1, 2011 I agree with LD. My wife was my best friend and I married her. Holy Matrimony deepens the relationship to a sacramental reality. I think there might be something wrong if your spouse isn't your deepest confidant. That said we both have 'best friends', but we experience a relationship that is deeper than those other relationships. I find no fault in marrying or calling your spouse your best friend. I would even say that you need to establish boundaries with your other relationships that protects the sanctity of marriage. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ad Majorem Dei Gloriam Posted September 1, 2011 Share Posted September 1, 2011 I'm not married but for those that I know that are their spouse is their best friend but more so. Aristotle (and St. Thomas accepts this definition) notes that the friend is another self. You see in each other what the other needs, are useful to one another in that you help one another, but also there is a love there. If the spouses are supposed to be like one flesh and other selves, then it would seem marriage is like a "best friend"ship except more so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MIKolbe Posted September 1, 2011 Share Posted September 1, 2011 [quote name='Winchester' timestamp='1314835494' post='2298341'] [img]http://growingupwell.files.wordpress.com/2010/06/twilight.jpg[/img] Okay, not quite as, but pretty close. [/quote] stop projecting... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winchester Posted September 1, 2011 Share Posted September 1, 2011 [quote name='MIkolbe' timestamp='1314836140' post='2298348'] stop projecting... [/quote] I have an LCD, not a projection screen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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