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I'm a single guy who likes to think that he is fairly chivalrous. I've been thinking about this topic for some time… I personally have/had difficulty saying things like " that girl is pretty hot" or "sexy" <shudder>… instead I see things like "she is really cute" or "pretty" when I refer to an attractive woman in certain instances.

So… My Reasoning has been that the term "hot" can be used for objects--- therefore, using that term a reference to a person reduces the person to an object. But now, I have been thinking that perhaps it is okay to use "hot" to describe a beautiful woman because I do refer to people (usually not girls) and objects as "cool" and "dope" without thinking twice.

Thoughts?

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OnlySunshine

I've never liked that phrasing. Not only is it grammatically incorrect, but it's my opinion that it reduces humans to objects. Now, that may not be your intent, but those who use it considerably don't sound as though they respect the opposite sex as they should. I hate the way it sounds, mostly because it sounds rather iffy and immature.

I don't mind "cute" or "pretty." But "hot" or "sexy" are not exactly the best choice of words. :blush:

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You can reasonably describe a woman as "hot" if she is obviously sweating, or flushed from the heat (although "warm" would be better in this instance).

Otherwise, you may say, "I find certain of her (physical) characteristics appealing."



Werd.

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[quote name='Luigi' timestamp='1310097929' post='2264287']
You can reasonably describe a woman as "hot" if she is obviously sweating, or flushed from the heat (although "warm" would be better in this instance).

Otherwise, you may say, "I find certain of her (physical) characteristics appealing."



Werd.
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This. A woman friend earlier was telling me how a guy said "how are you doing beautiful" to her randomly at the mall, and how she wouldn't have minded if it had been a "hot" guy. I was kinda scandalized at all that someone would go that route to someone they didn't know; it takes me a while before I'll even call a person cute or pretty.

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Vincent Vega

[quote name='MaterMisericordiae' timestamp='1310094666' post='2264267']
Not only is it grammatically incorrect
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Now this I'm curious about. Would you explicate?

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Basilisa Marie

I dare you to find a woman who doesn't think that "beautiful" is the ultimate physical complement. :) "Gorgeous" also works. "Cute" is almost always a safe bet, but can get problematic if a woman is trying to look more mature. That is, it's usually considered a sort of opposite to hot/sexy in a positive way. In general, I find "attractive" means pretty much the same thing as "hot" without some of the skanky connotations.

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OnlySunshine

[quote name='USAirwaysIHS' timestamp='1310098442' post='2264295']
Now this I'm curious about. Would you explicate?
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[quote]hot/hät/Adjective
1. Having a high degree of heat or a high temperature.
2. Feeling or producing an uncomfortable sensation of heat.[/quote]

If you go by the definition, a woman or man cannot be "hot" unless you are talking about their body temperature.

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OnlySunshine

[quote name='Basilisa Marie' timestamp='1310098734' post='2264300']
I dare you to find a woman who doesn't think that "beautiful" is the ultimate physical complement. :) "Gorgeous" also works. "Cute" is almost always a safe bet, but can get problematic if a woman is trying to look more mature. That is, it's usually considered a sort of opposite to hot/sexy in a positive way. In general, I find "attractive" means pretty much the same thing as "hot" without some of the skanky connotations.
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:like:

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Totus Tuus

"Depends on the tone of the usage"

I have a very fresh example. Some FOCUS missionaries are visiting our school, and one of them said "holy women are the hottest women" -- very cliche' Catholic thing to say, but the way it was said was SO respectful. It was just said as a matter of fact.

A counter example:

A few years ago (OK more like 8 years -- I am in denial about my age) I was at a youth group type activity at a church I used to go to. We watched "Bend it Like Bekham" and the youth minister person (he looked upper college age, but that was a lot older than us at the time) yelled out at the end, "THAT GIRL IS FREAKING HOOTTT!!!" in a totally disrespectful tone. I was grossed out by him after that because you could just tell by the way he said it that his intentions were not pure.

So, I go 100% with it depending on how it's said. And generalizing seems more acceptable to me than saying individual women are hot.

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let_go_let_God

I voted "no" as a girl and I wanted to explain.

If you had asked me 7 months ago, I would have voted yes or it depends on the connotations. Being married now I saw it as something completely new. I want to be attractive and more than beautiful to my husband. The usages of "hot", "sexy", or other physical descriptions as such should just be reserved for him. I want him to be the only one who does look at me like that, not just because I'm his wife but because of the impact that sex does have in our sacrament.

Let it be noted that he doesn't call me "hot" or "sexy" and I'm absolutely fine with that, he let's me know how attractive I am to him in his own way. I am perfectly fine with that. In my own experience calling someone hot was opening the door to a little more temptation that I necessarily wanted to admit, regardless of the connotations.

my $0.02

God bless-
LGLG

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I dunno....I think it's one of those phrases that is unique to it's contextual setting. It's kind of meta in the sense that no one actually thinks about what it initially was meant to describe--I imagine the words "shapely" and "vivacious" come to mind. Now it's kind of a subjective catch-all in the sense that you'd say "She's/He's hot" in the same way that you'd say "She's pretty" or "He's good-looking."

That's my $0.02 anyway...

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homeschoolmom

Anyone who remembers when people were "foxy" should not use "hot" as a descriptor of physically beauty.

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