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Amppax

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[quote name='Nihil Obstat' timestamp='1302496511' post='2227424']
Discernment is necessary, but there's a time and a place to do so, and a dating situation is neither the time nor the place to discern the priesthood. If he's not sure, he should not date until he is. It's not fair to anybody.
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I would agree for the most part, that if you are discerning the priesthood, you probably shouldn't be dating. In this scenario, I think that it is fine for her to go to the prom with the guy who might be kinda, sorta, maybe, thinking of being a priest, especially if it is just going as friends.

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Nihil Obstat

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[quote name='Amppax' timestamp='1302497070' post='2227428']
I would agree for the most part, that if you are discerning the priesthood, you probably shouldn't be dating. In this scenario, I think that it is fine for her to go to the prom with the guy who might be kinda, sorta, maybe, thinking of being a priest, especially if it is just going as friends.
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Better if it's clear that it's not a date date, but personally I'd even stay clear of that. People our age are notorious for letting their transient feelings run rampant.

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Ed Normile

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Whats the problem with going to a prom with a guy who may be discerning the priesthood? I am sure you both are emotionally stable enough to control your actions during a night at a public dance. I doubt that could even be considered the near occasion of sin as its just a prom dance. Its not like either of you have the intention of going with a date to the prom to sneak off afterward to nearest hourly motel and get down and dirty, take it for what it is, a public social gathering, and act accordingly. Dance to a few songs, chat with your peers and enjoy a night of respectable fun and make some memories to cherish in your old age.

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Nihil Obstat

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[quote name='Ed Normile' timestamp='1302498541' post='2227435']
Whats the problem with going to a prom with a guy who may be discerning the priesthood? I am sure you both are emotionally stable enough to control your actions during a night at a public dance. I doubt that could even be considered the near occasion of sin as its just a prom dance. Its not like either of you have the intention of going with a date to the prom to sneak off afterward to nearest hourly motel and get down and dirty, take it for what it is, a public social gathering, and act accordingly. Dance to a few songs, chat with your peers and enjoy a night of respectable fun and make some memories to cherish in your old age.

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:lol: Definitely not what I was thinking about.

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vee

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You know whats really lame? Where are all the guys asking you? Youre smart, funny, good looking, and Catholic dont guys your age have a spine?

edited to add Catholic

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Chamomile

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[quote name='Nihil Obstat' timestamp='1302494841' post='2227412']
IMO, if a guy mentions anything that indicates that he might possibly maybe potentially be discerning, he's not dating material under any circumstances until he decides 100% otherwise.
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I agree!!!!! :priest: ftw

But this opinion wasn't popular during chat, either... [img]http://www.phatmass.com/phorum/public/style_emoticons/default/dry.gif[/img]

My vote is ask the other guy. Or go alone. Or go to a coffeeshop and read a book.

Yeah, I'm boring.

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Chamomile

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[quote name='vee8' timestamp='1302529579' post='2227463']
You know whats really lame? Where are all the guys asking you? Youre smart, funny, good looking, and Catholic dont guys your age have a spine?

edited to add Catholic
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This too. What up wit dat?

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Nihil Obstat

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Imma have to recommend [url="http://seraphicsinglescummings.blogspot.com/"]Seraphic Singles[/url] to back up my position.

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MargaretTeresa

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[quote name='vee8' timestamp='1302529579' post='2227463']
You know whats really lame? Where are all the guys asking you? Youre smart, funny, good looking, and Catholic dont guys your age have a spine?

edited to add Catholic
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Agreed. Although I had to ask my date junior year...but we were only kind of sort of dating. And then there was the senior year fiasco. :(

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MIKolbe

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[quote name='MIkolbe' timestamp='1302542233' post='2227511']
What about Hasan?
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i hear his calendar is pretty open...

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MissScripture

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[quote name='vee8' timestamp='1302529579' post='2227463']
You know whats really lame? Where are all the guys asking you? Youre smart, funny, good looking, and Catholic dont guys your age have a spine?

edited to add Catholic
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:secret: except i think you added it in the wrong spot...:hehe:

[quote name='Chamomile' timestamp='1302533305' post='2227473']
I agree!!!!! :priest: ftw

But this opinion wasn't popular during chat, either... [img]http://www.phatmass.com/phorum/public/style_emoticons/default/dry.gif[/img]

My vote is ask the other guy. Or go alone. Or go to a coffeeshop and read a book.

Yeah, I'm boring.
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Except going to a dance as friends isn't dating.

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Chamomile

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[quote name='MissScripture' timestamp='1302551875' post='2227561']
Except going to a dance as friends isn't dating.
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Well... I didn't say they would be dating, so I understand that. But I still think my opinion is valid. Even though it sounds silly and maybe old-fashioned to some people, I guess :idontknow:

This comes from my own understanding of the discernment of a religious call and how serious that is, even if one may not reveal that completely to others. I think it's best to respect the working of the Holy Spirit in someone else's soul and not come close to putting a stumbling block there.

And we have to remember that it might seem perfectly fine to bring this guy to someone who's not discerning a call to the religious life or priesthood (like Audrey, as far as I know :nunpray: ? ;) ), but to the one discerning it might not be perfectly fine to go (even if they don't outright say this!), and then that will place him in an awkward situation. So that's a short explanation of it. I haven't read the link from the website Nihil posted, so sorry if I just repeated stuff that was there.

Really, though, Audrey, God bless you whomever you take :)

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Nihil Obstat

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Just search "seminarians" or "discerning", etc., on that site and you'll understand what I'm talking about. Here are a couple links:

http://seraphicsinglescummings.blogspot.com/2010/10/discern-this-drama-boy.html

http://seraphicsinglescummings.blogspot.com/2010/12/auntie-seraphic-ex-seminarians.html

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