Guest jim/john Posted May 3, 2011 Share Posted May 3, 2011 [size="4"]I have a hard time not committing the same sin after confession and absolution. I know it offends God. However, I give in to temptation and commit it all over again. Prayer does work for awhile but I always loose the battle after a few days. The guilt is enormous, any suggestions? [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted May 3, 2011 Share Posted May 3, 2011 What you're doing isn't working I guess. You need to do something radical. I'm not sure what kind of sin you are talking about, but I was young once, and can guess. When I had trouble with a particular sin when I was a teenager (not the one most people will assume), I had to completely change how I handled my free time, and who I spent my time with. If it is something you do in private, then seriously cut down on the amount of time you spend alone. Join clubs, walk in the mall, exhaust yourself before being alone. If it is something you do with another person/people, you will have to cold turkey, not being around them. If it is causing you pain, offer that up, and believe that you can change. Think of it like an addiction. If you don't believe that you can stop it for life, then just see if you can go without for a day. Worry about tomorrow when it comes, and just try to survive today. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laudate_Dominum Posted May 3, 2011 Share Posted May 3, 2011 (edited) Never give up. Never surrender. God is on your side. His grace is sufficient. By Grabthar's Hammer, by the sons of Wartham... Prayers mate. Edited May 3, 2011 by Laudate_Dominum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Groo the Wanderer Posted May 3, 2011 Share Posted May 3, 2011 weekly confession, daily adoration. Eucharist as often as possible - weekly at least. also get a spiritual director to help you through this... Christ's peace be with you....do not give up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Not A Mallard Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Pray to God and ask him to give you the graces that will help you stop repeating this sin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Blind Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Well being a regular sinner myself I fight with many demons daily. I have changed my walk with the Lord and try daily to quit many things. I used to drink daily and smoke cig's all the time. I have a serious issue with porn and what comes with it. Sorry if thats over the top, but its true. So I pray all the time. I have been alone for the most part for 2 months now and have turned greatly to this site. Instead of going to other forums or sites when I have urges I go in the chat room on here. Until I get tired. If i feel like thats not working I start researching some off the wall thing like what Saint does what and so on. I have come to find out what time people are on here and have made friends that I enjoy talking to. Thats my two cents hope it helps and I will pray for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AudreyGrace Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 How often do you confess? I found that once I started going regularly (every two weeks or so) it has been easier for me to avoid sin. Ask Mama Mary for help, too. She's a wonderful woman Whatever you do, as long as you are truly contrite and in heavy pursuit of doing good, do not get down on yourself. We are humans. We fall. For the sake of His sorrowful passion, have mercy on us and on the whole world! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
penguin31 Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 Figure out the circumstances that cause you to commit that sin, and commit yourself to avoiding that occasion as much as possible. If it's a private sin, spend more time with friends and family, or heck, even in online communities of supportive folks, such as this one. If it's a sin against a person, distance yourself from that person and simply explain that right now you're in a situation where you can't be around them. If it's a sin of the heart, find someone whose counsel you can trust and seek their guidance. Pray often. Confess often. Receive Our Lord in the Blessed Sacrament as often as possible. One strategy I once heard that's helped me in my walk: when you feel tempted by sin, imagine that Christ Himself is standing in the room, and then act accordingly. It's a lifelong battle, and there are going to be missteps. One thing you may consider: If it's five days between instances of sin on one occasion, try to hold out for six the next time. Your journey is going to be a marathon, not a sprint, but trust in Him and you'll come out just fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amppax Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 I struggle with the same thing, repeating the same things. I would repeat what the priest told me in confession the other day, but i'm not sure if i'm supposed to, and besides, i can't really remember it well enough to do it justice. One of the things that a priest told me once, was not only to avoid that scenario, but replace it with something healthy and good. that is helping me a ton. The best things however, are to pray pray pray, and go to confession Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wikitiki Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 I suppose it's different for everyone, but I really can't get through the day without my Rosary. I pray one Mystery in the morning on my way to school and the others throughout the day. It's usually on me at all times, and when I really feel even slightly tempted or am in an even somewhat potentially "dangerous" situation, I keep it in my hand. Also, wearing the brown (or any) scapular, and/or some kind of crucifix, cross, or medal (or all of the above!) tends to help. Sometimes it's easier to sin when you can't feel something weighing down on your neck or look down and see some reminder of the Passion or a holy life that was led. I was once told by a very inspiring man to go to confession every single day if you need to. In any event (even after it becomes less frequent) it's good to at least go every other week. I've found my absolute breaking point is a month. Venial sins pile up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest jim/john Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 [size="4"]Thank you all for your replies, i will try them all. may God Bless each and everyone of you. Jim/John [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
socalscout Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 (edited) [quote name='jim/john' timestamp='1304461995' post='2236564'] [size="4"]I have a hard time not committing the same sin after confession and absolution. I know it offends God. However, I give in to temptation and commit it all over again. Prayer does work for awhile but I always loose the battle after a few days. The guilt is enormous, any suggestions? [/size] [/quote] All good advice and not one are better than the other as this is your private cross that you must bear on your journey to be with HIM. I will give you my advice. First, we are all sinners and no one can cast the first stone. The type of sin varies but we all commit sin. DO NOT distance yourself from Christ even though you are in a state of mortal sin. This is Toxic shame and Satan wants you to feel like dirt and wants you to distance yourself from God. He tells you that you are not clean and not deserving of God's mercy. This type of shame leads to other sins as well. Have you missed Mass on Sunday because you were too embarrassed to sit in the pew alone while others were going up to receive Holy Communion? Have you gone to different parishes to confess each week as to avoid the reaction of the priest from your previous confession? All of this plays into the hand of the one who wants you to distance yourself from God and the Church. It works quite well. Increase your prayer right after you commit sin. Immerse yourself in everything opposite of your sin immediately. Confess to the same person regardless if you get a negative reaction. Sometimes you need to be kicked in the arse and it is for your own good. It is not alright to do this and you have to cowboy up and stop, for your soul. You will fall but as long as you know that it is not alright and you embrace the Sacraments and work as hard as you can to avoid that sin then you are well on the path. Still know that you are loved and do not seperate yourself from God anymore than you already have. You are not alone. God Bless you. Edited May 4, 2011 by socalscout Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarah147 Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 (edited) I think you've got some excellent advice on this thread. I think one of the most important things is to avoid occasions of sin... Music, TV, movies, webpages, discussions -- keep them good and pure. That will help keep your thoughts and words pure, too. Find out what is leading up to the sin, especially thoughts and desires, and nip them. With every struggle and fight, you are gaining power of will and that will help you be stronger against future sins. It may also help you to do some penances, such as keeling on a hard floor or eating something you don't like, etc. for greater strength. Edited May 4, 2011 by JoyfulLife Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil'Monster Posted May 4, 2011 Share Posted May 4, 2011 [quote name='JoyfulLife' timestamp='1304523542' post='2236844'] I think you've got some excellent advice on this thread. I think one of the most important things is to avoid occasions of sin... Music, TV, movies, webpages, discussions -- keep them good and pure. That will help keep your thoughts and words pure, too. Find out what is leading up to the sin, especially thoughts and desires, and nip them. [/quote] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jesus_lol Posted May 6, 2011 Share Posted May 6, 2011 If your eye causes you to sin, pluck it out.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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