Anastasia13 Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 What do you all think? I know physical is not the most important part of a relationship, but what would you do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AudreyGrace Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 I voted "for a few dates", but you can't really predict anything like that. Also, never go into any dating type of relationship thinking "let me think of//plan when this can or should end." I think if you like someone for who they are and if they ask you out, might as well go on a few dates. Give it a chance. After all, the purpose of dating is to find someone to marry. Marriage is for life, and usually looks end up not being so important when you're both old and wrinkly. Not to mention, sometimes people who look physically unattractive at first can appear beautiful after you get to know their personality. The opposite is also true- physically attractive people can look ugly after a while if you realize their personality is rotten. Also, the only times I've witnessed someone wanting to break up because they were "not physically attracted to them anymore" was when the person, in all reality, was obviously too immature to handle a relationship. If you go on a few dates, get to know their personality, and still find them completely repulsive, then don't enter into a relationship. Friends first, then a few dates, then a relationship. That's how I think it should be. Kind of gets rid of most of the confusion regarding appearance too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 I would not, and I see no reason to. Physical attraction is a part of our sexual nature, and it's there for a reason. I see no reason to pretend that it's not. The thing that tends to happen is when you're attracted to anyone in a particular way, you will be physically attracted to them as well, even if you wouldn't have expected it in the first place. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 [quote name='Light and Truth' timestamp='1302978582' post='2229270'] What do you all think? I know physical is not the most important part of a relationship, but what would you do? [/quote] Thank God women don't judge men on their looks they way they judge us or there would be very few marriages ever made. Its kind of narrow-minded to immediately judge whether you can love someone based on their looks and not their heart. A excellent sense of humor, a ready laugh, and an infectious smile can make almost anyone attractive, and a good character is certainly more important than whether they "turn you on" the minute you look at them. Get to know someone before you decide you can't love them, getting struck by lightning happens when you least expect it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rhetoricfemme Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 [quote name='Nihil Obstat' timestamp='1302985321' post='2229293'] I would not, and I see no reason to. Physical attraction is a part of our sexual nature, and it's there for a reason. I see no reason to pretend that it's not. The thing that tends to happen is when you're attracted to anyone in a particular way, you will be physically attracted to them as well, even if you wouldn't have expected it in the first place. [/quote] I would have voted this way, save for the fact that sometimes attraction can develop over the course of getting to know one another better throughout a few dates. If I'm being completely honest, though, I've always been attracted to anyone that I've dated from the get-go... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ash Wednesday Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 Some sort of physical attraction or at least potential for physical attraction is often going to be a starting point for dating someone. Not everyone is immediately physically attracted to their future sweetheart, but after getting to know them they can become so. Even then, physical attraction is just a starting point. I also think people's standards for what is sufficiently "physically attractive" will also vary. And while attraction and the infatuation that it brings is fun, it is not the same thing as true love. I think too often people don't differentiate between the two and it's one reason why a lot of marriages and relationships fail. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tony Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 let's look at the other side of the coin. If someone didn't want to date you because they thought you weren't attractive, rather than what's on the inside, would it be worth it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 [quote name='Tony' timestamp='1302994299' post='2229333'] let's look at the other side of the coin. If someone didn't want to date you because they thought you weren't attractive, rather than what's on the inside, would it be worth it? [/quote] Yes. I don't want to date someone who's not attracted to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted April 16, 2011 Author Share Posted April 16, 2011 [quote name='Nihil Obstat' timestamp='1302994370' post='2229334'] Yes. I don't want to date someone who's not attracted to me. [/quote] I do sort of feel the same way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted April 16, 2011 Share Posted April 16, 2011 It's important to keep in mind also that God always finds a way. If you're meant to be with someone, you will be attracted to them. Maybe not initially, be He works in mysterious ways. At the end of the day, you will be attracted to the person you're meant to be with, so whether or not People magazine would call them attractive, you're going to think so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ice_nine Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 Usually if he's blind, that's a good start for me. Beggars can't be choosers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ed Normile Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 I would think any good dentist could cure an infectious smile with the proper treatment. ed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dominicansoul Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 i once considered marrying my best friend Bob just cos he is a decent human being and is in love with me. I am not physically attracted to him at all. I would want us to be in a chaste marriage though, and adopt tons of kids... ...for some reason he didn't like that idea... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ardillacid Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 no Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AudreyGrace Posted April 17, 2011 Share Posted April 17, 2011 [quote name='dominicansoul' timestamp='1303018593' post='2229430'] i once considered marrying my best friend Bob just cos he is a decent human being and is in love with me. I am not physically attracted to him at all. I would want us to be in a chaste marriage though, and adopt tons of kids... ...for some reason he didn't like that idea... [/quote] R O T F L Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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