Who Do I Take To Prom?

[AudreyGrace]

Here's the deal: I has no prom date, and I needs one.
If I take Tommy, I'd probably have fun. I don't know him that well, but my friends really think i should ask him. He's really nice and polite, BUT his faith doesn't really like Catholics all that much. He is very tolerant and kind, though.
If I take Ben, I'd have a good time. We already know each other pretty well. I wouldn't have to worry about him disrespecting me, since he's thinking he might be called to priesthood. BUT, ...well... he might be called to priesthood and therefore so "no" if i ask him.

MissScripture thought I should do a poll.. so... here goes

Edited April 11, 2011 by AudreyGrace

[ardillacid]

"Whom"

[dominicansoul]

DON'T GO WITH THE ANTI-CATHOLIC BIGOT BOI


...okay, I've voted

[Nihil Obstat]

DEFINITELY not the possibly discerning guy. Don't get mixed up with guys who think they might be discerning, whether they 'officially' are or not.
Consider going without a date, maybe?

[MargaretTeresa]

Even our 45 year old pastor here has fun...playing video games. And jokingly verbally bashing State.

Edited April 11, 2011 by MargaretTeresa

[AudreyGrace]

[quote name='Nihil Obstat' timestamp='1302489091' post='2227371']
DEFINITELY not the possibly discerning guy. Don't get mixed up with guys who think they might be discerning, whether they 'officially' are or not.
Consider going without a date, maybe?
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well, normally i'd concur. however, i'd make it clear to him that we're going as friends, and that i asked him in the first place because i know of his possible discerning. i'm actually the only one who knows besides his youth minister. not to mention that he suggested i become a nun although that's most likely not my vocation. but that's a whole other thread lol.

[Amppax]

Take it from someone who is possibly discerning the priesthood, and who know's plenty of people doing the same, it's not like we lock ourselves in our rooms and don't talk to girls, I still go to dance's. In fact, one of my friends who is going to college seminary next year is going to prom. So that's my two cents. Plus, if you are just going as friends that's fine.

Edited April 11, 2011 by Amppax

[Luigi]

Either one will be fine.
1. Christian Tommy could learn (from you) that Catholics - including Catholic girls - don't have horns, tails, & pitchforks.
2. Possible Priest to Be Ben is only [i]possibly[/i] going to be a priest; even if he does become a priest, he should have some knowledge of how to behave, and some actual experience of having behaved, around females - even of the single variety. After all, half (or more?) of his future parishioners will be females - some who are of the single variety.

If I were you, I'd first ask the person I actually want to go with; if he turns you down, ask the other one.

[AudreyGrace]

another question, in regards to the ben guy. perhaps amppax can help me out with this one. what does "possibly//kind of//might be discerning priesthood" even mean??

[Amppax]

[quote name='AudreyGrace' timestamp='1302492578' post='2227392']
another question, in regards to the ben guy. perhaps amppax can help me out with this one. what does "possibly//kind of//might be discerning priesthood" even mean??
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It means that you are really not sure. I can't project my own thoughts and feelings onto this guy, but its probably a conflict with a lot of other thoughts, like thinking about marriage, other possible vocations, careers, college, etc. Also, in my own case, it means too much thinking, and not enough praying! Don't know if that helps. I know that at times, I have felt certain that I am being called to the priesthood, other times where I was just as certain that I was not. So it depends, its probably more of a personal thing then it is something that I can explain.

[AudreyGrace]

[quote name='Amppax' timestamp='1302492891' post='2227396']
It means that you are really not sure. I can't project my own thoughts and feelings onto this guy, but its probably a conflict with a lot of other thoughts, like thinking about marriage, other possible vocations, careers, college, etc. Also, in my own case, it means too much thinking, and not enough praying! Don't know if that helps. I know that at times, I have felt certain that I am being called to the priesthood, other times where I was just as certain that I was not. So it depends, its probably more of a personal thing then it is something that I can explain.
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ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. okay. well, that's good though. all Catholic young men should be "possibly discerning priesthood". in that case, i'm "possibly discerning religious life". Although i feel more drawn to another vocation, still gotta pray about it.
I know each person's case is different, but thanks for the clarification!

[Nihil Obstat]

IMO, if a guy mentions anything that indicates that he might possibly maybe potentially be discerning, he's not dating material under any circumstances until he decides 100% otherwise.

[AudreyGrace]

[quote name='Nihil Obstat' timestamp='1302494841' post='2227412']
IMO, if a guy mentions anything that indicates that he might possibly maybe potentially be discerning, he's not dating material under any circumstances until he decides 100% otherwise.
[/quote]

hmm. idk. isn't that like saying that any man discerning marriage should not be open to thinking about priesthood? all vocations should be held in the same high esteem, thought of, and prayed about before a decision is made. however, if a guy blatantly says he is discerning priesthood for a time, and has set apart that time specifically for discernment, that's another story. but someone who is thinking of fully discerning in the future should not be swayed either way. everyone should discern all vocations, unless they feel definitely drawn to one and only one. still, discernment is necessary.

Edited April 11, 2011 by AudreyGrace

[Nihil Obstat]

[quote name='AudreyGrace' timestamp='1302496314' post='2227423']
hmm. idk. isn't that like saying that any man discerning marriage should not be open to thinking about priesthood? all vocations should be held in the same high esteem, thought of, and prayed about before a decision is made. however, if a guy blatantly says he is discerning priesthood for a time, and has set apart that time specifically for discernment, that's another story. but someone who is thinking of fully discerning in the future should not be swayed either way. everyone should discern all vocations, unless they feel definitely drawn to one and only one. still, discernment is necessary.
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Discernment is necessary, but there's a time and a place to do so, and a dating situation is neither the time nor the place to discern the priesthood. If he's not sure, he should not date until he is. It's not fair to anybody.

[MargaretTeresa]

[quote name='Nihil Obstat' timestamp='1302496511' post='2227424']
Discernment is necessary, but there's a time and a place to do so, and a dating situation is neither the time nor the place to discern the priesthood. If he's not sure, he should not date until he is. It's not fair to anybody.
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aud, I don't see a problem asking Ben if you say just as friends. And, like someone else mentioned, there's always the flying solo option as well. There's no awkward dancing needed in this case, and you can just chill and take lots of pics with your friends.


I did that my senior year...It was ok, but most of the suckage of that prom was because the Juniors who planned it didn't plan very well. As in, a teacher with a couple big speakers and his Mac acting as DJ rather than hiring the one who had been the DJ for the past 10 years. So yeah. (And the only reason I went by myself-read, me and my two besties and their dates--5th wheel--- was because my bf decided to break up with me abt 2 and half weeks before prom. Yeah. What a jerkface.)