Modesty For Men

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[quote name='rizz_loves_jesus' timestamp='1314507177' post='2296233']
If I'd described my body in detail, that would be one thing. Providing a first-hand account of how people can be a little too judgmental about modesty is another thing entirely.

Look, I'm sorry if my post caused lustful thoughts to enter into anyone's mind. I think that's really weird if it did, but I'm sorry nonetheless. My intention wasn't to appear sexy or to tempt anyone. I just wanted to point it out because some people (such as my ex) can be really ridiculous about modesty and being uncharitable to women who legitimately try. He was incredibly rude told me that I was "too seductive," even though my clothing was not revealing [i]at all[/i] except for when I leaned over.

I'm not trying to cause lust. I'm not being immodest. I'm telling guys who are really hardcore about expecting women to cover up to be a little understanding toward each woman's unique situation. That's all.
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I see where you are coming from now. I pray we all try to dress for Jesus' approval first and that guides us. I think He knows our hearts best and if we are sincerely doing our best for Him thats what counts.

[littleflower+JMJ]

[quote name='rizz_loves_jesus' timestamp='1314500293' post='2296124']

I'd also like to add that even if we do try, for some of us, there's no way to cover up [i]everything. [/i]Girls with bigger chests physically can't cover their cleavage 100% unless they're wearing a t-shirt, and no one wants to do that every day.
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I know I gave you props but I still have to say I agree with you! The turtleneck suffocates me!

[Selah]

I just hate guys without shirts on. It just bothers me, especially if it's an old wrinkly guy with a chest full of grey hair and he has obvious sun poisoning from too much sun exposure (THEN PUT YOUR SHIRT ON AND YOU WOULDN'T HAVE THAT PROBLEM! >: O ). It's one thing if it's at the beach or what not, but it just comes off as utter disrespect to, not only women, but also to himself.

/endrant.

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"I haz big boobies"
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LOL

Edited August 28, 2011 by Selah

[southern california guy]

I think that both men and women should dress like this!

[img]http://www.asianews.it/files/img/INDIA_(F)_0304_-_VeiledMuslimWomen452.jpg[/img]

But you know what.. That woman on the left as really beautiful eyes!

Edited August 29, 2011 by southern california guy

[Lil'Monster]

[quote name='vee8' timestamp='1314506050' post='2296216']
If a guy came in here and said he a large willy and didnt always care to wear pantz that kept it fully covered that would be....?????
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ewwwww

[dominicansoul]

[quote name='Maximilianus' timestamp='1314507961' post='2296238']
Yeah that's right, this is the epitome of modest clothing for men... but I fear that even the ladies swoon when they see a fella like this

[img]http://2.bp.blogspot.com/---2SxSx2O3w/TZiDlBVL4LI/AAAAAAAAAyc/iOOQDGcBHv0/s1600/leisuresuit.jpg[/img]
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Tripp Love???


It would be very nice if all men dressed like this all the time:


[img]http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-SjAkBGi_RJ8/TlMqCsJRI9I/AAAAAAAAAMw/m8sMaqUslwI/s400/Chris-Evans-various-Photoshoot-photos-chris-evans-10058742-800-1072.jpg[/img]


(back in the day, men did dress like this most of the time...)

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[quote name='dominicansoul' timestamp='1314590881' post='2296727']

Tripp Love???

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Could be Party Flavo, cus you know, it depends on the day of the week

[Lil'Monster]

Actually I personally do know a guy who dresses in suit coat and tie all the time when he went to school. I never seen him wearing jeans at all. He only wore khaki slacks with a polo shirt on casual days. And btw he was cute and we were married for like 30 minutes on stage

[Lil'Monster]

Also I HATE to see men wearing very baggy pantaloons that is not even on their hips or its way down to their knees! As a woman, I don't get impressed by any men who dresses this way. Actually I feel sorry for them. And also they look like penguins who are very constipated! And I don't want to see their boxers either! It's gross...very gross! Besides if you think about it, men who wear their pantaloons passed their hips and/or down to their hips will have problems when they become old men.

Also did their mothers ever teach them to wear pantaloons in the normal way????


Men, pull your britches up and wear pantaloons that fits your size.


Don't be a gangster!


Be a cowboy!!!!

[tinytherese]

[quote name='Lil'Monster' timestamp='1314593729' post='2296757']
And also they look like penguins who are very constipated!




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[Ad Majorem Dei Gloriam]

[quote name='Lil'Monster' timestamp='1314591091' post='2296731']
Actually I personally do know a guy who dresses in suit coat and tie all the time when he went to school. I never seen him wearing jeans at all. He only wore khaki slacks with a polo shirt on casual days. And btw he was cute and we were married for like 30 minutes on stage




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......I'm in grad school and all I wear are nice slacks, dress shoes, and a button down every day (though I like to roll up the sleeves to make it a bit more casual). On sunday's I dress it up a bit and put on my charcoal three piece suit. Dressing this way though does make me feel more like and help me act more like a mature man.

Edited August 29, 2011 by Ad Majorem Dei Gloriam

[Papist]

[quote name='Ad Majorem Dei Gloriam' timestamp='1314339489' post='2295121']
As I have been told by several men, modesty for men is actually quite opposite of women and has very little to do with clothing. I mean, yes one should always strive to dress appropriately, but generally guys aren't trying to flaunt their bodies and women, I am told, aren't as visual as men. Guys are immodest in another way. Now don't take me out of context but, a guy can be immodest when he spends a large amount of time with a woman he is not friends with. If there is an established relationship or solid friendship one can be supportive yes; however, constantly being emotionally supportive for a woman, talking to her about things that are very close to her heart (especially events that have hurt her), and even praying with her about them can be very immodest if one does not intend to seek a relationship with her. Such events, while they should not be shied away from lest you hurt the other person, should be used as an opportunity to push the other person towards the proper support. The sharing of these events do create a natural bond between people especially if one is consistently an emotional support and help and often shares things about themselves to the other person who has been having trouble. For guys, this can be seen as just being a good friend and helping them through a tough time, but for women, they often see something more. Guys can be immodest emotionally in this way.
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This is true. My wife is on a mommy forum, which like here, many topics come up. She has told me that many on there have said they would prefer their husband to have a physical/sexual affair over an emotional affair. Before this, I had no idea what an emotional affair was. Based on what an emotional affair is, apparently, I had some affairs with my brothers.

[ceciliatherese]

[quote name='MithLuin' timestamp='1314471150' post='2295917']
There's a reason porn is more associated with men and romance novels women. Guys like to see; women want a story. What turns us on is a bit different.

Not saying that women don't, errr, appreciate looking at a man's body. It's just not quite the same mechanism.

In this fallen world, the goal is to avoid lusting after people, viewing them as objects to be used for our pleasure. That's something both women and men could afford to work on.

Women dress 'sexy' because it gets them attention and makes them feel good about themselves. Guys might have similar motivations to dress up, but I don't really see men wanting to flaunt what they've got in quite the same way. They might call attention to their height or physique, but they don't really walk around in revealing outfits.

I mean, in normal situations. I am not referring to what might be deemed 'appropriate' or normal attire at a gay nightclub.
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I Never understood people who thought that way... I mean, maybe it's more of a problem for high school and college aged girls? ALL my female friends (16-19 or so) say that they have problems with guys being shirtless, wearing low pantaloons, tight clothing, (especially if they're all ripped and stuff), I mean when I hear stuff like this I feel weird that I get turned on by guys. I mean, BOTH genders have sex drives, right? O.o I guess I think it's just a bit dangerous to generalize, i.e. all guys get turned on by visuals, all girls get turned on by emotional connections. It varies a LOT just by the person, environment in which they grow up, etc. etc. etc.

[Lizzy]

Okay, bear with me here as I lay this out:

Modesty by definition is reserve or propriety. The goal of modesty is to eliminate distractions that distance others from God. And we try to eliminate those distractions out of respect for others' souls and to glorify God.

We tend to only discuss this in the context of sex...ie. women should cover up so men aren't distracted by impure thoughts. But many things other than impure thoughts can distract one from holy pursuits or distance one from God.

If a man stares at a woman, catcalls, or otherwise harasses her, he is acting immodestly. Catcalls have never tempted me to impure thoughts, but they do certainly distract me from more productive thoughts. Any moment I spend thinking about how best to avoid harassment or assault is a moment not spent in prayer or doing good works.

Therefore, a man who comments lewdly on a woman's cleavage is just as immodest as a woman who isn't wearing enough clothing because he is acting without propriety and, by distracting her, distancing her from God.

So to answer in a really round-about way, if you want to be a modest man: Be polite. Don't harass. Don't stare. Just be respectful.

Make sense?

[Theresita Nerita]

[quote name='Ad Majorem Dei Gloriam' timestamp='1314601648' post='2296805']

......I'm in grad school and all I wear are nice slacks, dress shoes, and a button down every day (though I like to roll up the sleeves to make it a bit more casual). On sunday's I dress it up a bit and put on my charcoal three piece suit. Dressing this way though does make me feel more like and help me act more like a mature man.
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that was an immodest post for some of us girls who struggle with three-piece-suit-attraction. keep it to yourself dude.